i just found out that i am 4 wks pregnant. This is my 1st & i am contemplating termination, what r the risks?

Question

i am concerned it will affect my ability to have kids in the future. What are the procedures for an abortion??..will i bleed alot and is it painful?

Answer 1

There are quite a few risks involed with terminating a pregnancy, but it is ultimately up to you. Risk of infection probably being the top risk, especially if you have intercourse less than a week after the procedure, since the cervix may not be completely closed.

An abortion does not effect your chances of becoming pregnant in the future as much as most people think. (Most people that say that are anti-abortionists.) I terminated a pregnancy last October and have not tried to conceive since, nor was I at the time (on my period and birth control at time of conception), but have no perminate problems from the procedure.

I only bled moderate/heavy for a couple days, then light bleeding for about 3 weeks. Next period came right on time. I was only 5 weeks gestiation at the time of the abortion, a week earlier than the doctor thought, but they still did the procedure. (They ususally start at 6 weeks.) My experience was quite painful, since I was so early in my pregnancy they took their time to make sure it was done correctly, but I only took an Advil and antibiotic before the procedure. They offered valium but I was by myself and didn't want to drive while on valium. Make sure you eat breakfast because that double dose of antibiotic will make you sick on an empty stomach.

If you have any other questions or just need someone to talk to that has been through this experience, feel free to email or IM me. I will be glad to talk.

Good luck and remember, it is YOUR decision, no one else's.

Answer 2

one risk is serious regret for the rest of your life....i've been there i know. I was young (22) and pressured to make the choice, it was the wrong one. I now (at the age of 27) have a beautiful 5 month old son. Every once in awhile I look at him and think about the abortion and what would have been...makes me cry everytime. I thought about it a lot throughout my pregnancy and during ultrasounds, I think that is when I realized it is an actual life. I sometimes wonder if it would have been a boy or girl, what it would of looked like and how old it would be now.
I would say to anyone that is thinking about it, its not just a one day thing that you never deal with again. I sometimes think that I do not deserve my son because of what I did. It haunts you forever and can understandibly make you depressed. I can't say that I would have kept the baby, I would not have been able to give it the life it should have had, but I should have considered adoption. There are so many people that are unable to have kids of their own, that would do anything for a baby and would give it such an amazing life!
The only somewhat positive thing that came from it, is the knowledge and experience that I can share with other people. It was the hardest and most selfish choice I ever made, if I could take it back I would!!!!

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you learned about the anger and meanness on this site this way. People are very angry when it comes to abortion, and many people will call you horrific things and tell you BS about the risks. Really, the risks are low, and the risk of affecting later childbirthing ability with the pill form (no, not the morning after, the actual abortion pill) is virtually nill.
YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE AT PLANNED PARENTHOOD or at another unaffiliated place that will give you REAL advice, not push you one way or the other. Abortions are not uncommon, and it is YOUR choice. Please call a local planned parenthood and schedule to meet with a counselor to talk about options, risks, etc.

The procedures vary from pills to surgery, and the pain/bleeding varies from woman to woman, but most women will feel pain (from period type cramps on up) and all will bleed-- to expell the fetus.

I hope these angry people have not made a very difficult time much harder for you. Not everyone is as angry or feels the same way they do. Good luck to you in whatever you choose. Be sure whatever decision you make is one YOU can live with-- not one the people around you can.

Answer 4

Why not consider adoption? I understand that you might not be in a position to have this baby, but you can find a family now who will pay for all the medical expenses and take the baby home directly from the hospital and give it a great life.

The risks I'd like you to consider are the emotional ramifications. You'll never forget about this. Your views on abortion may change as you get older. I know a woman who had an abortion about 20 years ago and is to this day unable to enjoy sex with her husband. You might think, "That will never be me..." but you never know.

I'm sure you'll get lots of "Let the baby live!" answers here, and I'm not going to do that, or try to guilt you into keeping it. Just give it some serious thought, OK? This is a big deal and you'll probably think about it on a daily basis for the rest of your life. You'll do that if you give the kid up for adoption also, but you can have open adoption, where they give you updates, and you will know that you made some people very grateful.

Answer 5

First, they will be more than happy to explain the entire procedure to you at one of the clinics. Most women do NOT bleed a lot, because they're uterus is pretty much cleaned out. There will be residual clotting, tho...sometimes light, sometimes heavy. The cramping after the trauma the body endures can be very painful...right along the lines of normal menstrual cramps.
I tried not going all "tsk, tsk" on you, but to no avail....if you're contemplating termination, what stopped you from contemplating the possibility of pregnancy in the first place?
If you're sure now is definitely NOT the best time to bring a child into the world, then terminate. Do NOT abuse this!! It will weaken the walls of your uterus, and leave the womb to be a little more likely to over react to other forms of trauma in the future. Ranging from an adrenaline rush from a roller coaster, to a simple bumpy car ride.
Either way, think of the child first, and what's best for it, ty.

Answer 6

All rude and nasty response aside, this is a decision you need to discuss with your doctor, and fast. The longer you wait, the harder it will be on your body and your heart.

Thing long and hard about why you want to terminate, and decide if abortion is really the best option for you. There are other options, including adoption and keeping the baby with family support.

You will bleed a lot, and it is painful. You can risk your future fertility with a poorly done abortion, and it can be difficult to find an abortion clinic, since it is outlawed in many places.

Just know that whatever decision you make, you will have to live with it for your entire life.

Answer 7

There are many people who would like to have a baby and can't. If the only reason you want to abort is because you're not ready to be a parent, you should talk to an OBGYN. I'm absolutely sure that he/she personally knows and can hook you up with adoptive parents who would be most extremely grateful for your gift, pay all your medical bills, and all the legal fees. You could even tell people you are a surrogate if you don't want anyone to know its yours.
The bleeding is definately more than a heavy period, and they will give you an anesthetic you'll be a little sore for a few days, as long as you go somewhere reputable and liscensed. The biggest pain comes years later in your heart when you realize what you could have done instead.

Answer 8

I had one 3 yrs ago. It was not too pain full, like bad cramps. Everyone will give you there opinion on the topic, but it's your decision. I do not regret my decision then or now. I am married with a baby on the way. Previous abortions ( if done correctly) will not hinder your ability to have children in the future. Wish you the best of luck whatever you may chose.

Answer 9

I've never had one myself and never would but my sister in law had one and she regrets it still to this day!It will always be on your mind as 'what would my baby have looked like' 'what would my baby have grown up to be like' and so on and so forth. She said it wasn't that painful physically but emotionally it is still crushing her. Because of the abortion she has seen a fertility doctor and was told that due to the abortion(when she had it done the lining or something had messed her uterus up) she can not reproduce anymore. I don't know personally if you would be able to conceive later down the line or not but I Would HIGHLY advise you not to terminate your baby. Give the baby up for adoption if you really can not have this baby. Give the poor thing a chance to live life. Ofcourse that is just my opinion and I am 100% against abortion so take it how you will....
Do what you feel is right.

Answer 10

It should not affect you having kids in the future, although it is not recommended to have more than 3 because it can cause scarring that can keep you from having kids in the future. Right now though since you are so early on, you can get the pill, which will leave you perfectly fine for the future. If you wait you'll have to have the D&C which isn't too bad. The procedure literally lasts just a minute, and the pain is what I'd equate to the worst cramps I have ever had. I barely bled at all (they pretty much clean out your whole uterus), and I was up and moving around perfectly fine the next day.

You do whatever you feel you need to do. Be prepared to get some mean responses from people on here, but only you know what is right for you. Good luck. Call your local planned parenthood for more information if you want. I promise they will be very nice to you.