We were together for two months. I took care of his son, house, laundry, and dog. Still he thinks that I was smothering him, after I statrted working and seeing him only twice a week, maybe. But, I wasnt even living with him, and he pursued the relationship. Whats wrong with thois picture. Do I need to try and fix this or just leave him alone for good. I LOVE HIM!!!
2007-08-09 16:38:52 · 23 answers · asked by tenderheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I did stop doing everything for him and only talked to him or seen him twice a week.
2007-08-09 16:49:09 · update #1
Sweetie, sounds like he is looking for a way out. Your best bet would be to let him go and if he comes back on his own with out you pursuing him, then its meant to be, but honestly sounds like a cop out excuse to me . Hes not ready for any serious commitment.
2007-08-09 16:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even begin to think it has something you did wrong. Be happy you didn't waste any more than 8 weeks on him.
Next time don't be so eager to be the maid. Also look for someone that has not had a baby with someone. Those kind of people already have a history of failed relationships and are always bad new.
2007-08-09 17:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have used the phrase "being smothered" before to discribe a relationship. In my case, it was because she was not acting like a friend and lover but was acting like my mother. Not many self motivated individuals want to be mothered. a friend will love you for who you are and will support your personal growth at your speed. People that smother you say they love you for who you are, at the same time they are bribing you with affection in an attempt to change you into what they want you to be. And they claim to do it for your own good.
I could be saying that as an out.
2007-08-09 16:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months, he says you are clingy. What the heck is clingy, he really didn't want to be bothered in the first place, 2 months, what the heck is that. If you couldn't get through 2 months why would you want more. You "love" him, if he doesn't love you then this is a one sided relationship, give your love to someone who will appreciate it. Yeah, you are being "clingy". God Bless.
2007-08-16 21:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an independent, egocentric type of guy who never let someone take over him. he may be somebody who wants to be in control of his life. Give him space. It's nice to care for people we love, but in his case, don't offer to much of urself. It's still up to you, check ur feelings , do u really love the person or the feeling of being needed by someone. Try to analyze the situation ur into, u may be at the loosing end without even realizing it.
2007-08-17 15:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Neriz M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He possibly felt like you were taking over his life by doing his laundry, looking after his son/dog etc - it could have freaked him out a little. If you want to try and salvage the relationship you could see if this was the case and possibly back off a little. Otherwise, I would cut my losses and move on.
2007-08-09 16:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree that he was just looking for an excuse to break up with you. besides, do you really want to keep taking care of his house, son, laundry and dog? he must have been able to do that before you came along.
i'm sorry but i don't believe you can be in love with someone after just 2 months.
2007-08-09 16:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you were too clingy. First of all, you gave too much too fast! You were his maid, not a woman he wanted a relationship with. Don't give so much to someone who hasn't proved they deserve it. If you start the relationship off as you did, that is what you will have to continue to do. You are a lady, so let him respect you and treat you as such. Don't you think you deserve it?!! I know I do! :-)
2007-08-17 12:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by precious_jewel_66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could have been an excuse, or he misses you and is trying to get your attention. You deffinately need to talk to him. But I wouldn't try and pursue the relationship untill you find out what his real problem is.
2007-08-17 14:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone if it was meant 2 b he would've talked 2 u about it first.
2007-08-09 16:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by babygal1564 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋