what is the best way to tell an ex gf of mine to stop with the contacting without ruining any chances of getting back together in the future
here the situation, i broke up wit her a month ago, we both have new people in our lives but she keeps on contacting me the other night i ask her to hang out she told me she cant cuz she seeing someone OK cool, i dont want any trouble with the new dude and if she happy allow her to move on cuz the more we are in contact the feeling will still be there and probably the games will begin and i dont want that
so she text me that she is the shi t and i text her back "stop wit the nonsense" she text me "what" i didnt respond and she call i didnt see the miss call then she call me the following day i didnt pick and she email me regarding the comment
what is the best way to let her know we still have feeling for each other and its not fair for the new people
how to let her go gently
2007-08-10 02:15:50 · 11 answers · asked by Steven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
JSUt tell her. Say lets explore the new people in our life and quit contacting eachother. If things do not work out then call me. You have to just be blunt about what you want.
2007-08-10 02:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you're playing games right now, and you are on here asking for advice on how to do it.
How darn foolish are you? Here's how it works: you two don't ever get back together. Never. One chance per person per lifetime. You don't break up with somebody without KNOWING it's final and irrevokable. Period.
The only time you give second chances is when it's just an argument. This wasn't an argument. This was throwing in the towel on the relationship. It's over, so let it die.
Grow up.
2007-08-10 02:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop all contact. Stop all games. You both need to just leave each other alone. Do as you have been doing don't respond to her. She will get the hint. The other way is to be honest with her tell her you can't be friends right now and it is a good idea not to have contact.
2007-08-10 02:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steven: I just looked at your previous questions. Please don't be offended, but I think you are completely obsessed with this woman. I didn't see one question about your new girlfriend. What is really going on? My opinion is that you want the old girlfriend back, know you are going to be in for a world of headgames if you do go back to her. You seem not to be too into the new person, really into the old one and therefore there is not enough room for anyone else but her. If you were with me, I would be VERY upset with you if I happened upon your questions log.....you aren't being fair to the new one, the old one still has your mind.....seems like 100%.
2007-08-10 02:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want her to stop contacting you, stop rewarding her for contacting you. Behaviors diminish when not rewarded -- Behavioral Psychology 101. Responding to her = rewarding the behavior. When she texted you, you should not have texted her back at all. Respond only when you feel like responding -- there is no law that says you have to answer a text message!
PS -- This question does not belong in Marriage & Divorce. Try Singles & Dating.
2007-08-10 02:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already used all the right words telling us. Tell you want to move on just like she does, but you understand that both of you still have a connection. So let's stay in touch, but not too often, maybe once a month.
2007-08-10 02:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly how old are you guys, You have basically asked the same question like 6 or 7 times. You said you broke up with her because she was childish and likes to play games ( one of your previous questions), Yet you continue to play games with her. It is simple, either you break all ties with her and move on or you don't.
2007-08-10 03:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by LaTrice B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that ought to be an extremely risky ordeal. locate out if he feels the comparable way which you're feeling approximately him. no longer something is worse than rejection so save youself && locate out first. you should consult together with his acquaintances or have your friends ask for you. in case you hit upon out that he does such as then you you definately ought to in all probability start up flirting somewhat extra... being somewhat extra delicate feeling (no longer something sexual) yet like extra hugs and probably kisses ont he cheek. till of course he's no longer into that sorta stuff. you additionally can try chatting with him. looking out how he feels approximately it.
2016-10-09 22:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what you want???
Looks to me like you want to keep fishing while keeping her on the stringer in case something better doesn't come along. If you are done with each other.... then be done with it. It's not fair to her to keep stringing her along.
If she is bothering you.... then ignore... delete... move on.
If you still want to be with her... then what are you doing with someone else????
Poop or get off the pot!
2007-08-10 02:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by lonnyl_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she wants to be in big girl relationships, she needs to act like a big girl... and just grow up.
Ignore her and move on.
2007-08-10 02:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Joe G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋