how do you women approach your husband for sex???

Question

sometimes i want it but not sure if he does and im afraid to approach him sometimes out of fear of rejection...i know this may sound silly because we have been married for 4 years but i usually let him approach me first....

Answer 1

I cannot believe you have never initiated sex with your husband in four years...Well, we need to get you started!

First off, don't ever be concerned about your husband rejecting you...Even when men are tired, they will find a way to muster up some energy for some late night loving, lol...When it comes to me giving my husband some I can wake him up at 3 in the morning when he has to be up by 5:15am...He will still welcome it! If by some chance your husband doesn't want to do it, don't be upset and feel rejected...Just kiss him all over his body, get on top and use him to pleasure yourself (I doubt he will say no then)...If he had a long busy day, he could genuinely be tired...So don't fret!

My husband and I have children (don't know if you guys do yet) so as the evening is winding down, I may kiss him/his neck, rub his chest/head or lick his neck and tell him "Once I get the kids to bed, you are mine"...Trust me, he gets the picture, LOL!

Assert yourself...He will thoroughly enjoy you...When you get at him, make sure you let loose those 4 years of pent up sexual frustrations! Be certain to let him know that you've wanted to do this so many times...in your sexy voice of course, LOL...I can almost assure you that he will tell you he wish you had, LOL!

Men love for their wives to be ladies every other time but in the bedroom...There they want a lioness or a tigress!

DO NOT HESITATE...GO FOR IT!

Best wishes to you and your husband!

Answer 2

My husband usually initiates sex, but he gets a thrill when I come to him and get frisky.

Sometimes I approach my husband very boldly, grab his body and tell him I want sex. Sometimes I let it come naturally from kissing and cuddling. I also like to prepare our bedroom with candles and me in something sexy and call him in. He gets the point,lol.

Just like there is more than one way to skin a cat, there is more than one way to initiate sex. There is always a risk of rejection, but don't take it personally. He may say no, but it could be because he is tired, stressed, distracted or simply not in the mood. You can always try again later.

You are his wife and you know what turns him on. Just do that and see where it goes.So, take what ideas you like and go for it! Chances are, your husband will be thrilled.

Answer 3

Wow. I cant believe what I'm reading here. My woman is like a cat. Once a month, I've got to wait til she is in heat. If I had my way, I'd do it with her 3 times a week. I'm always in the mood and I'm 43 married for 13 years. If she initiated it, it would blow my mind. I would love that. You all have great ideas they would all work for me.

Answer 4

I usually get all snuggly with him and the closer I get, the more he knows, I want it. There is a difference between just sitting close and getting real close. I think all married couples should have a way about them to let each other know when either one of them wants to. Nibbling on the ear works too.

Answer 5

I used to be that way in my early 20's. i am over that now, men usually want it and if you start carressing them and playing with testicles they will get aroused.
slowly and softly carress his testicles ann inner thighs while rubbing your legs up and down his, and gently letting your nipple touch him. then move in for the soft neck kiss then gradually to the lips (that is all assuming u r already in the bed) if you are not in bed just put on something really sexy, men love lacy brazillian cut undies that shows a hint of butt, couple that with some high heels and he will be in no doubt of whether or not u want it.

Trust me, you dont have to even say word. Rejection and the fear thereof is a part of life, suck it up. how many times have you refused him but he keeps approaching you. but if he rejects u, then start carresseing yourself and pleasing yourself right there for him to see, 9 out of 10 times he will join in.
Hope i helped.

Answer 6

I know how you feel! I feel like a big dork when I try to think of ways to initiate sex. I think it's because we feel like being "sexy" is the way to initiate sex and I really have no idea how to be sexy!

One thing that works, though, is if you put on a sexy nightie or something. He will get the picture without you having to say or act in a certain way that you don't feel comfortable with. That's really all it takes!

Answer 7

Men don't like doing the pursuing all the time what you need to do is when he is laying in bed or sitting in a chair go to him and just kiss him that's all you will have to do he will take over from there and have a big smile on his face for the next couple of days.

Answer 8

I use to be like that until I finally got over it.So now whenever I want to initiate intimacy, I put on something sexy and he gets the picture. Well one time he turned me down because he was tired from working a double shift but I didn't let that stop me once he caught up on his sleep!!!

Answer 9

I just ask him (or show him, hee hee). Sometimes he's not in the mood, but at least I went for it. It can suck getting turned down, but I think a lot of men like it when women initiate from time to time, especially in a straightforward and explicit way. Just ask!

Answer 10

I bet he would love it if you approached him first. Also it's not silly, As a matter of fact it the case with most couples. If he says No do not worry he just may be tired, Next time try it by doing something sexy. wake him up with a blow j*b. (if y'all do that) he will love it.