Through your years of dating, what is ONE THING you've learned.?

Answer 1

Don't believe the lies and excuses. When people *show* you who they are, BELIEVE THEM.

Answer 2

PATIENCE! Listen and learn ALL you can before getting too deeply head over heals for someone.

There's an old saying..."You can't tell a book by it's cover" which means... the outside might look good, but the the inside is boring.

I've had two failed marriages because those 2 guys told me what I wanted to hear. After we married, the courtship was over and the abuse began.

My new hubby of 4 weeks, we dated almost 7 years, because I wasn't going to be abused again. So yes, I would say patience is definitely what I learned.

Answer 3

well I'm married now, but the biggest thing I learned during my dating "career" was to not jump from one relationship to another so soon. I found that when I did try to date too soon after one person, I'd bring that baggage into the next relationship..if I took some time to myself, for myself, I was much more prepared to accept a new person for who they were, and not worry if they were like the ex.

Answer 4

I learned that you have to set certain criteria for the type of person you are looking for (for example, do they drink, and if so how much; specific hobbies that you want to be able to share with your significant other, etc) and stick with it. Do not settle for less than perfect for you. If the person is only going to be a short term fling, then these things don't matter; but if you are searching for the long haul, don't compromise.

Answer 5

The most important thing is :No matter how long you are with someone, you never truly know them, there's all kinds of new things (good and/or bad) you will discover about as time goes by..

Secondly (maybe should be first) It isnt always rainbows and butterflies, compromise IS what moves you along.

Answer 6

People are who/what they are...and no matter how hard they try, no matter how bad you want to believe them that they will change....They will not... Because they are the very person you've come to know...They may appear to change long enough to convince you that they have changed, but it won't last.... They will always end up exactly where you had them figured out the first time...
I Guarantee....

Answer 7

To be upfront and honest but not to believe everything the other person is telling you. Dont fall to quickly because 9 times out of 10 it ends in heartbreak.

Answer 8

Watch very closely how he treats the waitress (or similar unknown person) when they make a mistake or aren't behaving "perfectly" or up to his standards. That is how he will treat you eventually. If he has grace and understanding and leaves good tip anyway, assuming she (or whoever) had a bad day and gives them the benefit of the doubt, then that's a good sign. If he gets angry, impatient, calls them names, belittles them, etc. etc. that is how you can expect to be treated. That's how to determine a persons true character. See how they behave to those whom they are not trying to impress.

Answer 9

Trust my own insticts. I wish I would have just listened to my head and not my heart and gone with what I thought instead of waiting and hopeing for the best. The Lord gives you a sixth sense for a reason.

Answer 10

1. most of the time it is easier to find someone when you are not looking (thats how i found hubby)
2. looks dont tell you everything about a person
3. some people are crazy and controlling at 1st signs RUN
4. dont date friends of the family if it ends bad you just might have to see them again and again etc.

Answer 11

Don't show to much interest to soon, girls don't like that kinda of thing and if they do they're probably clingy which sucks. Really try to get to know a person and not just make it about getting between the sheets, we can't have sex every second of the day so it helps to actually like the person for who they are when not in bed!