do you prefer to keep them separated?
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2007-08-10 00:04:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
auntb93 - Thank you for understanding :)
2007-08-10 01:49:21 · update #1
Hi Moon,
My life is my family and their happiness and welfare is very important to me. I do all I can to encourage my kids and their partners to care for one another and we keep in touch regularly. It is important for them to know how much they are loved. I know this because I did not have this closeness with my own parents.
Sometimes however what we want and strive so hard for doesn't always happen. We've recently been shocked by the antics of my son's partner and it makes me wonder whether she ever loved him at all or was she just using him. He's away now and I don't even know whether he's aware of all that's going on because we can't get in touch with him. And what she seems to hate most of all is how close we all are (even when apart) and even though she was welcomed into our family I realise now she had a hidden (rather greedy) agenda all along and she has duped us all.
Still I shall stop ranting on. Somehow we will get through this as there is a strong bond between those of us who matter and my answer is still: yes I think this is important.
Thank you for the question: it helped me get something off my chest!
Polly
2007-08-10 02:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. The family is considered to encourage "intimacy, love and trust where individuals may escape the competition of dehumanising forces in modern society”, and providing love and protection from the rough and tumble industrialised world, and as a place where warmth, tenderness and understanding can be expected from a loving mother, and protection from the world can be expected from the father. However, the idea of protection is declining as civil society faces less internal conflict combined with increased civil rights and protection from the state. To many, the ideal of personal or family fulfilment has replaced protection as the major role of the family. The family now supplies what is “vitally needed but missing from other social arrangements”.
Social conservatives often express concern over a purported decay of the family and see this as a sign of the crumbling of contemporary society. They feel that the family structures of the past were superior to those today and believe that families were more stable and happier at a time when they did not have to contend with problems such as illegitimate children and divorce. Others refute this theory, claiming “there is no golden age of the family gleaming at us in the far back historical past”.
2007-08-10 07:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Larry L - Hi Everyone :D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Basically, I don't have a family, (biologically), except for my fraternal twin & one older sister who heaven knows where/how/who she is--her choice. I have friends who have family; of course I'd prefer they care about each other, but often they do not. Too busy, indifferent, whatever. I'd also prefer that my friends keep in touch & care about each other. I long ago learned not to interfere, (as was my tendency). I certainly wouldn't want to keep them separated! But it happens, & I back off. It's between THEM. Also discovered that in a well entended attempt to "mediate" some friends can be lost. Wait a minute. It that's true, they weren't friends at the start! True?
2007-08-10 15:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It very much important for everyone to know their family and care for them then same thing with your friends. Unless you cannot share all of these, there will be no reciprocity of love, care and understanding from the recipient. This must not only be nurtured but must be used as a guiding principles in life. The truest meaning of life is when you value your own life and the life of others. There is nothing better in this world but to use them as a foundation in life.
2007-08-10 00:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Third P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather they all like each other, because then I could have a party where I invite everyone I like, and they would not stay away out of hostility to someone else I like. But right now I'm new in town and don't have many friends. In fact, once B&V move back to southern Illinois, I will have no one living within a couple hours drive that is my friend.
2007-08-10 01:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by auntb93 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I discuss this a lot. Our family doesn't get along at all and we can never plan anything that involves everyone.
When we try to plan something, at least one person says he won't show because of another person. It's really sad.
As for friends, that's not a problem. They all get along better than the family ever will.
It's important to me, but I can't change how everyone behaves.
2007-08-10 02:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Breezey is saying HAPPY BIRTHDAY 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's important to me that my family care about each other - including those I "adopt" as family. How my friends feel about each other is up to them. It's grand when they care about each other, but if they don't it often adds variety and different viewpoint to my life, for which I'm grateful. So I don't deliberately keep them separated - that, too is up to them. I just expect them to behave civilly but honestly in my company, as I do in theirs. Which isn't necessarily saying much, as I value non-aggressive honesty more than merely politeness. But it works. Well enough for me, anyway, and I can't think of any absconders!
2007-08-10 15:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
care and busybody is different.....family surely care for each other....there is no doubt....but sometime too much care may end up busybody..and fight and dispute will happen....this is common in all kinds of families......
every children growth up background always different from their parents, and their parents background different from their grandparents and so on.....what is the main problem now? MIND...mind become different.....so the line for care for one another must be clear.....and should know where is the limit and not go beyond it...then peace and harmony will stay on!!!
2007-08-10 01:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by harijanti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really. When we were in the Military (Army Band) we learned to make our own family wherever we go. We've got inlaws, outlaws and scofflaws. I believe it is important to acknowledge those who try and keep in touch and show care and respect, but if someone wants to be left alone, it's more important to respect their wishes.
2007-08-10 07:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by MUDD 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like to keep my friends separated from my family no good to mix...because if we fight with our friends the family feels bad if they like that particular friend and but in...
Of course I would want all my friends and family to get along with one another but just not to mix to much ....
2007-08-10 04:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Rita 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋