... we are human beings after all... and we cannot control our feelings... just because we are married it doesn't mean that we cannot fall in love, right? And why in the world would things change if the woman you loved would love you too, but only if you were single?!?
2007-08-10 01:20:52 · 31 answers · asked by Pinturicchio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Huh? You are married and falling in love with other people, and you don't see a problem with this? You are supposed to be in love with your wife,and no one else (remember the part of your vows that says forsaking all others? forsaking -To desert; to abandon.Thesaurus: abandon, reject, forswear, cast off, renounce, turn one's back on). If you are falling in love with other women, then you don't really love your wife.
2007-08-10 01:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is true that we can't help who we fall in love with or when. What we can control is how we handle thaose feelings. Do you go about things in an appropriate way, or not. If you are married, and you have an inappropriate relationship outside of that marriage, then you are cheating. Now I am not being judgemental, just stating the facts. From "the other woman's" perspective, I think that there is a huge trust issue. It is hard to "go for" someone when you can't completely trust them. If you would cheat on your wife to be with the other woman, then no doubt it is in the back of the woman's mind that you are capable of doing the same thing to her down the road when you see greener grass on the other side of the fence.
2007-08-17 15:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I skipped answering your other questions, but I'll take a shot at this one. not every woman in the world is against a married man, and I can give you many reasons. some single women only date married men because 1) they don't want commitment 2) they like the idea of having something they're not supposed to, and 3) it proves they "still have it". yes, we are all human beings, and we can't control our feelings. but when you are married, you should not put yourself in the position of allowing yourself to fall in love with someone other than your spouse. things would change because then you were legally fair game, and she could have what she wanted with you, a life, a home, a family, instead of knowing that at the end of the romp you would be heading home to your wife.
I, for one, cannot stand a cheater. I cannot stand for someone to look their wife (or husband) in the face and tell them "I love you" but then go cavorting with another woman. this is morally wrong. I believe that if you are not happy with the relationship you are in, if there is no way to fix it, if there is no option than to end the marriage, then you do that BEFORE you look for someone else. I've seen lives ruined because one spouse thought everything was fine in the marriage, but the other decided to look for gratification elsewhere. and sex isn't always the worst of it, because it hurts to know that your spouse is turning to someone else emotionally, confiding things that should be confided to you. make your own choices, but these are the reasons women don't like men who do this.
2007-08-17 15:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about..? Do you mean you are married and interested in others outside of your marriage?
This sounds like a feeble excuse to get married men to agree with you..... if you want to fall in love with someone other than your wife - then why get married in the first place?
Of course it is easy to get in a rut and look for a bit of excitement outside a stable relationship - but do the wife a favour and give her the option of getting rid of you before you decide to take it further. After all married women do get the same feelings too - we're just better at dealing with it!!
2007-08-17 11:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by dawnnkev t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about people being against a woman dating a married man? I do agree with you that you cannot control who you fall in love with but if you are already married than you have commited and swore to love only that person so you should never put yourself in a position to fall in love with someone else in the first place. Despite what people say you cannot fall in love with another person outside of your marriage by "accident" , people create the opportunity to let it happen
2007-08-10 01:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is simple my dear, When you are married- you are for that person alone- no one else, if you are being the husband you should, you will be focused on your wife- not yourself and your "feelings" your wife comes first. You didnt focus on your wife, you focused on another woman- the time you should have put into the woman you swore to spend the rest of you life with. And that is why- You will be no better a man to the new woman thant you were to your wife. You cant expect respect form a woman knowing you filed in the most inportant aspect of your life, sipmly becasue your not trying to fix what you have you are out there tring to find something new instead of working with the one you have. Your a cheater, your cheating on your wife if you are thinking of lookign else where- once a cheater always a cheater. First look to be free- then look to be in a relationship- not look for the relationship so you can then try to be free.
2007-08-13 09:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are weak human beings,
that is the problem, falling in love is the reason you got married, [unless it was arranged for you] cuz the same way you broke your first commitment how is to say you might fall in love again,
no one knows how much time you men can fall in love.
men like you should stay single and just keep on playing the game
sooner or later the game will end up playing you
2007-08-17 14:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by karibbean beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world. If your married and in love with someone else get out of that situation first, you don't have the right to worry about feeling at this time.
2007-08-16 19:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if you are married, you shouldnt be out looking for it, however, sometimes it happens, I understand that. And I really don't think that people on here hold it against married men more than they do married women...if you are married and falling for someone else, having an affair or just looking for either of these things, most people on here think it is wrong, OK most people everywhere think it is wrong.
2007-08-10 02:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Bite me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are against married men because, um, married men are... MARRIED!
If a woman wants to get married and have a family of her own, she's wasting her time by dating someone who is already married with a family.
It's not rocket-science, dude. Simply put, a married man can't give a single woman what she wants. Why should she give anything to him?
2007-08-10 01:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by Christie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋