Do I REALLY owe random people an answer for how I live my life? I thought that when you are an adult, you live your life by choices & live by the rewards or consequences based on your actions. People are telling me what I should & shouldn't do. Or what I can & can't do & always try to run my life. & they always try to tell me what I need to do with my life, & I tell them, I don't wanna do this & that or that I can't do this & that, & they ask why. & when I tell them why, they're saying I'm making up excuses.
Do I REALLY owe people an answer for how I decide to live my life? I don't do drugs, I don't drink or smoke, I'm not a criminal. But they think I make bad decisions by doing what makes me happy. For example, I can't even buy fast food ONCE in 3 months without being verbally chastised & people demanding an answer for why I spent my money. & because they see me do something once they think I do it every day.
2007-08-09 20:01:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Assuming you don't have kids depending on you, I would say you should only live your life for you. I presume this is family doing this ... if it is friends, time to get some new friends.
The next time someone chastises you for your decisions, try saying in a sticky sweet sarcastic voice "Well, thankfully it wasn't your decision to make, since we clearly know where you stand on the subject."
2007-08-09 20:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by C S 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should really be asking is: What are the intentions of the people who are asking these questions, and why you are concerning yourself with the questions if you consider them hurtful?
At some point in our lives, many of us are confronted with a situation that makes us reasses our priorities- One of those priorities being the value that we gain from certain relationships.
Determine what is more important: your independence, or the need to please others. If you truly don't concern yourself with the pokes and prods of other people, then their misguided directions will slide right off of you. They will learn that you are not responding, either negatively or positively, to their chastising and they may start to see you as a more autonomous person- hopefully one who can bear the positives and negatives of her own choices with an adult and responsible manner.
Sometimes, a person can benefit from seperating one's self from the person or people who are causing them distress.Though, you may want to try to see things from the other person's view and understand why they feel they need to be so very overbearing. Understanding can go both ways.
Good luck.
2007-08-10 04:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only people you "owe" anything to are:
1) God. He created you, He knows your heart, His ways are just.
2) Your spouse, if you are married
3) Your family, if you are 18 or younger
Other than that, no, you do not owe people, especially strangers, explanations of your life. We have to be able to take a stand for what we believer; we cannot be dictated by other peoples' opinions. Majority opinion is NOT the same thing as truth. Most of the time, if people criticize how you live, it is because you seem freer and happier than them, and they feel threatened by it. Just politely tell them that you choose not to explain yourself.
2007-08-10 03:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't owe them a thing. Tell them you chose to live your life the way you do because YOU CAN. If they aren't happy with the things you do start pointing out the parts of their lives that bother you. They will quickly learn that its not nice to have things pointed out and questioned all the time.
2007-08-10 03:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you certainly do not owe anyone an answer or an explanation for how you do things.
Just look at the person and say, "It may not have been what you would have chosen but it was MY choice." And don't make any explanations.
2007-08-10 12:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't owe anyone an explanation for anything at all unless you yourself want to give it to them. I think that mystery is the best way for a person to be portrayed.
2007-08-10 03:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could add one more. To your king, because you are a queen. Seriously, no, you dont owe people any explaination. It's your life...so live it how you want it, as long as you dont break the law.
2007-08-10 03:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by ni2penang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't owe them anything.unless they are your parents and you are living in their home at their expense.if you are fully independent and self suficient then you have every right to act any way you see fit.it'd be a different story if you were confiding in them that your life is bad or regretting it to them later on.then maybe they'd have a point.
2007-08-10 10:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by walpur2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't owe anyone an explanation. If you care about each other (friend, relative) I'd give them one, though, to keep the communication going.
2007-08-10 03:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by embroidery fan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to justify your life or the choices you make to strangers just hold your head high and believe in yourself and the choices you make.
2007-08-10 03:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋