So, this guy (guy A) and I work together, (we are both promoted to the same level), and there is SOMETHING there. You guys know, the subtle eye-catching, the easy laughter/joke telling, (basically we can talk easily to each other), serious when need be, etc. It has been going on for about 3 weeks. He is not tied down...
...However, I have been dating this guy (guy B) for over 3 years. Our relationship is very extreme, one day it is amazing, the next we are screaming at each other about everything, from him dropping out of jr. college, to me spending too much time working towards my dream, etc. I feel like we continue to date because of memories we have. But he is compleatly devoted to me, and it would break his heart if I left.
I have never been much of a gambler, but is that potential SOMETHING worth it? Suggestions would be greatly appreciated seeing how I cannot reach my friends to talk about it at the moment, and the different point of view would help. (I am almost 20)
2007-08-09 15:29:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd dump guy B and go for guy A. Now I say this because it sounds like the guy you are with is causing you pain as well as happiness. Now you really should be with someone who gives you mostly happiness. Either that or make a pro and con list about both guys, what you like and don't like about both of them and see where you are. Good luck.
2007-08-09 15:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump into anything with the coworker. Because you work together, you have an opportunity to get to know each other before you make any decisions. There is always coffee break and lunch times, maybe drinks after work with the work gang. On the other hand, memories are not enough reason to stay with old bf if there is no future. You are still young. Have fun. Make choices carefully.
2007-08-09 15:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wise to date someone you work with. Ya never know when the tables will turn and you might get burnt. And you'll still have to work with him with uncomfortable feelings.
As for the one your with, sounds like you both have goals and to make it work you have to keep the lines of communication open . Talk out your troubles when they are happening. But be calm before you make conversation.
2007-08-09 15:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Wrinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going from one relationship straight to or for another isn't usually a great idea.
Honestly, it worked out for me, but the odds are against it.
BUT rollercoaster relationships are the worst. I'd say to give it a shot, or be single for a bit.
2007-08-09 15:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋