nobody understands. i dont wanns be gay. i wanna be like every one else. im 13 and wanna be straight. dont give me oh just accsept your self crap cuase imnot gonna take it. i wanna be straihgt and live a normal life. I know its not ture that i was born gay. if ur born gay then ull have the feeling since the begging. i as sexually abused and that triggered or reinforced my gay feelings. UR NOT ME so ud ont no. how can i be straihgt and live a normal life
2007-08-09 20:22:44 · 21 answers · asked by rob 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I can understand how you feel. Living in a society where people are SO hateful is hard on people. And I know you don't ant to hear this, but you really can't just change your sexual orientation. You seem to think that you weren't born gay. People aren't born being sexually attracted to people. That comes later. It's not based on what has happened in your life. It's something in your genes, so you were, though you haven't felt the feelings until now, born gay. Give it time. You don't have to act on your feeling right now. Go ahead and experiment with girls. But you will find that you aren't attracted to them like you are to guys. Just remember that there are lots of people that support you. Maybe none that you know yet. But they will show up along the way. I beg of you, don't live a lie so that society accepts you. Good luck.
2007-08-09 20:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by meghanhappy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Difficult answer since you want to be straight but appear to be gay. If you did not have this problem, you would not have posted the question.
If you were not born "gay" then you aren't, so what is the problem? Being abused is not good, but is also not a reason to be either gay or straight. Statistics show that most young people are molested by straight people. And the people who are molested remain either straight or gay, regardless of what happens to them.
You say you want to be straight. Well, then be that way. But you also say that you have gay feelings. Only you can decide which direction you will go. You can live a "normal" life if you decide to, or you can live as gay, bisexual or whatever you want. "Normal" is a selection on a washing machine. It is not meant for people.
2007-08-09 20:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Boomer 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dude let me give you some advise that comes from my own personal experience. When I figured out I was gay I was feeling the same way you are right now but the more I fought it the more of a problem it became. It took me a while to get it throiugh my head but there is no cure for being gay if you are gay your gay thats it end of story. I had to embrace it and when I did everything in life improved and I felt a great weight had been lifted from me so dont fight who you are embrace it and realize that we dont alwasy get to be who we want also you are still young you still have a lot to learn about sexuality.
2007-08-10 08:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think that anti-gay Christians come in here and plant these questions. Here we have someone claiming to be 13, yet using all the key words of those who promote the ex-gay agenda, while using incorrect spelling that is just slightly too perfectly incorrect. If we answer the person and tell him to be happy with who he is, then the anti-gay Christian runs to his friends and exclaims that we are recruiting children.
If you are really 13, which I doubt, you are probably way too young to know your true sexual orientation yet. Most heterosexual men go through a bisexual phase in early adolescence. Wait a few years and see what you think then.
2007-08-09 21:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude your gay. Sorry you hate yourself, but your gay. You will come to grips with this and feel better about your self in the future. It may not be easy.
Finding a church group to help you "fix" yourself will only seriously screw you up in the future. You will hate yourself and every thing about you.
The leading Church fix it group Exodus has a 95% failure rate. The founders left the origination and are in a same sex relation ship right now.
Enjoy your youth. Stop hating your life.
2007-08-09 20:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by QforU For Da Ben Dan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you are able to desire to earnings to enable circulate. retaining directly to something some severe college newborn reported extra desirable than 4 years in the past is risky. i comprehend, i used to do an identical ingredient. and he or she wasn't attempting to harm your thoughts, she grew to become into gossiping because of the fact she does not understand gay human beings. 2d, you are able to not replace or pretend that your not gay. It won't paintings, you are able to desire to earnings to love your self. changing your attitude is a problematical ingredient to do, you are able to desire to maintain your self busy so which you do not think of related to the destructive issues so usually and once you at the instant are not out having relaxing you are able to desire to think of useful. existence is somewhat ch. Being excepted does not would desire to be, not all and sundry will such as you and there is not something you're able to do approximately. carry onto your friends and circulate make new ones additionally even purely speaking to a guy or woman you will by no skill see lower back will make you sense extra constructive approximately your self for having the boldness.
2016-10-19 10:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by knudsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were sexually abused you need to tell someone who can help you. It is a felony and that person and if that person who abused you is 18 or over, and anyone else older than you who abused you can be tried and if found guilty can be sent to prison for violating a minor. Please find an adult who you can trust and tell them your story. Child Protective Services is a good start.
Your sexual orientation is a secondary issue you can deal with later. Sexual abuse of a minor is a very serious matter.
2007-08-09 20:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by my ki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were sexually abused then you need to speak to a therapist. If you weren't gay before then you're probably not gay now. You're confused. Talk to your parents or guardian about seeing someone as soon as possible Honey.
P.S.- People, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with being gay. I am perfectly happy with homosexuality. I also don't believe in those "Gay Curing Camps". However, his issue is bigger than that. He said that he was sexually abused and wasn't gay before the experience. If he wasn't gay before then he probably isn't now. The most important thing for him to do is sort out the trauma. Then he can figure out whether he's gay or straight or whatever, and learn to accept whatever that is.
2007-08-09 20:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, but it really is impossible to switch orientation AND live a normal life. You're screwed in that department.
I feel bad for you. Why would you WANT to be like everyone else? They're a bunch of mindless hateful sheep.
2007-08-09 20:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Miakoda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you cant. your born gay and you will die gay. you can choose to live a straight life style but that would be denying who you really are.
your gay because during the 1st and 2nd trimester of your mothers pregnancy your brain developed differently.
also denying the fact you are truely gay and living a straight life style will make things much harder on you in the long run.
so best advice to you. is be gay and be happy with it. but dont come out or tell anyone untill you are ready to.
2007-08-09 20:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋