my wife was molested between the ages of 5-8, she remembers liking it at the time because she didn't know better and even after later realizing that it was wrong she sometimes feels like she is 5-8 when she is sexually aroused. do you think she was brain washed into liking feeling young? do you think it's wrong of her to like feeling young because of what happened to her? has anybody experienced anything like what we are going through?
2007-08-09 15:42:03 · 6 answers · asked by b h 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Victims of long term torture or abuse often create a bubble of non reality around themselves to lighten the load of being made crazy by being abused in whatever way they are being abused. (This is called The Stockholm Syndrome and is associated with prisoners of war, who are tortured for years and start to believe that being abused, is OK.) This is a survival mechanism to keep from going crazy. It is hard wired into the brain to help a person live a daily life without babbling in a corner somewhere.
What has happend to your wife is something like this, except it has taken on a deviant kind of aire. When she was abused, she probably told no one and thought it was normal after a time. Instead of devistating her or making her scared, it took the other route. It has now manifested itself into that part of her mind that finds this attractive. It has sort of turned into a fetish.
I would say she definitley needs help and to talk to a professional, because this may make her think that other forms of deviant behavior is ok. (I won't list anything here, because I don't want you jumping to conclusions.) She needs to feel comfortable admitting this though... you can't force her to go to therapy.
I hope this helped... good luck.
2007-08-09 16:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very few people enjoy being molested, but it happens sometimes...and when a child is very young like that, definitely there is some brainwashing that went on...and now it's ingrained. I'd suggest she see a therapist...a sexual therapist or psychologist, or someone who specializes with these issues- whether it's causing a problem for you or not. There are likely unhealed emotional and psychological wounds she has because of the molestation. She herself might not even be aware of the full extent of which they affect her everyday life.
Good luck to you both.
2007-08-09 23:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it about enjoying something- that you equate with "brain washing"??! Your wife SIMPLY didn't KNOW that what was being DONE to her- was WRONG on the part of the person doing it. Obviously she wasn't FORCED- so she wasn't tramatized into feeling it was something BAD. Would YOU rather she HAD BEEN- so YOU wouldn't have to deal with the "Issues" that this raises for YOU??! Sexual Arousal is a VERY complicated & individualized THING... If her's makes HER happy- then all YOU need to do- is concentrate on your OWN. Whatever "works". :)
2007-08-09 22:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is crazy. i was molested when i was 10 and i was devestated. Um maybe she was always going to be the kind of person who enjoys sex. If it bothers you you should talk to her about and maybe see someone together. This is one i have never heard of. Good luck.
2007-08-09 22:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by grunt's wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brainwashing is definitely a part of molestation sometimes...when she was young she liked it because she didnt know any better, if it is a problem, i recommend seeing a therapist..it can probably help bigtime.
2007-08-09 22:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by luckyella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
no
no
its not her fault
2007-08-09 22:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋