I told my wife that I had cheated on her and that my girlfriend is pregnant. My wife was mad and hurt when I told her. My girlfriend wants me to leave my wife and be with her. I love both women and I will definitely be there for both of my children. I want to be there for both women. You have no idea how much I love them.
2007-08-10 04:22:23 · 36 answers · asked by Handsome Stranger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I gotta say...that situation sucks all around...for everybody. Besides that, I don't know what to say. It's too late to undo the damage. I think this one is up to your wife more than anything. If she can forgive you and you two are able to work it out...great. But I think it would be best for you to seek some help. It isn't fair for either woman to have to go through this....especially your wife. No matter what the women choose to do...you will need to financially support both children. But in the end...the decision is not up to you anymore.
2007-08-10 04:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that's hilarious. Terrific stuff. Whenever I feel like complaining about my partner, I will think of you and know that I am a lucky lucky woman. Mind you, it's not all YOUR fault, because your girlfriend might have known you were married and she got pregnant anyway, so she can't be that bright. It's one thing to date a married guy, but another one entirely to get knocked up by one. She should have never gotten involved with you and definitely taken steps to protect herself from an unwanted pregnancy, unless she was hoping to trap you so you would leave the wife. Looks like it backfired.
You need to make a decision, with which woman will you stay as a full time partner. Unless you are a practising polygamist in Utah, You can't marry both ladies and raise the kids in a mutual household, (But that does work for some people, and you are in trouble any way, why don't you speak with the wife & girlfriend and suggest plural marriage???)
In any case, you will probably and up supporting both kids financially. So make sure you take care of your health.
Good luck you hell raiser. Man. How do you get yourself in such trouble?
2007-08-10 04:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from pointing out the obvious ( what were you thinking??), I would suggest you sit down with a very good counselor and have them work with you to come up with a plan to get all five of you through this in as healthy a way as possible. There is a reason you cheated on your wife. There is a reason you were willing to put yourself in the position of getting two women pregnant. You need to figure out what that is so it doesnt ever happen again.
Then sit down with a lawyer and come up with a plan for supporting both kids.
While you say that you love both women, I am fairly sure that they are not going to feel the same way about you.
Good luck to all of you.
2007-08-10 04:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by nac'smom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a real problem, but right now what is more important are the kids. Right now who you love doesn't really matter. If you loved your wife, than you wouldn't be in this situation. You need to move out and get ur own place and get you life together, and realize what is important right now. THE BABIES. You can be there for both women by being there for the babies, you can't have a relationship with either women
2007-08-10 05:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by Hello Tomorrow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you have a wife then you dont get a girlfriend you have hurt ywo woman and you are bring two children into your mess. I really do not feel for your friend i feel for your wife because you can not love two women at the same time.your life is about to be turned up side down because you can not be there for two women someone is going to lose good luck to you
2007-08-10 04:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Gifty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you'll get bored with both of them and add another to the mix? I really think you should seek counseling- something is not right that you would want to cause misery to those around you. Think you don’t need help? Here’s an eye-opener: The kids are going to have knowledge of the other. How are they going to explain the other? The kids will be drawing some interesting family portraits.
2007-08-10 04:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by RSJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both women want to be your one and only. So that means you HAVE to let one go or you wont be ale to make it work with either.
Considering you already have a life-time commitment to your wife, you should consider leaving the girlfriend.
2007-08-10 04:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by lovespring 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men like you are the reason why women think all men are liars, cheaters and idiots. And that is not fair for the decent guys out there.
You will pay dearly for the pain you are causing others. What you do in this life, you pay double...
Your bill will be a high one.
If you have half a brain you will learn from this fiasco.
2007-08-10 04:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to live alone! Get a divorce! and be there for both of them then. With no lieing involved just openness and a loving heart, you did this to yourself so make it right for both women. You have no right putting either women through what you are and you have no idea what you are doing to them mentally or physically or to your unborn child! If you love them you will not commite to either one this is impossable anyway in your situation do you really think they are going to agree to all move intoegther and be one big happy family!!!! Grow up dude! Just make things right by getting a divorce, living alone and being there for both of them when they wnat you to be... Set things right for once... Besides it'll open up the door for more women for you to love to enter your life b/c one just isn't enough for yo is it? It's o.k just do the right thing for them both o.k. please!!!
2007-08-10 04:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your wife so much you would have never cheated on her and it sounds like both women deserve better...I hope this isn't the example you plan on setting for your children
2007-08-10 04:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋