estly and we will take it. But the only course to marriage at the moment is make vows many don't believe in. For example, you may agree to love your partner for life, but that should not imply that you cannot have another partner sexually, which is not the same thing as love. A physical act to relieve tension or obtain pleasure should be welcomed by the other partner, who wants the best for his loved one.
2007-08-09 16:27:22 · 23 answers · asked by americanhero_aa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont believe the ladies will like this one lol
2007-08-09 16:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by michael n 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all no-one is blackmailed into making
marriage vows, as they are made from the heart
of the two people that get married. Second if a
person wants to make up their own vows then it
is not the original vows anyway so if anyone is
going to be blackmailed it's the one's making up
their own vows and if that is the case then vows
do not have to be made as the two people can
do whatever they want since they are not married.
Too many people do not take marriage seriously
so I can understand why they would not take their
MARRIAGE VOWS SERIOUSLY.
2007-08-10 00:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i thnk i understand this. but the vows state that your taking this person to be your wife not this one this one and this one. i never wanted to get married ever! ok i can't stress that enough! i didn't think i had what it took to hold that kind of promise not only to my partner in life but to god as well. but i did get married almost a year ago and it was the best thing i did. i always thought it was over rated and for people who needed that security in there life, but you won't ask questions like this or feel this way about vows if your with the person that was ment for you. and you may not be religious( i am guessing here), but you some jesus to help you out man. don't make a promise to someone if you can't keep it. and i would really question where your heart is with this girl cause if you want to marry her than no other woman should even be crossing your mind like that. sorry guy but your wires are cross a bit. good luck
2007-08-09 23:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by crackinmywhip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly u are not the material for marriage! Go the gyms if you want release. By the way can yr partner do the same .. .
Go and drive when you re drunk and see what the police will tell you... for not keeping "the vow" don't believe ask Paris Hilton then ...
Don't messed up another fabric init of society by staying away fr marriage. Only non human being behave like this.. whenever they think they need it ... just climb over it and then come down after a while
2007-08-10 00:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by nicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can be forced to make a committment to one another. Vows are supposed to reflect the promises that you make to one another at the start of your life together.
If you vowed to love and respect her for ever then she has every right to feel betrayed by you if you suddenly decide you want to find someone else! In other words, you were not BLACKMAILED by her, rather, you LIED to her.
It seems that you went into marriage without a full understanding of what marriage means. I hope that you can learn what it means to make a committment quickly for your wife's sake otherwise you may find that you need to find someone who holds the same ideas of what a marriage means as you and let your wife move on and find someone who will be committed and loving and in the marriage for the same reasons as her.
Good luck
2007-08-10 00:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea the vows want be changed for just one person. If you feel you can't keep these vows than you don't need to accept them at all. If you main thought is i know I want to sleep with other people, than what is the point of marriage for you. Just stay single that way you don't hurt anybody and you can go to bed each night with a clear cautions. Good luck!
2007-08-09 23:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And the "best" for his loved one would be his partner.
Not some bimbo off the street.
You don't have to say the same, typical vows that everyone does.
Make up your own.
Put remember, when you marry, you are saying that you want to be with that "1" special someone and "only" that 1 special someone for the rest of your life.
If you don't feel that way, then what is "your" purpose of getting married?
Stay single and mingle and free ;)
2007-08-10 00:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment for life. Remember in sickness and in health.
You're looking for a justification to cheat for your own pleasure. If it pleasured her to sleep with the entire NBA to relive tension, lets say she had a REALLY, REALLY tense job--would you be ok with that? Would you feel that all those big, strong, well endowed men were coming between you as a couple?
You're ok with that? OK, well if she needs to live in another state for 5 years away from you - to relieve tension - you'd be ok with that?
Does that sound silly to you? Why? It's merely a physical act to relieve tension and to obtain pleasure.
Don't you want the best for your loved one?
2007-08-09 23:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by Autumn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your outlook on life, and marriage for that fact is one of the most disturbing I have read.
Your comments reflect the fact that your are extremely self-centered and driven to use others abusively in order to fulfill your lust.
Love gives. It does not take, it is not selfish.
Your heart is completely void of love and your are obviously null and void of any knowledge and wisdom regarding love, kindness, and marriage.
You may not be worth the pears of wisdom I have to give - I may reconsider, but I doubt it.
You are a foolish foolish man. You squander life with contempt. What you sow you will reap. A fool says there is no God.
PastorJP02.
2007-08-10 00:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know.....you can make up your own vows.
And by the way, why are you using the word "blackmailed"? People have to do something bad FIRST to be vulnerable to blackmail later.
Also...why would anybody who wants to have sex with many people want to get married and still have sex with many people?
Just not sure where you are going with your question/complaint.
2007-08-09 23:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blackmailed? That's a bit dramatic, isn't it? If you don't want to get married, don't. If you want more than one partner, do that. Just be honest about it.
I think that many people (myself included) will disagree with your view but there may be people who want the same thing you do.
2007-08-09 23:37:05 · answer #11 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋