my husband drinks to much?

Question

my husband drinks 5 to 7 beers a night is that a lot?
we have a 3 year old son and a daughter on the way. i wish for the kids that he wouldnt drink that much.
how do i tell him to not drink that much?
how much should he drink?

Answer 1

yes that's to much.. you need to have that talk with him if he will even talk about it.. as for me.. my hubby i would call a weekend alcoholic. i had been with him for 20 yrs at that time putting up with what drinking does to someone and i put my foot down 3 yrs ago.. i left him and that tore him up so bad that he quit drinking.. he has not drank in 3 yrs now..i am so proud of him.. hes a new person in life and with me. and he feels better then he ever has.. so yes its a lot to drink everyday.. he may even be hooked on it now. you should talk to him about it and if he wont talk to you about calmly.. please you go to get counseling. not that your nuts or nothing lol but its about how you feel and what you have to deal with. wife's tend to be enablers. it might not be bad now.. but i can promise you it will be later..1yr or 5 yrs or 10 yrs up the road. please dont let him get to where he is verbally or physically hurting you. that comes to later in life most time with drinking. your main thing to think about is your childern and what they might go through if he dont get help. and starting now is good time then ever. if you have already seen signs of things that his drinking is causing problems you need to try to talk to him about.. i wish you the best.. i've been there done that.. good luck to you and your family

Answer 2

If he drinks every night that much its a huge problem it only takes a few months for someone to become an alcholic.When that happens its all down hill from there.I think people should only drink socially and not very often.Children are more important than having a beer.Plus add that up one six pack depending on the brand is about 8.00 add it up monthly thats 224.00 a month thats your diaper money right there get it now its a big deal.

Answer 3

WOW! this could have been my question six months ago, but my husband was drinking a fifth of whiskey every night, and 2 on the weekends, i finally asked him one MORNING, while he was completely sober, if i could meet him after work at the local park, that i needed to talk to him, and it was serious, and i didnt want the kids to hear, so he did, after asking what was wrong a zillion times, but i never gave in, well we met, and i had looked up diseases and the liver on the internet, printed it all out, and i brought along pics of our wedding, and the kids, and asked him which he preferred, OUR life, or HIS life? i didnt talk ugly, or get mad, i did cry, but in the end, he did too, he has not had a drink in almost 7 months now, and when he does want one, he will ask me "where are the pics of the kids when they were babies?" and we both know he is craving the taste, and we pull out the family albums, or go for a walk, or anything to get his mind off of it...but if it bothers you, then he is drinking too much, or maybe its just too frequent, offer to go with him to AA or any type of help he feels he needs, he may be using drinking to run from stress....good luck

Answer 4

Yes, it is a lot. If he cannot go through a night without that much alcohol, he has a problem.

If he treats you and your son well, and is not violent at all, he may be using the beer to relax, but that is a lot for every night of the week.

I would be concerned if he starts to change moods, increases the amount he is drinking or makes any other changes regarding the alcohol consumption.

Best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 5

If he drinks that much every night then he is an alcoholic. He CHOOSES to drink that much, you can't tell him not to drink that much. You can tell him that you think he needs help for his drinking but only HE can make himself quit and that is only if he recognizes he has a problem and WANTS to stop drinking. Once an alcoholic always an alcoholic and they can NEVER drink again, even if they never drink again they are still alcoholics and will go to their graves "recovering", because if they ever take one drink it will be like they never quit. There is no "how much" he should drink he shouldn't drink at all. I suggest you look into Al Anon gor more information.

Answer 6

Have you told him that you are concerned? Does he ever go a night without a drink? Do bad things happen when he drinks? There is no magic number as to right and wrong... it's more about how it affects him and how it affects you and the kids.....
Seems you are worried about how to approach the subject... try just telling him how you feel and how you see it...
Don't tell him what to do or attack him.. stick with your concerns and your feelings.

Answer 7

they say one or two drinks aday are normal for guys and only 5 drinks a week for women. I say tell him e's ddrinking too much but I'm not sure that'll change anyting my dad is an alcoholic and he drinks a 6 pack a day and has since I was born...it might never change

Answer 8

I wouldn't nag him about it, but I would let him know you are concerned. My boyfriends dad is an alcoholic and so we are very aware of the risks associated with him drinking. Because of that I am very hard on my bf so that he doesn't become habitually what his father has. Do you really want your kids around that all the time? You have to be honest with him.

Answer 9

If he is going to work everyday and providing for his family then what is the problem?
Would you rather he go down to the pub and leave you to deal with the everyday dramas of being pregnant and having a 3 year old?
As long as he isnt violent, leave him be.

Answer 10

5-7 beers aint nothing compared to what i go through my stepdad goes through a case everyday=(