To all the McCann Bashers.............?

Question

Putting aside the facts of the case ( ie they left their children on there own )
Can you not imagine for 1 second how it must feel to lose a child??
Can you not find it in your hearts to realise they made a mistake ( no parent is perfect )
And what would you be doing if your child went missing in another country?
Would you be sitting on your **** waiting for the phone to ring?
Or whould you be out there gaining publicity for your missing child?
Im quite shocked at the amount of questions im reading posted by people on this site ( naming no names ) who seem to forget that a child is missing
It seem hatred for her parents is overshadowing the fact that a Maddy is still missing?

Whats more important..............McCann bashing or praying that Maddy is found?

Busy Bee
I have a son
So does it make me a bad person to believe that finding Maddy is more important that bashing her parents?

To say im still shocked by some of the responses is a complete understatment!!!

Its safe to say the world that we are bringing our children up in, has lost its sense of humanity, compassion and above all its priorities........

Luke N
You hit the nail right on the head!
Your 100% right in what you say
Im disgusted with some people.How can anbody recieve a thumbs down for saying 'I hope Maddy is found safe and well''
Its beyond me im afraid

Dan- you have made my point exactly
I never said the priorities were for the McCanns, i meant in in general
The priorities are to find Maddy or atleast find out what happened to her.
This issue is not about you,

Answer 1

"Would you be sitting on your **** waiting for the phone to ring"

no they never, they bribed peopple into giving them £1 million, and decided to leave england for portugal and buy a luxury home and not want to come back here to face the media


its their fault the child is lost......end of

Answer 2

I'm sorry Cutie but many of the comments from 'the McCann bashers' as you put it are not about hatred but pure disbelief and disgust at their actions.

The only known fact in this case is that the McCanns were dining, drinking and enjoying themselves while their three children were left alone in a foreign country. While I cannot imagine how it must feel to lose a child I make the decision to put my daughters safety before all else, especially going out and enjoying myself. It's simple, if my mum cannot look after our daughter we don't go out!! If we are on holiday our daughter eats with us, we watch some of the entertainment and then take her to bed and have a drink on the balcony with our daughter well within our sights.

I also cannot imagine how two well educated people can make a conscious decision to leave three children, all under the age of 4, alone in a ground floor apartment, in a foreign country and believe this to not only be safe but to be normal practice. I find that completely ludicrous!! It is this fact that has so many of us parents on here raging.

You call what they did a mistake! I class a mistake as putting the washing machine on the wrong setting or forgetting to put my daughters wipes in her bag. They made a conscious decision NOT to use the creche, NOT to use the listening service and above all NOT to be in the same room as their children while they slept. That is pure neglect (to be lax in the care or treatment of).

Can you honestly say that you would have made the same "mistake" with your son? Would you ever put your own enjoyment ahead of your sons safety? That is why people are angry and have questions for the McCanns. While finding Madeleine is more important, ensuring that their children were safe that night should have been paramount as far as their parents were concerned and it wasn't!!!!

Answer 3

Any child who goes missing in such circumstances stirs the hearts of many people, especially when it is made so high profile as Maddy. I feel desperately sorry for any child who has the misfortune to be left by parents who care more about their own selfish needs, would you do such a thing? I'm guessing that you wouldn't and that is why people become very annoyed at parents who could abuse the trust of such young children.
I would not do any of what they are doing as I would not have been so selfish or stupid in the first place, I have always been a bit paranoid about the safety of my own son, never even used a baby sitter other than family!
I have no sympathy for parents that act despicably only for the child who is probably been murdered because of her parents neglect!
They are both doctors who should have realised thet it is wrong to leave small children alone and unsupervised.
Andy

Answer 4

It doesn't matter if a person is for or against the McCann's it does not change the fact that she is still missing, defending or vilifying her parent's is not going to change that fact in the slightest.
It is all just opinions brought about by people's own perceptions for both sides of the argument, I am insulted by neither side of the argument and just continue to privately hope and pray she is alive and not being physically harmed,
Everyone has their own take on it and they are entitled to it.
If the McCann's have a case to answer to then they should answer to it.
I can imagine how I would feel if my child went missing and how I would react, and how I would feel if he had gone missing because of my own neglect, I would be on public television shouting to my child that I was sorry that I would leave no stone unturned, and I would accept any investigation in to my actions. I would admit immediately that I had done the wrong thing, I can't agree with how they left their children. But for now I will keep my harsher opinions of them to myself until I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that my opinions are correct.
Beyond the neglect issue, I can not prove that the McCann's have done anything else wrong, there is too much speculation, and sensationalism (on the part of the Portuguese press) for me to form a definite opinion, I am just going to wait for hard evidence before I pass anymore judgement.

Answer 5

I would be out looking for my child. digging with my bare hands if I had to. In my opinion, leaving three kids under 4 alone to go out and socialise is not a mistake, it's a crime. Had this happened to a working class couple in th UK and they went 100 metres over the road to the pub, they would have been publicly flogged by now, what makes the McCann's case so different?

Being abroad is no excuse, neither is being a medical professional.

I am not a McCan basher, I am a decent human being with a heart, but I only feel for the poor child whose parents placed her in a life threatening position through no choice of her own. Thanks to their selfishness, God only knows what she has been through, I personally don't care how the parents feel, how on earth do they think her daughter felt? My only sympathy is for Madeleine.

Answer 6

I couldn't describe how I would feel if I lost a child but one thing I do know is that if I had heard there may have been a sighting of my child in a country I would be straight on a plane to that country not go in the complete opposite direction like the McCanns did!


No matter what people say they have a very funny way of showing that they are innocent

I truly hope Maddy is found safe and well but I can't see that happening

Answer 7

I wouldn't consider myself to be a 'McCann basher' but I shall answer your question nevertheless . . . .

I am a parent. Yes, I make mistakes. But the mistakes I make are not of the level of *choosing* to leave my child alone whilst I leave her in an unlocked room to go out for a drink and something to eat.

That aside, as you may see from my previous posts on the subject, I have attempted to put myself in the shoes of the McCanns in order to imagine how they must be feeling - but it's an imposibility. Thank heavens, my daughter is safe and I know where she is - and because of this, I cannot *ever* appreciate what it must be like for the McCanns.

But just because I can't imagine what they are going through doesn't stop me from having an opinion about how they are behaving. For example, as I said in a previous post, I would be searching scrubland on my hands and knees, not organising photo shoots on the beach. I would be up at dawn to search for my child, not to go for a run before the heat of the day got too intense. I would keep my other children close to me, not put them into child care (the same child care that offered the evening babysitting service that the McCanns chose not to use as they didn't want 'strangers' looking after their children.) And if there was a report of my daughter being spotted in Belgium, I would go there like a shot, just because there might be a *chance* and I would want to be part of the search process that could possibly lead to a reunion.

I think that people are anti-McCann because of the discrepancies in their stories and because they are doing too little too late. They are running a media circus and appearing to *enjoy* being a part of it. They are not referring to Madeleine as a person but as a brand and this is what many of us are finding distasteful.

It's not that we are forgetting about Madeleine or not caring; it's just that we are finding it difficult to understand the actions of her parents.

And, not being of a religious bent, I am not praying that Madeleine is found - but I am sincererly hoping that she is. And I don't think that makes me a bad person.

Answer 8

Yes I would be out there looking for her, yes I would keep the publicity alive...

But I would keep the publicity about HER alive!!!! I wouldn't parade around on TV and tell the world what I was bloody doing! I would be telling everyone about my daughter!!!

And I would be out there kicking doors down and looking under every rock of everywhere the police/sightings thought she was. I wouldn't be swanning it up in a holiday villa and swanning off to see the bloody pope!!!

That is what a lot of people are angry about, the fact that the poor little girl is getting lost in all of this!

Answer 9

I think the venom is because this is an anonymous site. I was also shocked - really shocked - when I first realized that there were people out there who can sit around and criticise. I just hope that the parents never get to hear how many people have such despcable and poisonous minds. I think my children would be heart broken if they heard people saying nasty things about me - even if I had made a mistake (and regardless of the horrific consequence of that mistake - it was still a mistake and nothing more) and I think that the Mccann bashers are in fact indirectly insulting this poor little girl by slagging off her parents. Not to mention those that have the bare faced cheek to think her parents are implicated in some way.

Answer 10

what a properly written honest question. a breath of unpolluted air in this occasion. maximum judgements made in this internet site are in line with hearsay and unconfirmed comments in the press. i'm disappointed the mccanns left their little ones on my own. i flap approximately as quickly as I take my 4 little ones to a park! i'm invariably preserving them in sight. although i'm wholeheartedly disgusted with many of the comments and theories and allegations made on right here. so some distance as i'm worried they are responsible while a jury has made that verdict. up till that ingredient i'll have self assurance they are as much as sufferers as little Maddie herself. i'd purely desire to function that from my own observations there seems to be slightly a bullying marketing campaign happening in right here over the previous couple of months particularly intimidation in the direction of those with differing comments. i'm no longer able to show names. your final sentence, i'd think of, echoes by way of the minds of any logical, clever guy or woman. each thing has a result, and it is something the mccanns are going to would desire to stay with for something of their lives, and that for the duration of itself is punishment adequate.

Answer 11

The day she went missing I would have agreed with you but after reading more about the situation I feel there is something not quite right about the whole thing!!

Everyone is entiltled to their opinion and there are obviously thousands of people that are not McCann bashers as you call them because they have donated approx 1 million pounds!! Lots of children are abducted from their houses, cars etc I suppose they are being blamed because leaving a child alone in a foreign country while they have dinner isnt just 'making a mistake' it coudl have caused the death of their child! It was irresponsible and I think what people struggle with is that poor other parents who have children who go missing everyday do not get this sort of publicity! What do you think the McCanns will be doing with the money they have raised??

I do take on your point tho- of course they are going to be out and about doing things to get her back rather than sitting doing nothing and its them who is getting the publicity!! I just think there is more to this than a child being left alone and being abducted! OK grieve hits us all in different ways but doesnt Kate's and Gerry's behaviour seem a little odd to you??

I just pray to god they find her either way (obviously alive)!! And I hope when the McCanns get her back they are investigated properly!! The last thing they need right now is social services on their case but as soon as Madeline is found (dead or alive) they must be invetigated!!

Its good that they have your support but believe me they also have lots of others supporting them!! There was always going to be lots of different sides/opinions to this story so we all have to agree to disagree!! The truth will will come out in the end- until then the world will be playing the guessing game!!!