do other moms worry as much as me?

Question

I was just wondering if other mothers worry about thier babies as much as I worry about my son.
I am ama first time mother and my son is 4 1/2 months old. I worry so much. Escpecially at night. My boyfriend deosnt seem to worry much and sleeps so sound.
I feel like such a worry wart and its a crazy feeling cause I know that some things I just wouldnt have control over and wont when he's older either.
I sometimes wish I could put a protective force field around him! Lol.

Reply to Ice4444,
I KNOW Im a very good mother. And yes I worry about my son but I do know that he'll have to do things on thier own and be independent. He's also only 4 1/2 months old. If you even have children maybe you should ask them if they feel loved cause you sound like a hard head with no compassion or emotion.
Grow up.

i dont understand why some people feel the need to get be rude to people.

Answer 1

Since it is only mommies answering, here is a big poppy response. :) My wife was absolutely insane anytime my daughter made any sort of sound, burp, fart, cough, sneeze, anything, for the first 6 months. I still do, and she is 10 months old now, and doesn't have a care in the world. I worry is she eating enough, is she getting enough fluids, is she too warm, is she cold, and on and on and on. She is just fine, and gorgeous beyond belief, (just like mommy! :) ) but I worry just the same. She is tougher than she looks, and she could take me in an alley fight, but I still worry. Especially about daycare, and how she is being treated. With so many abuse stories on tv from the daycare industry, and everything else that can happen, when she falls over or trips over her feet(she is walking) and takes a header, it sends me to the ER :). Mom is old hat already at this and i'm still the newbie daddy, our first child and she is a big girl already. Although my worries go away when she walks up to me, and hugs my knee and says da-da-da-da-dadi-da-da-dadi! And gives that big smile that shows off her 3 teeth(my little hillbilly :) ). And I know everything is going to be alright. Yes, my daughter has me whupped, but who better to do it? :)

Answer 2

I understand how you feel. I have 4 my youngest being 3 months. It's normal for you to worry this much with your first child and it's also normal for your bf not to worry too much! Though my husband did make several "Are they still breathing?" checks when they were this age. At this age the baby is totally dependent on you, so checking on him often is ok. You'll lessen over time as you become more confident and secure. The little guy takes cues from you so act relaxed around him even if you are going crazy inside.

By the way YOU are his protective force field! And you sound like you're doing a good job.

Answer 3

Hah, I'm the complete opposite. I worry about everything; I get stressed so easily. On the other hand, my mom is like a free spirit. She hardly worries about anything, and she has more things to do than I do. So there I am, sitting in the car beside her, worrying I'm going to be late for something (Of course, I'm always late). And my mom's just there, reassuring me that I won't be late. She has no worries in the world.

Answer 4

I worry about my 18 mo. old son ALL the time but I have a lot of faith and just say a prayer for his safety and happiness. Your right, you can't control everything but even knowing that your not going to stop worrying. I'm 26, married, have my own son and my mom still worries about me. I think its very normal to worry about your children and would probably think something was wrong if you didn't. I will say that I do sleep a little better now that my son is older but for at least the first 8 - 12 months i probably only got 2-3 hours of continuous sleep. I would wake up at the slightest noise or just to make sure he was breathing while my husband was snoring so loud i bet the neighbors could hear him! So, good luck and i think your doing great!

Answer 5

My ex use to pick on me because i was so bad about our first son. He was my first baby and even though we lived upstairs in an apartment building i was still worried about someone coming in through the window or through the door. I couldn't sleep at night because I was afraid my baby would stop breathing or someone would take him or i wouldn't hear him crying. I always worried and still do. My boys now sleep in the bedroom across from me. I leave me door open and theirs so if they get up i know it. Some say I am crazy protective and my kids will fear everything but really they don't which worries me more lol. I often wish I could put them in a giant bubble to keep them from harm. This world is just so difficult and there are just so many things that can happen. And to make things worse my oldest says he wants to be a pilot and my youngest wants to be a cop....talk about giving mom a heartattack lol

Answer 6

You are SO not alone :) When the baby doesn't sleep we complain because we don't get any rest and when the baby does sleep we keep checking whether the baby's still breathing and wonder if there's anything wrong :)) Of it helps you: It gets better with time. My daughter is now 10 months old and I only occasionally send in my husband to check on her (not only do I worry, I also am scared to find that something's wrong). The baby monitor helps extremely, though, being able to hear my baby clearly has given me back some of my sleep.

Being a first-timer doesn't help either, all I can say is read a lot about what goes on in your baby's life. www.babycenter.com has great checklists and you can subscribe to their newsletters that keep you informed. I found that all pretty helpful myself. Good luck with the little one :)

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with a little worry every now and again. Just as long as you keep him away from the TV for the first three years and keep him active, he should be fine. I would also advise reading the book, Last Child in the Woods by Louv. It may make the difference in your son's life.

Answer 8

That is totaly norman lol. Im a first time mom and my daughter is 18 months old now and i worried constantly. even while i was at work i was worried that she was being taken care of well. At night (before she turned one) I was worried about SIDS I would get up just to make sure that she was breathing! All it means is that you love your son very much and that your a good mom that cares

Answer 9

We all worry. And I think many of us seem to think we worry more about our kids than others.

Everybody's personality is different. We come from different life experiences that mold how we see things.

We lost our first child - born a preemie, and lived for about an hour.

Talk about worry warts... a paranoid freak is what I was!! ....... wait... I said that in the past tense. My daughter is 4 now, and I'm still worried about everything she does!

lol... I'm 32, my mom worries about me! I guess we'll never go to bed again w/out some worry crossing our heads.
Hip Hip Horray for motherhood!

Answer 10

Y ou have just got a good mothers instinct about you which is only natural. When they are young,only us parents can do for them things they are not able to yet,so no you are not a worry wart! I DO SAY WE HAVE TO RELY ON GOD FOR LEADING AND DIRECTING US in areas that we can do nothing about.Iknow when my children was small, I would check on them several times a night. making sure they were o.k. I realized i had to get rest so i could perform my daily duties as a mom also. I l earned to trust Jesus TO GUARD THEM WHEN I CAN'T AND TO GIVE ME PEACE ABOUT IT AND HE HAS. SO, YES YOU CAN PUT A PROTECTIVE FORCE AROUND THEM, ASK JESUS!