i have noticed my husband doesnt give me any attention with my second pregnancy, he goes to the midwife with me but around the house he doesnt show any affection, i have confronted him but still no improvement, what can i do to get his attention.?
2007-08-10 03:20:14 · 21 answers · asked by abi darling 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You could be feeling none too special and need more TLC but your hubby doesn't understand what you're going through and what you need maybe? You probably are expecting more of him because you feel fragile also. Always the best way to deal with it is to make time for a proper conversation..ask him if you have done anything to upset him and explain that you really need some resurrance and how you're feeling isolated..if he's not a jerk he should listen
2007-08-10 03:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Brooke79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the exact same way.. My husband gives me attention after I have the baby because I am back to my normal size and he does not want me to cheat on him. I tell him that I need the attention while I am pregnant, like getting my back rubbed, feet rubbed, a massage and just affection in general. He does not listen.. I am 4 months pregnant and I will never ever have another child with him because of the lack of attention that he gives me. Good Luck to you and try talking to him and if he does not listen then you going to have to get use to him not being the affectionate type during pregnancy.
2007-08-10 03:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be feeling a little left out. He goes to the midwife with you (that shows interest), use times like that to get closer to your husband, do things together and enjoy your time together. Try to include him as much as you can when the baby comes along. Show him some attention and affection and it may just be reciprocated.
2007-08-10 03:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give us many clues but I'll float out a few thoughts.
Item one: Is he getting any attention or is this only about what you want when you want it.
Item 2: Men have a hidden fear (yes it is our job to hide our feelings) and it basiclly is the more mouths we have to feed the more responsibility we have. So as often goes when the pregnate woman s getting all the attention from all the friends and family the supportive husband is often in the background being crushed by his billpayer feed the family responsibility.
2007-08-10 03:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say you are hormonal at all! I would say your husband is acting like a child that is not getting enough attention and a spoiled a**! How can a GOOD parent get mad about the other paying their child attention and teaching them basic things like picking up after themselves?! Personally, I would tell him he needs to get his priorities in order or your taking the kids and leaving or tell him to leave. You dont need this - you and your children deserve better!!!!!!
2016-04-01 09:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not discounting the idea of "hormonal interference" with your view of what's going on. Yes, you're a pregnant woman and not a radio or TV set, but women catch hell during pregnancy---not to mention the birth moment itself.
A friend of mine had confided to me he had a "dry spell" of things during his wife's second pregnancy. Until he came home one evening, discovering his kids were staying at his parents' house---and the pregnant wife greeted him wearing something sexy made for pregnant women!! And it began to work!!
Yes, a blissful discovery was made: pregnant women CAN be just as sexy,erotic....and hot in bed (a-hemmmm **blushing**) as childless women.
2007-08-10 03:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is most likely feeling tied down. when I was pregnant with my 4th baby my husband showed little to no attention didn't attend doctor visits or any thing, he blamed it on mid-life crisis. I was the pregnant one and he gets to have his crisis.
We are seperated have been since she was 4 months she is now 5 almost. it happens. he was used to seeing you as a sexy woman now you have become just mom material to him.
2007-08-10 03:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit him down and ask him, he might just be worried about providing for another baby, its a huge responsibility. Maybe he has just got out of the habit of being affectionate. Have you tried asking him for a cuddle, or just going to him and holding him?
I would guess he is just worried, but the best advice I can give is to ask him what is on his mind.
2007-08-10 03:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Denise H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok calm down, don't worry too much.. you know your just insecure and wants to be the apple your husband eyes. be cool there and take care more of yourself, being so emotional is normal in pregnant women, so better about your incoming baby. focus your attention to your child. your husband loves you, its just your pregnant and your paranoid in thinking things. good luck
2007-08-10 03:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by pink_blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him.... Don't be pointing a finger, just tell him how you feel and that it seems like it came up when you got pregnant, and ask him for what you want... time, affection, loving.... he will probably understand and get back on the stick... guy need to be told, trust me I needed to be told...
2007-08-10 03:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by BryTheFishGuy.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋