I have been with someone for 11 years. He didn't pay any attention to me and I asked him to do things for me because I was lonely. He disregraded all of this and in the process I found someone that is the totally opposite of him and treats me like a queen. I broke it off with the one I was with for 11 years. He is now telling me he can give me all the things I want and is willing to change not for me but for us and he understands now what he has done to me. He asked why he can't have this chance to change and prove to me that this can work. He says that everyone deserves a second chance. I want to give him this chance but am afraid he will resent me down the line or he will go back to the same way he was and I will be unhappy again and may have missed out on the other one that treats me the way someone should be treated. Please give honest advice and only serious answers PLEASE!!!!!!!
2007-08-10 02:44:37 · 11 answers · asked by enigma2824 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From my own experience if he is a certainw ay and has been that way for 11 years its not going to change overnight so if you don't have the heart to invest time into waiting for things to get better" then walk away and begin a new life.
2007-08-10 02:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the bird in the hand; ignore the promises in the bush. He had his 11 year chance and blew it.
Now give yourself a chance and stay with the man you know will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.
2007-08-10 02:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to your religious adviser right away. It isn't right of you to condemn your fiance to a loveless marriage. He should have the right to be loved completely by the woman he is committing his life to. You do not love him. The embarrassment of canceling your wedding is a very small price to pay, and it happens. Do the right thing if you really care for your fiance as a person, anything else would be an extreme selfishness. However, I would strongly suggest that you pay attention to your own words "Even his negative qualities are not negative to me." This speaks of rationalization and delusion, not love. Consider this is a man who knows you are committed to someone else, but yet has not acted in an honorable way. Why do you think that is all you are worth?
2016-05-18 22:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by rosalind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you broke up and out of it stay that way.I would have said give him a chance if you're still to gather but since you broke up don't go back.You gave him an 11 years chance,move on and carry on with your new life.
Good luck.
2007-08-10 02:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by noona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old story. Stay with the one you now have. The other guy sees you are happy now and he is not and so he wants to mess it up for you. He WILL go back to being his old self, you said he was that way for 11 years. Better just stay with the one you have now, and if I were you, I wouldn't even be talking to the other guy.
2007-08-10 02:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it took a 11years to wake who is the dumbie? were u guys honest with each other when communicating,or did u guys just pass threw that and roll it under the carpet did u cheat on him with this new stud? and r u sure u r ready to have another relationship have u recovered from the last one and Abel to move on don't let ur last honey effect ur new one is there children involved if not and u do not want to go down this road hang up the phone
2007-08-10 03:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Frank d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just playing around with your mind. Besides what makes you so sure that he will change? Its best that you stay with the one who cherishes you other than making a wrong decision and later regretting.
2007-08-10 02:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Ajay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing. If you truly want to break it off with someone, it's not difficult.
Stop taking their calls. Stop contact with them.
It sounds to me, from reading your additional info, that the real issue is that you're not sure you want to break it off.
On that issue, I cannot help you. But if you decide to break it off, he does not have the power to prevent you from doing that.
2007-08-10 02:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly he probably wont change, if you give him a second chance he might be good for awhile, but he will go back to his old ways. more then likely
2007-08-10 02:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation so I'd like to know too.
2007-08-10 02:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋