birthday (he is going with buddies). And on our anniversary he has a high school reunion that I am not very interseted in attending. We did not attend high school together and he is already very close with many friends from high school which we see on a regular basis. I can't help but feel a little selfish about wanting his attention on theses two important dates but I also want to be supportive and let him do these things with his friends, I just wish they didnt fall on days that I feel were meant for us to be together. How should I handle these situation that could cause a blow out in our house?
2007-08-10 03:29:17 · 27 answers · asked by imjustguessing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Celebrate the day before or the day after. I wouldn't make that big of a deal. It's not his fault the game is on your birthday and he didn't plan the reunion either. You need to pick your battles and this one isn't even worth being mad about.
2007-08-10 03:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The NFL game I would let go, it's not very easy to get those tickets and it's not like you can't celebrate your birthday earlier that day or even the night before or after. The anniversary is a tough one. High School reunions only come once every 10 years, but he is close with his friends and see them often. I would ask him to chose. Tell him while you love that he has a life outside of you and is close with his buddies, that these two holidays are meant for you to spend together and you are willing to forego one. You have to decide which one is most important to you and don't get upset if he chooses the opposite. You are right in this could cause a huge blow out, I know I wouldn't like either scenario myself. So pick your battles, talk to him about it and hopefully he'll choose the option that will make you both happy. Good luck.
2007-08-10 04:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as I see it you really have a couple of issues...
#1. It's obviously not about being together because you refuse to attend the reunion and you already know people there so thats not the problem.
#2 He should have realized it was your birthday and checked with you first so now your feeling are hurt assuming he is choosing spending time with his buddies as opposed to you
#3 Don't you think you are being a tad selfish?
Solution. Let him go to the game and go with him to the reunion, spend the night in a hotel and spend the whole next day together for your anniversary...
Solution for Bday... Does it really make a difference what day you celebrate it on? Yes, it will be a bit sad and lonely but you will survive. but I do think he needs to make up and kiss some serious butt for that one
2007-08-10 03:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been married for 10 years, you're old enough to not care too much about when your birthday is celebrated. I'm 26 and I forgot my own birthday the last two years (well, last year I remembered because I got the day off work). And he didn't decide when his high school reunion would be, celebrate your anniversary another night.
2007-08-10 04:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know that you expect some special time with him before or after the NFL game and I would think ya'll could spend an hour or two together at his reunion and then go do your own anniversary thing.
2007-08-10 03:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Le BigMac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A day is just a day. Just because you don't celebrate a birthday or anniversary on the exact day doesn't make it any less special. Plan around his tickets and the reunion and you'll be celebrating the true meaning of marriage.....compromise.
2007-08-10 03:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a compromise in there somewhere. I say, the birthday is one thing, but your 10th wedding anniversary that's totally different. That is something the two of you should celebrate together in a romantic way. Forget the high school reunion.
2007-08-10 03:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by tigrompy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can be upset. You could tell him you are feeling left out because of this, but that you understand that the game and the reunion are important to him and you just wish they didn't fall on two very important dates for you and him.
2007-08-10 03:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work out a compromise. Ask him to pick one- either the anniversary and skip the reunion or to spend your birthday with you and skip the game. I would be upset if he decided to go to both but, sometimes you have to make compromises and work together.
2007-08-10 03:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel,
If he is going and you are not happy about it then why don't you plan on going on a spending spree with some friends or family members. My wife and her sisters plan such a time every now and then and have a BLAST! The last time, I stayed at the house alone and they were very late getting back, I helped unpack the automobile upon their return because they were all worn out. Have a great weekend. Make your plans now!
Thanks,
Eds
PS... We have been VERY HAPPILY Married for 32 years and we are both Christians.
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2007-08-10 03:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Eds 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋