Can you 'own' someone?

Question

The real question I ask is: What is the pschological term, condition, that refers to when someone says "But you don't know how much I love you!" when you don't give them something they want from you?

Because they did'nt get a certain desired response/action from you. If you are in a relationship, engaged, and you spend a lot of time together, but then you want some time to yourself to occupy your hobby, read, think and pray, and/or etc., but they rebel and pout, and then say that you don't know how much they love you as they waited all day to see you, (no exact plans made), (you did'nt say you would), and because you won't offer your cam or view theirs because you are concentrating on something that it would interfere with. Let's say you are a writer. And can't write when always distracted, your time demanded, every day. But they love you so much, that you should.... ? Should what? Let them possess you? Attempt to own you? "Individual" and "freewill" no longer have meaning?

Answer 1

This person is trying to control you with emotional black-male to mask their codependency.
Both are bad. You must, if you wish to stay with this person wean them off of your time.
Its just like a child, at some point every parent must deal with their child's separation anxiety. You take a small trip w/o them and come back later, working your way up to larger trips, and the child comes to know that the parent will always return.
Try it, you must wean this person.

Answer 2

Think about it this way: A mom spends the whole day with her baby, the second she goes away the baby starts crying. What i'm trying to say is that you and your partner may be spending too much time together, which is cool, but perhaps that's the problem. Your partner may be feeling so attached to you that every sec you dont spend with her or dedicated to her, she feels neglected, or may even be afraid that your not going to treat him/ her the same ever again. It's kind of a fear of loss feeling.
I think the best thing for you to do is not to discontinue spending time with your partner, but gradually (just like a mom does to the baby) show her that you can't be with her 24/7 or spend 24/7 attention on him/ her. Also try to help him/ her find a intrest to which he/ she can also spend time alone doing. Like reading a book, make puzzle, bake something nice for the both of you.
The bottom line is that he/ she is not trying to possess you, with a little help form you, i'm sure he/ she will understand.

Answer 3

yes as a matter of fact you can! women do it to men every day ! ! ! ! we call it mental warfare!
i see some one that is really stuck on you !!! and a bit of a self centered person! and my suggestion is find a way to talk about it and then discover some common ground or say good by!
we ll have to have our own space , (dont laff, mine is in the can! where im king ) you need to say how you feel and that you being crowed a bit much .
the other person may also be feeling a bit jelouse also when you arent around ......common condition of a controlling type.
which we all suffer from time to time .
given the time and effort you can work this out and overcome the problem ...good luck!

Answer 4

that is like someone being nice to you because they want something from you. Or, wanting your attention and you don't have it to give at the moment so they pout. To me it is immaturity at its finest....a control issue as well. or boredom, and needing some sort of fulfillment for themselves by demanding your time, your "self".....just because your with someone doesn't mean you have to be with them every waking hour, or give them attention every second of the day...my god that is Suffocating!!! Needy people, and they can't help the way they are, but they sure can be taught to "ease up" or your gonna suffocate me to death!
I used to "paint and craft" a lot, my husband used to get annoyed because of the amount of time I spent. But when your creative spark comes you either perfect it, or it peter's out and dies. Now, he says, "man the things you could sell on ebay", well, yeah guess I could have, had I not lost that spark of real talent when I had it, but you suffocated me, and I just don't have it anymore........I have to "work", so I don't have the time or real desire to anymore.....that is what happens when someone demands from you when they shouldn't have.....
PS it don't happen no more honey, let me tell you....I do what I want when I want, and your feeling left out, oh well......get a hobby!!! I am not your hobby!!!! (28yrs together.....get a friggen hobby!!!) I AM my own person, first-now!!!!

Answer 5

Sounds like your partner is very insecure, and needs some friends... she is coming off as being emotionally abusive ( to a mild degree, mind you )... and probably doesn't know it's hurting your relationship. If she's the type that needs to be with you 24/7 and you aren't that type, then time to figure it out now....

Answer 6

The 'condition' is referred to as 'needy.' However, if you don't have the time for a relationship, why are you in one? Is this person supposed to be your 'muse' or are they just annoying you? You sound too angry, too selfish, too distracted, and too negative for anyone except someone with extremely low expectations. Maybe this just isn't the time.

Answer 7

In the field of therapy there is a term widely used which states, "anything after BUT is bullshit," It usualy means the person is not listening or hearing you and your boundaries or needs. They are generally only interested in what they want, regardless of the consequences.

Answer 8

There are control issues,passive/aggressive,needy. Everyone needs their own space. To be able to do things that you enjoy. People shoudn't feel " owned ". This is a smothering relationship, at least, that is how it would make me feel. How about counseling ?? I hope this helps and Good Luck.

Answer 9

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all this mambo jumbo for nothing you can never own someone not in the literal way never, the closest you can get is closeness and a good relationship bet a human being and another otherwise you can never own noone unless you've chained them for eternity !!!!!!

Answer 10

if you feel like your being controlled in your relationship, you need to talk to your partner about it...it may be that they have a controlling nature, and if that doesnt 'jive' with who you are, you may just not be compatible together. no body owns any one. not even when people get married do they 'own' one another.