She left me for her superior at work, is there something that I can do to bring them down? I can't get over it yet, especially that we got kids, and she pretends that nothing is going on!
2007-08-09 14:48:19 · 17 answers · asked by ntpsyc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The beauty of this is you don't have to do anything. They will bring themselves down. Trust me on this one!
I was really good friends with someone who did the exact same thing to her husband! The only difference is they didn't have kids. She left her husband (who by the way is a wonderful person so it happens to the best of us) because she was having an affair with her boss.
Her relationship with her boss ended up not working and guess what? She was labeled every bad name a person can call a woman and lost a lot of friends over the whole thing.
People have very little tolerance for someone who did what she did, so I think the best thing you can do is make the best of it, get back on your feet and DON'T let them drag you down to their low-life level. You are better than that!!
2007-08-09 15:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything that is going to get you in trouble, you have kids that rely on their Dad.
No matter what happens, you have to be strong for the kids.
Make it clear to your wife that you want 50 - 50 with the kids and stay away from her.
If you seem like you dont care that she left, she will get over her fling and come crawling back.
2007-08-09 21:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing someone down is not going to make things better for you. What you need to do is to concentrate on you and your kids. I know its going to be hard but, you are going to have to move on and hold your head up. Your wife doesn't sound very mature and selfish. You need to step up and be the bigger person.
2007-08-09 22:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy806 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at u. would stay with u if u were her. at least get a shave, clean yourself up and move on. The only people who cant move on are people who cant find anyone else. Let them be happy. I know its hard but find your own happiness. dont waste your life and time trying to hurt others.
2007-08-09 21:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she left you how can she pretend nothing is going on.
I would see a lawyer to protect myself and my children....then I would see a therapist to help get your head back on straight.
She not worth crying over.
2007-08-09 21:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go on with your life. Don't do any thing to get yourself in trouble. You can't make someone love you. I know that it hurts. Over time you will get over this.
2007-08-09 21:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I think the best thing for you mentally would be to file for divorce and just let go it doesn't sound like she's coming back and it's time to face it head on...go see a counsellor
2007-08-09 21:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to "bring them down" you will only be hurting yourself. Your kids will suffer and you will have to pay more child support if she isn't working.
2007-08-09 21:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be brutally honest here. Your wife cheated on you AND your kids. She's a skank and I doubt you would choose her as a role model for your kids. Think about it.
2007-08-09 21:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get all your information together, and get custody of the kids. You don't want them being raised by someone who believes in hurting others.
2007-08-09 22:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋