Turning my son over to the Feds.?

Question

I found some porn sites on my computer and also found out some other illigal activities my 20yr has been into. He made it my business when he envolved me.I love him with all my heart but I feel I lost my son when I did this. I have a restraining order on him. I am very afraid of him.I want him to get help with his problems. I offered many times. I am a disabled veteran and he pulls one of his sick stunts 1 time a month. "To see if mom loves me enough to find out the truth. I can't take it anymore. I am so drained. I worry about him all the time. Please pray for him. His name is Daniel. He needs alot of help. Don't think me the ogre, just the mom who is so tired and ready to disappeared all together. Bless you all. Cheryl

Daniel has been doing this for over several yrs. I just can't stand it anymore. I am 100% PTSD and get counceling everyweek. Daniel is doing drugs, alcohol, child porn ( which I found out) after I made him leave. I just with I knew what I did wrong to make him this way. I love him, did what every mom does to show her unconditional love. My other son is the totally oposite. Daniel blame me for all the wrong he does. He never takes responsiblility for himself. For now I have to let it take it course and pray for the best. I do love him and maybe this time he will accept the help he needs.

iluvdeedee01--- I tried everything I could to help him. I even told him if he wanted help I would go back to work and pay for it. Now I find out he was using my SSN to buy things. I can't go anymore with this garbage. The buck stops here and so does his criminal abuse. I will be there for him no matter which way this goes but for my sanity I am opting for the police detectives to do their job.

Answer 1

Been there
I am there.
I won't put my thoughts here, if you want my opinion email me. I put a brother-in-law in prison for molesting my daughter. I am, and always have been drug free. It's a tough road, and nobody said life is fair

Answer 2

here is story i will tell you and i am not religious either. i prayed for years about my son that was on drugs and drinking. well one time in the rehab nearly like a jail an dhe saw people that really can't seem to dump the stuff and use every last penny for that but even if they have kids and he was losing his famly they moved to another state well he woke and hes not every doing it again and i am sure the praying and begging God to help has done it i have another son years ago abit older did nearly same thing and they are both living proof prayer and preservernce work. i know its seems long and nearly several times i disowened him but now this time i hav etold him you mess up once its gone entire family borthers everything will be gone to you ther eis not turning back and i believe with all my heart hes woke and has his kids and wife and wer'er seeing finally a good thing maybe this will help you thorugh it i know its hard.

Answer 3

I think I understand what you are saying.

Is your son into Child Porn? Or have you seen something that makes you think he may have assaulted a child?
Could he be dealing in drugs?
If so then yes you need to call the Police and tell them what Information you have.

I feel for you, I really do... That cant be easy. Your son needs help. Letting him roam the streets thinking he could hurt someone would be much worse.. So do make that call.

You may need to seek some counseling as well. Something like this is horrible and you will feel guilt either way you go.
You will need someone to help you sort this out in your mind.

Bless you, faith

Answer 4

You go "MOM". We need more responsible parents and maybe we would not have all the computer problems and pervs that are prevalent now a days. 20 years, you have done your time, now it is time for sunny boy to grow the heck up. You love him and after 20 years you don't have anything to prove to him. Restraining Order, etc., do you really need this crap, No. Be happy and peaceful in your life, you son has to take responsibility for his actions, get him out of your house and away from you before you are pulled down or in his crap. God knows your heart and the heart of a Mother is always heavy that is way a Mother's heart is always and forever in God's hands. God Bless.

Answer 5

You have to do the right thing , and deep down you know what you have to do , even if it rips your heart out , my brother is an alcoholic , and a cocaine addict , he has been in fist fights with my dad who is almost 70 years old , even at 70 the old man does not back down , and can hold his own , my brother has stolen from me , he even tried to rob me at gun point , but I stood my ground, It was hard to do , but we handed him over to the authorities when I discovered he had hidden 2 kilo's in the back of my car , that I carry my children around in , he has been in for 10 months now , he is sober now , and has given his life to GOD , he has apologized to all of us for his actions , However it is too late for him , all of the drugs ,and alcohol have taken a terrible toll on his body , he is 48 years old , his skin is turning grayish green , and the whites of his eyes are now green , He is going to die before his time is up , so I would suggest whatever these other illegal activities are , STOP IT ..before it is too late,
Prison is a terrible place to be , BUT it is better than where he is in life right now , I wish you the best , I would have my kids put away , before I ever lived in fear from them , Also if he was locked away , you would not have to worry , you would know exactly where he was.

Answer 6

There is other ways to get him help rather than turning him over to the FEDS! Are you crazy or just want him to really hit rock bottom cuz i have a problem with a mother calling the cops on her son or daughter or anyone for that matter. Once a person gets into the system you're thru. i feel sorry for him cuz when he gets thrown in jail you sure wont be the one he'll turn to. it will make matters worse by doing this. find another way . quit blaming yourself , i dont think drugs are good for anybody but then i dont think jail is either. mothers are suppose to luv their children unconditionally.

Answer 7

It isn't your falt fist off, You did your best. He has turned out this way by his choices he has made with his life.Don't blame yourself. You have done everything you can, now let him deal with what he has done. He knows it is wrong and if he don't than he needs more help than you thought. It will be hard to sit back and watch him go down but you will have to don't let him fool you and let him back in.You know you are doing what is best.

Answer 8

You did what you needed to do to help both your child and yourself. It was the right decision. You are a good mother who is not making excuses for his illegal and hurtful behavior. I will be praying for both you and your Son. May God's love surround you and his mercy protect you both.

Answer 9

Do what you believe is best for your son. Our prayers are with you.

Hang in there.

Answer 10

I don't see any question here, & it sounds like he isn't the only one who needs a lot of help here. You may want to seek counseling yourself.