I had a great Job working as a job recruter. I found myself in the hospital with a near fatal situation. I lost my position at work. Therefore, I have some financial issues of course. Insurance is no good. I was already planning to leave, then this happened. He threatened that he would not help me financially any longer.....I will still leave even if I sleep in a cardboard box! I told him he was too controlling....he argued! He knew I was planning, and that is why he is threatening with financial destitude. Is there life and love out there after 40??? lol
2007-08-09 15:28:29 · 15 answers · asked by spreading wings 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please leave this man. I was married to a control freak for ten years. First it was verbal abuse.Next financial and then physical . I left with three kids under 8 and I have survived very well. It is hard for a start but once you find your feet there will be no stopping you. Yes there is life and love after 40 but first of all take the time to get to know yourself and love yourself. It really is a good feeling to know you are in control of yourself and not someone else. Good luck with your life
2007-08-13 15:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who knows. There is definitely life after 40. It took me a while to find out......but I did. He is definitely controlling and he will still try even after you leave. You just need to be strong and stand your ground. If you have to, get a restraining order when you leave. Are there any children involved? Even if there are, you will be fine. There's lots of help out there. Don't worry about your financial issues, there's help for those things too. Just explain what has happened. Most places will work with you. You do not need a man to get by in this world. You go girl. Life's an adventure. Good luck with everything dear.
2007-08-09 15:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation only he wants out of the relationship and says he won't marry me any more because i tell him he is too controlling and that I am unable to handle stressful situations but in your case it sounds like he does not want to let you go hence ;the threat. some times we say things we don;t mean so just let it ride for awhile till you both calm down . you should have included him in your plans to move. I'm 47 and believe me it's tough out there to find a man. the question is do you really love him or not.
2007-08-09 16:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by JOAO C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he can't do that to you because everything has to be split 50/50. I would get a good lawyer (even through legal aid, they would especially help someone in your situation) and sue him right away. Since he threatened you, you also have grounds for a quick divorce whereby in that case you will get your money faster and he will have to pay alimony and probably your insurance. Most likely you will clean up in the courts. I would get on this right away. Do not let any man control you. And yes there is love after 40.
2007-08-09 15:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by greathoneybear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just beware of the control freak, I too had one of those. At 41 I left him. I found love with a wonderful man. But my ex, the control freak couldn't stand it, he did everything in his power to ruin me, including tell the "wonderful man" all kinds of lies. He has turned my children against me and my whole church family. He has tried all he knows to do to ruin me financially too. Right now, I feel like I have no one. My boys are moving in with their dad and the wonderful man is moving away also. I don't know about love any more. I think I'd rather stay by myself then to put my heart on the line again like that.
2007-08-09 15:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by askmeimightknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so typical of a man when he knows that your fed up with his sh--. Don't give up on yourself, you can do anything you set your mind to. This life has no guarantees so get out while you can. Make the best of it till you get what you want and deserve. I am glad you made it through what almost destroyed you. Wish I could give you A BIG HUGE FOR SUPPORT.
2007-08-09 15:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there is life and love after 40. My cousin is 45 and she has never been married. She met the nicest man and he plans on making her his wife some day soon.
2007-08-09 16:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is life & love, (from a good man) ahead of you.
This one is not good. So move on & try to stay positive. Don't let him bring you down.
2007-08-09 15:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do it! If you had a good job before your accident or whatever, you can get another good job. I left my husband with only a suitcase to my name, and although it's been a struggle at times, I have never been happier. Money doesn't equal happiness!
2007-08-09 15:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is. Don't let his threats control what you want to do - you don't need people who are going to hold you back in life.
2007-08-09 15:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋