I am 14. My sister is 11. This morning I bumped into my sister by accident and said sorry. She didn't answer me. I said sorry again for at least 5 more times and she still didn't answer. She was mad at me that I bumped into her & didn't talk to me for the whole day. I felt bad for the whole day because I didn't mean to bump her. I didn't want her to be mad at me for that. I told my parents when they came home and they were upset at me for worrying about "little" things and said I should grow up & worry about mature things. I explained to them that I wasn't immature. I was that way because I love my sister and want her to be happy. They still said I am immature. They said I should stop hanging out with friends because I am getting more wild and difficult. They said I can't go to my best friend's party this Saturday because I care about my sister and want to say sorry. Have you ever get punished for being caring? Is this reasonable?
2007-08-09 15:29:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i believe there is more to this story. your parents are not going top mistreat you because of that. i am 22 and a mother so know how it feels when you think your parents are out to get you , but i also am a mother and i love my baby girl so much and would never try to hurt her. if you can't go out to a party you must have show that you can not handle it.. to be honest you are only "14" you should be going out to partys anyways yet. i think if you just paid a little more attention to the actions you make you will be just fine....... and your sister, i am pretty sure you love her and felt bad, maybe she was just having a bad day. with sibling you don't always get along, you could be best friends one minute and enemies the next. just shake it off. besides you may do the same thing to her before and just didn't pay attention
2007-08-09 15:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you bumped into your sister, it was the right thing to say you were sorry. I'm sorry that she didn't say anything to you for the rest of the day.
It will bother anyone if they apologize to someone and the other person doesn't accept the apology and doesn't talk to them the rest of the day.
Was it only you that she didn't talk to? Sometimes a person will be preoccupied with problems and not talk to anyone. If that was the case, then it wasn't personal.
If you were the only person that she didn't talk to, then she was trying to punish you for some reason. I hate to say it, but it's girls and women that usually behave like this. It's not a good thing to do.
When someone won't talk to you, about the only thing you can do is to say something like, "If there's a problem between us I would like to talk about it." If they refuse to talk about it, then there is nothing you can do but ignore the person until they are willing to talk. It doesn't help to keep apologizing.
Are you sure that your parents are not letting you go to the party because you're unhappy that your sister is not talking to you? If that's the case it sounds strange.
You sound like a nice girl and I hope everything works out well for you.
2007-08-09 17:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go about your day. If she is ignoring you or still upset it is becasue she is boiling over with new hormones. Remember when you were 11? You felt like noone understood you and you were all alone in the world? Your sister is probably going through the same thing. \
if you bump into her say sorry and move on! If she doesn't say anything that her deal!!
Tell your parent's how they made you feel. Sit them down after dinner and tell them you need to talk to them. They want to hear if they have hurt you and confused you. Parent's aren't perfect we make mistakes to and we can only learn if you tell us what we have done!
Don't stop caring! Just stop worring!!
2007-08-09 15:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we're just hearing one side of it, but yes, that sounds unreasonable.
Your sis is entering puberty and her hormones are going nuts-- like she's got PMS all the time, basically. So, if she wants to be moody, don't worry about it. It'll only last... a few more years. :)
Your parents sound like they must be stressed too, and didn't want to hear about what they considered "small things." You don't know what may be going on in their heads... maybe one is worried about his job, maybe the car's acting funny and they're worried it might need a major repair, maybe they're late on some bills... you never know. Parents have a lot of stresses that they try to keep from their kids, and unfortunately, they can lash out at their kids for nothing when they're really worried about other things.
Just lay low, be extra good, apologize on Sat. afternoon about being bothersome the other day, and hopefully they'll let you go. But try not to take it personally.You don't sound immature. You actually write better and make more sense than many of the adults on here.
2007-08-09 15:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's really stupid! Getting punished for caring about your sister. And what does that have to do with being wild and more difficult? They really said you can't go to that party because "you care about your sister and want to say sorry"? Those were their exact words(or something like that)?
And no, I've never been punished for anything like that.
2007-08-09 15:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! Sara O.
You did the right thing you said sorry.
You cannot do any more than that.
And as for feeling bad for the rest of the day why did you spoil your day?
You are not God you cannot make your sister or anyone else happy only yourself.
You sound like a lovely warm caring girl .
Take care and God Bless!
2007-08-09 15:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Unless your parents have a visitation order in place she can force you to stay. What does your father say about all this? As an aside, you should speak with your school guidance counselor who can put you in contact with other people that can help.
2016-05-18 04:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happened to me b4, no it isn't reasonable, parents seem to care about the younger kids bcuz they think you are responsible enough to not bump into her. but they don't seem to understand accidents happen.
2007-08-09 15:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by theinvisible44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats NOT reasonable! talk to your parents.... MAKE them understand that you care, and try to get them to let you go to the party...
2007-08-09 15:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your parents are gayy... lol sorry dude, that sucks.
2007-08-09 20:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋