I am going through a REALLY bad divorce. My wife has taken advantage of my love for her and the children. I have signed every paper, and belived her words of "trust me". Then I found out she was having an affair, the true reason for the divorce. Since then she has kept my children from me and has used them as wepons. He Mother and Step-father have encouraged and supported her actions, and told me several times they will keep th kids away from me. I have always been the most loving father a father can be. I have treated my kids the way my father did not treat me. Now I have nothing and am alone. She filed a temp restraining order based on lies & now I have no contact with my kids untill the court date and maby not after that if the judge grants the order. Everyone is telling me to trust God and pray that he is breaking me and I need to wait and that God will fix or restore eveything.
2007-08-09 15:01:54 · 16 answers · asked by Mike M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God helps those who help themselves! Get a lawyer and fight her tooth and nail for your right to see your children!
2007-08-09 15:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I put my everything into trusting god during my divorce, not to mention my life leading up to the marriage, the marriage, the raising of my children. I sought god in ALL that I did. I really wanted to know what the right way was. How could you go wrong. Well, trusing in god was the biggest mistake I made of my life. I was honest in love, honest and faithful in my marriage, honest in the divorce and it got me complete devistation. My ex, who had been leading a double life, is an exerienced liar. You cannot compete with someone like that when you have made your life's goal about being honest. It's a different mind set. Do not trust in god. Get your head together, do your homework, get counseling, and surround your self with supportive people and people who can tell you how to win at this war. Because bottom line, she has already served the declaration of war papers on you when you found out the type of person you are dealing with. You do not have to stoop to her level, just be wise in your dealings. And don't count on the courts to do the right thing. Those robes do not mean they are holy. They can be horny old men and lean toward a pretty face. So when the dust settles, be proud of how you acted and come to terms with what you may have lost. Learn from it and don't let the Yesterday's take up too much of your Tomorrow's. Good luck!!
2007-08-09 15:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by lktesta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always trust in God for everything, and in this situation it's best to not stoop to her level. She is being very vindictive even though it seems like she is the only one who is wrong. Keep petitioning for your kids, don't give up, my husband had a similar situation with his ex. He only had supervised visits if any based on total lies, let's just say the next court date, he had much more visitation and paid less child support. And now he has full custody. This bad situation is going to back fire on her, and it's really sad that she would keep her kids away from a wonderful father. It just goes to show you that it's a really good thing that she left. In the future be aware of what you sign and don't trust her.
2007-08-09 15:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Vegas 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry you're going through all of this, but from what I read it seems that your laying all the blame on God for your misfortune and putting unreal expectation on Him to get you out of it. You sound angry, hurt, lost, confused. It sounds like your husband needs the kind of care that you are not capable of providing. Has it occurred to you that God wants you to do what's best for all of your family, not just your husband? If other arrangments need to be made for him, God will not hold that against you, He will give you strength to make the hard decisions that need to be made. When everything and everyone is gone from your life, God is all we have left sometimes. Trust in Him. The dust will settle.
2016-05-18 04:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by emelda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First god is real. Secondly, get a lawyer. Yes pray every day and god will ultimately restore everything not in his time but when your ready. See god lets you make your own choices ( i.e. marriage) and when it goes terribly wrong we get mad at him, when if we were honest we knew not to get married to that person in the first place. But as far as your situation, im sorry about that and divorce is tough, but get a lawyer, you wouldnt wait around if you were sick to go to the doctor would you?
2007-08-09 15:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god will fix this mess, but u have to really trust him. I know this is hard but if u dont completely trust our lord and savior he will keep putting u thru trials and tribulations and it will get worse than get better. Trust in him and hold him close and pray for your wife and kids and let god handle this . when u completely and utterly trust him u will see what god will do for u. we are praying for u and have put u on our prayer list every nite and day. God Bless U and i hope u get your answer soon...
2007-08-09 16:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying that God helps those that help themselves. While it's not biblical, it still rings true. Get a lawyer and get custody of your kids, or at least set up visitation. If those orders are violated by her, she'll likely lose the kids to you.
2007-08-09 15:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm did you trust God with your marriage? Don't let your faith stop you from fighting for your kids. If she thinks that you are leaving it up to God, she is gonna steamroller you, then you will lose your kids, and blame yourself, instead of this God. Come on man, don't be like that. Having faith is fine, but don't be stupid. Get the best lawyer you can find.
2007-08-09 15:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had the whole "God" bullsh*t shoved down my throat too many times. I don't even know if I believe in God anymore due to that. All I hear is that God answers everyones prayers, and they'll be answered in "Gods" time, etc..etc... Well this is the REAL world and some of us don't have time to wait on God. Do what you need to do! Go out and get a lawyer.
2007-08-09 15:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes we have to be smarter and do what we know is best. Yes, God is always there, but he also expects us to use common sense. Get a lawyer before it is to late. Oh yeah, next time someone says trust me..watch out
2007-08-09 15:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by cejay1953 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋