How would you feel if someone you are currently dating had a large tattoo of his children's name and another

Question

of his ex wife's name on his arm?

Heres the thing, my husband and I are going througha divorce and I just wanted to see what people thought of him having my name and our kids names on his are, how would you feel if you were his girlfriend and he still comes around me to talk and be intimate?

The tattoo goes like this:
JESSICA
(then there is a big cross)
And in a scroll beneath the cross is
Andrei
Alana
Ariana

Answer 1

No biggie. Its a pic of his child and the name of his childs mother. You can't fight with either one of those. He will not remove them, so if you feel that offended by them let him go. He's not going to let his child go for you or no one else...

Answer 2

Well I have to say thats the exact reason why Id never put a persons name on my body, my kids oh yea but a girl/boyfriend no way! But it is there to stay so what can you do? You shouldnt have anything to say about the childs name that just shows hes proud of his kid. Which is a good thing incase you would ever want to have kids, you know he wont run and hide. Now about the ex no one would ever know its his ex it could be another child for all they know but if it bothers you that much ask him to cover it with clothing when your out together, but if you ask me thats very superficial and insecure he wasnt your first boyfriend right you both have had relationships before let it go! And a peice of advice guys dont like it when you act jealous of theyre children so be as accomodating as possible when it comes to kids. Its hard sometimes but its well worth it!! And remember he will always love that child more than you so tread softly!! Good Luck!!

Answer 3

There is nothing you can do right now but, if you get together for the long run they can tattoo something else over it and, you won't even know the name is under it. A friend of mine had a similar situation and this is what he did. Ignore it for the time being because you can always take care of it later.

Answer 4

Child's name and Ex wife's name... you are only the girlfriend here. If you have a problem with it, then move on. It doesn't take a genius to figure out if you have a problem like that when you are only dating him that a long term relationship wont get to far.

Answer 5

it is only a tattoo...it does not mean he is harboring some deep seated desire to return to his ex. And he got that tat before you were in the picture. Not like he just went out and got it yesterday as a way of professing his undying love. It is a part of who he is and was. Let it go. You are his present. Take some comfort in that.

Answer 6

The wife's name is a little much.. i would not date him until he got it covered or removed. It shows the wound of divorce is still fresh and maybe there is a reason he hasnt gotten it covered yet.

The kids names are fine. I actually think its kind of sexy.

Answer 7

That's kinda the problem with tattoos - they're permanent. The kids names wouldn't bother me. The ex, that's different. If you know that he's over her then don't worry about it. You can always suggest that he gets a new tattoo over it, offer to pay for it.

Answer 8

You can't judge a man from his prior relationships. The man will never stop loving his family so let the tatoos go unless he communicates with his ex more than usual. Then you know something is up. All a tatoo is, is a tick mark for that point in time. It just lets you know he wasn't born yesterday.

Answer 9

Tattoos traditionally are a time line of your life events. really the issue is whether he loves you and no longer has feelings for his ex wife.......the tattoos are irrelevant as they merely display a place he was, a feeling he felt, a person or people he loved....all past tense with the exception of his kids

Answer 10

the kid doesnt matter, but i can see what u mean i would feel weird walking around with a guy who has some other chicks name on his arm. Nothing you can really do about it though, i would feel funny but it was prolly just some stupid mistake made by him when he thought they would be together forever. Tell him how you feel.

Answer 11

Tattoos are a permanent "snapshot" of some event(s) in a person's life, documented in "skin ink". It's the past, and they've reconciled themselves to that train of thought; maybe you should do the same.