Long story short: In May, we reconnected with an old friend (a male) that I used to work eight years ago. Unbeknownst to him at the time, I had something of a crush on him and still do. Well, we got to talking every day with even some mild flirting going on, and I felt confident enough (in early July) to send him a rose pic with a message that said "Just because". Well, he was uncomfortable with that. We were still friends, though, and still talked almost every day. Well, there is a woman I put on my Friends list (I went to high school with her) and now he and her are in love, and now he only talks to me like once a week, and it's usually one- or two-word message. This female Friend says it's not me; it's because he's busy. I have trouble believing that, because he is online on MySpace all the time, and when I tried to e-mail him, he reads his e-mail but doesn't answer. Do I need to just not contact him at all and let him contact me?
2007-08-09 23:53:40 · 6 answers · asked by Diane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In the first sentence, I meant to say "I", not "we"
2007-08-09 23:54:22 · update #1
Back in May and June, he sent me cutsie pictures and his poems which, if I didn't feel the way I did, would make me feel uncomfortable, too. So I'm the one made out to be the heavy.
2007-08-09 23:56:04 · update #2
I didn't put this woman on my Friends list until the middle of July (because I had just found her).
2007-08-10 00:01:03 · update #3
MYSPACE SUCKS!!! :D
2007-08-09 23:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably busy talking to his new friend. I dont think the rose had much to do with it, but just let him go. If you're sending him message after message it looks desperate to him, and he really isnt worth your time if he doesnt reply.
Have you tried talking to him about this? Maybe you can find the real reason if you go straight to the source.
If it was the rose that weirded him out, tell him how you used to like him and if he doesnt get it, hes not worth your time.
2007-08-10 00:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you came onto him, he didn't like it (or feel the same) but tried carrying on as normal...
He then got with this friend, he ended up telling her about it/showing her, and she didn't like it...
He had you to have a little flirt with when he was single, but clearly he never liked you the way you like him, and now he has no reason to talk to you!
Everyone has someone they have a little bit of a flirty banter with, but that doesn't mean you like them romantically, or even fancy them in the slightest, its just a bit of a giggle.
You either read it to be something it wasn't, or he led you on....either way, put it and him to the back of your mind, and concentrate on finding someone that feels the same back to you!
Dont message him, you are waving a desperate sign high, and he will probably share any messages with this friend....
Move on!
2007-08-10 00:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he send you his poem first and then you sent the rose email...? Seems odd that he would send something first and then you send him somthing and he felt odd about it but was ok with sending you something.
Maybe it was not a fauz pas as much as you think and may have nothing to do with it. Maybe he really is busy and is with this other person now.. it happens..
2007-08-09 23:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not say that it's a social faux pas. How was he supposed to know how you really felt if you didn't tell him and vice-a-versa. You're definitely the more mature person (no surprise there my sister) because you expressed how you felt and he just seemingly blew you off. Don't waste your time...don't contact him as much and see what happens; wean yourself from him because it sounds like he's not worth it.
2007-08-10 00:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by 65sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your boyfriend was contacting females and having long conversations with them? He is doing the right thing out of respect for his girlfriend. Just leave him alone, and let him be happy with his love.
2007-08-09 23:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋