My boyfriend says he and his ex wife lives together and it's just for the kids. Hes with me everyother weekend due to them living out of town. He keeps saying hes going to leave, but he loves his kids and theres always an issue? Is he there something else he's hidding.
2007-08-09 17:59:44 · 18 answers · asked by Betty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've heard this one before. I bet if you talk to his wife, she'll tell you they're trying to work out the problems in their relationship. Or that they aren't divorced at all. Unless you've seen the divorce papers, I'd run from this drama hole. :(
Sorry
2007-08-09 18:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ew...thats kind of wrong sorry o.O .....If he really divorced his wife the I can see him visiting the kids maybe every week-end and him staying in a hotel near by and seeing his kids or his kids coming up to where he lives ever week-end.
Here's some things for you to think about. Have you met his ex-wife or his kids yet? if you've been together for a while and you haven't then somethings wrong...I honestly have never heard of two people who are divorced still living together...chances are he's lying...next time he goes home to "the family" ask him if you can go along with him and see how many excuses he makes up.
~good luck
2007-08-09 18:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nifty_250 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it's very true what everyone else is saying. He's most likely still with her. Most ex wives who don't want a (sexual and emotional) relationship with their exhusbands kick them out of the house right away (well, more than likely) and give them the rights to see their kids when they want (unless they take it to court, of course). If he keeps saying "I'm going to leave her, but not just yet because the kids won't understand and I don't want them to resent me, blah blah", and just being with you on the weekends?! He's just keeping you around as a backup or as an affair. If you haven't met the ex-wife and the children (introduced as his new girlfriend) than that's defintely fishy, seeing as his kids are important to him, he would have introduced you by now. You can do better, just dump this broad, and move on to someone who will want to be with you everyday of the week!
2007-08-09 18:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by krystal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but more than likely he is hiding something.
Do you go over there? Have his kids met you? If it were only for the kids sake, and he's planning on leaving the answers are yes. If the answers are no, then you need to decide if you want to wait an undetermined amount of time to be the rebound girl-which rarely lasts - or not wait.
Good luck. Follow your heart.
2007-08-09 18:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Autumn S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a fool... He isn't divorced from his wife. He's telling her that he has out-of-town business every other weekend. Move on... Why belittle yourself like that. I bet you don't even get to call his house. I bet you he doesn't foot any of your bills. I bet you he's never bought you anything (accept maybe a meal at Denny's). I bet you spend all holidays alone. Wake up... He is making a complete fool out of you. Good luck with your decision.
2007-08-09 18:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he is hiding the fact that he is having an affair with you. You are the other woman and need to get out of that relationship for him, for the kids and for your own self-respect. Find a single man. There are plenty out there. Leave the married men to their wives.
2007-08-09 18:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is how disaster starts. The divorced for a reason. Them living together will hurt more than it will help. Children are smart and they know what goes on even when parents are good liars.
2007-08-09 18:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his ex-wife is on such friendly terms with him, then why can't he move out and just visit the kids often? Sounds like trouble.
2007-08-09 21:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Suzie Q 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say.
Have you met the ex-wife and kids? If not, there's 1 red flag.
How recently were they divorced? Did they own a home together and are now trying to sell it? If they sell, will they go upside down?
It does sound fishy, and if you're not comfortable with it, it's not like he is the only man in existence.
2007-08-09 18:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The boyfriend won't be able to declare your infants, yet you ex-spouse can declare a million/2 of youngsters on her taxes. in case you have 2 little ones, and neither of you will pay new child help, you are able to declare one new child and he or she will declare one.
2016-10-02 00:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by gearlds 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋