why do i feel this way after sex..?

Question

after we have sex i feel used and alone and empty.
i hate sex.
what is going on??

Answer 1

Wow , i am sorry that you feel that way,, its not cool to feel used after you make love so someone you love, and if your do honey, it sounds like maybe your are,,,

sit back and take a good look at whats going on and make sure that all this is not a one sided thing, its not good for you to feel this way, and if you are not happy, then you need to be,

i wish you the very best and hope it all works out for you take care :)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Answer 2

Ask yourself this. Are you having sex for him, or for you? Do you feel like the only reason you have sex with him is because he wants it, or it's because you want to. Sex is meant to be between two people who care for each other. If you feel this way after having sex with him, you need to look at other 'departments' of the relationship. Do you have sex hoping it will bring you closer to him or that you will feel more loved? Think about the reasoning behind it. How long have you been with him? How long has sex been a part of your relationship? These are all things to consider. If you aren't happy in the relationship, but want to save it, then talk to your partner about it. Tell him how you feel. And if he's a good man, he'll listen to you. If he blows you off and makes you feel like it's your fault or something is wrong with you, then I think it's time to move on.

Answer 3

Sex is a way to get as close as possible to your partner, and in many cases you will actually feel what they are feeling towards you. Without knowing more about your situation, it's a bit of a guess for all of us that answer, but I'd have to say that your boyfriend is either gay, cheating, or not very fond of you anymore. Sorry, but unless you offer up some more details, that's the best I can do.

Answer 4

Well. Did something happen to you in your past? As a child or something? If so, this is probably why. You should go to therapy...they can help you.

If not, you probably don't want to have sex as bad as he does. Or he isn't getting you off. Which is something that he needs to do first.

Or it could be your partner....if he is making you feel this way then why are you having sex with him? Explain to him that you aren't ready for sex...and take a step back.

And if it isn't him...you need to become more comfortable with your body and your ability to be able to say that sex is OK...and it feels great....let yourself enjoy it. Don't be self conscious or worry about what other people are going to think or say about you if they find out that you have had sex. Maybe you aren't self exploring enough...masturbation really helps out with things like this. Find out what turns you on. Adamandeve.com sell vibrators. They are cheap and come in private packaging so nobody knows what the hell you bought. Sex isn't meant to be negative and it isn't supposed to make you feel like that. It's a normal thing that was created so you could feel pleasure and positive things about your body.


Good luck! I hope I helped somewhat!

Answer 5

Well, the question now is, how long have you been in the relationship your in, or are you just a booty call. Because you need to find a way to enjoy sex, and not feel that way afterwards. Another thing to think about is, do y'all do the cuddle thing afterwards, or does either of you just basically roll off the bed and go clean up.... perhaps you should discuss this with your bf.

Answer 6

Sweetheart, you need to stop and wait until you are so in love you cant stand it. You are probably having sex for all the wrong reasons. And deep down you know it.
Girls are emotional when we have sex, and guys are NOT! He is probably not responding the way someone totally in love with you would.
You need to take a step back and really SEE who this guys is, and does he love you? Think about it.

Answer 7

Have you always hated sex or just with this partner? If it's just this particular guy, he may not be doing what you need to stimulate you and make it agreeable and fun for you. If it's every guy, there may be an underlying issue that is causing you to experience this feeling. You may need to see a docter or a therapist. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

Did you ever think that you just aren't in love with the person you are sleeping with?

Nothing wrong with that, but if you are the type who needs that particular feeling, then get out of bed until you DO fall in love.... and only then should you fall back into bed.

Don't put the cart before the horse.

Answer 9

Is this with a different partner frequently? That might be the problem. Go on a sex fast, get your head together.

Answer 10

I feel that way sometimes when my husband bugs me to have sex and I don't feel like it. When I give in, afterwards I start crying. Women are more emotional than men and sometimes our guys don't realize just how much. I would talk to your man and let him know how you feel. Maybe he can think of something that might make you feel better.