He lies, is lazy, sorry (like good for nothing) and most of all takes no resposiblitly for his actions, has a attitude when asked to do simple chores, failing in school, and only seems to be happy when with his so called friends which appear to be just as or dummer than him. does'nt apoligize and shows no empathy.(no drugs that we know of)
2007-08-09 14:47:35 · 10 answers · asked by take1ads 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It sounds like he need some motivation to do thing in life. A few counsoling sessions wouldn't hurt but it would be good to get him motivated to do something. Try family volunteering and let him pick between a few things. Failing in school is not an option so work with him to make sure he is doing his homework and studying. As for any drug suspicions you can get an at home drug test kit and have him take it. He won't be happy about it but it's for his safety. Also, get him involvedi n a weekend or after school job so that he can make his own money and but things he wants. This will teach him some hard work and also make sure he saves 10% of it so that he learns how to responsibly handle money. Don't expect a big change because he is after all a teenager but you can't let him start his high school years like this or he will not adjust to life after graduation.
2007-08-09 16:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by al l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About the only concern I'd have here is that he's failing in school. This would be where you'd want to start. The rest of the symptoms sound like he has a severe case of being fifteen years old: that's how kids that age seem to their parents. If I was a school counselor, I'd first examine his life at home and what he thought of it. Has he been subjected to any physical or psychological abuse? It happens in the most prosperous homes. What do his parents expect of him?
Was he always in academic trouble, and if not, when did it begin, and why?
There'd be a drug test and discussions with his teachers and a careful examination of his records.
I'm rather disturbed by the phrase "good for nothing" in this question. It is a sweeping generalization and, in fact, sounds very much like you simply don't like the kid. That itself would account for the problems you've listed.
2007-08-09 14:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by 2n2222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Alexis, Was you step son ever evaluated by school psychiatrist when he was younger or any other learning specialist?. It very well could be do emotional, verbal or physical abuse from the history you described but there also seems to be traits of autism involved though I stand to be corrected. I have worked in Special Education for several years and What he is doing with the underwear in of it's self just rises questions in my own mind. Your step son definitely needs to be evaluated and seen by a psychiatrist. If I were you I would get this done A.S.A.P. so he can receive the help he needs and this will also be of great benefit and help to you as well. As far as the stealing, that needs to be nipped in the bud and fast!, If he ends up in jail he WILL NOT get the proper help he needs. Your step son is still young and has a chance to change his life for the better if given the opportunity. I just have a gut feeling on this, but like I stated above, when having him evaluated do ask about autism to see if that is a remote possibility. I wish you the best of luck. Sincerely, Alice H.
2016-05-18 03:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by angelena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hah, sounds a lot like me during my high school years. What I can tell you is it isn't a psychological situation. It sounds more like a phase, right now I suppose as a parent you could just do your best to be there for him. Don't be afraid to be stern if you have to, tell him he needs to do chores and other things or he won't be able to see his friends or watch tv or something. It sounds like he may not be very disiplined though, I think you should probably enforce some extra dicipline instead of waiting for him to shape up and get out of the phase.
2007-08-09 14:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he suffers from having parents who cop out when things get tough, and allow him to be difficult without their fighting until the problem is solved.
Parenting is tireless, endless, and completely selfless. The result of those things is a functional teenager, and member of the adult community later in life.
Any child is hard to deal with, at any age, but pain in the butt teenagers dont just "happen", theyre raised.
Its really hard being a teenager, and thinking you know everything. Its even harder to be a parent and realize you know nothing.
2007-08-09 14:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is the disorder called
"hormonal teenager!" and unfortunately, they haven't created a cure yet. If you think your sons bad, listen to this. If i wake my 17 year old daughter up at 11:00 in the summer she swears at me and says "shut the door you ****** *****!" I can't believe the disrespect she shows me!
Sorry, don't think this can be cured =/
2007-08-09 16:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a bad case of being a teenager.
And the good-for-nothing thing sounds like something a woman might say about their ex-husband . . . It's a little harsh to say about your kid. If my mom said that about me I wouldn't talk to her for awhile.
2007-08-09 15:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by Shane 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but that seems kindof normal for a 15 year old boy.
2007-08-09 14:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he does, it's because you're being a shittty parent and calling him dumb. wtf is your problem? you dont ever call a child dumb or stupid or bad or anything. if anything his problem is that he doesn't have a good role model. now either start being a good parent or face the fact that your child will continue with this behavior until you treat him better and pay more attention to him.
i'll pray for your son.
-Emily <3
2007-08-09 20:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he's normal.
2007-08-09 15:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋