I have always been big busted and my back really kills me. I want to reduce them but my husband is against it . What should i do?
2007-08-09 14:29:31 · 28 answers · asked by sassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have yours reduced and his enlarged. He can play with them all day long and you can relax with a pain free back.
2007-08-09 14:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
please excuse me, but what the he** are all u women crying over here? back problems are nothing 2 sneeze at, and who cares what breast-reduced boobs look like after a reduction as unless u live and work in a nudist colony they make bras to cover imperfections? so since it'll only b u 'n ur hubby seeing them naked, is it so bad that they may b "different" if u are now more healthy???... and truthfully after looking at lotsa womens boobs i've never found an imperfect pair yet, no matter the size. when ur husbands r crying over the "loss", and you feel more healthy...ask them why its so important 4 them 2 have more than a mouthfull when its helping make u more healthy and their mouths r only so big anyway?? I looked at my wifes naked and i sure didn't look 4 imperfections, i looked at beauty and thats what ur husbands should b looking at also.
sorry but i had 2 vent, hate hearing about ppl that aren't "allowed" 2 b healthy just b'cause their hubbies think they'll lose out on something.
2007-08-09 23:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what is best for you.. did ur husband marry ur bust or you? Would he rather u be in pain, then for ur bust to be smaller? How selfish would that be? Do what u feel is best for u, he'll just have to get over it.. its not like they will be gone, just smaller then they are now.. and that doesnt mean u have to get an A cup, u can still be well endowed with out being so endowed that ur in pain..
2007-08-09 21:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say try to make him understand you have a problem with your chest size.....Men cannot understand what pain and discomfort big breasts can cause because they don't have any!
Tell him you will feel better physically, and that you NEED to do this reduction. Maybe if you talked to a doctor and HE talked to your husband he would feel differently.
Hopefully he will understand it is not just a cosmetic thing- If you have backaches life is a bummer!
2007-08-09 21:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel although my fiance has no problem with a breast reduction but I have pain also and your husband should be more concerned about your health than his pleasures thats kinda selfish just explain the situation and if that doesnt work buy him fake boobs that weigh the same and make him where them around so he knows what you are going through
2007-08-09 21:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by freckleface 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what you need to do for your health and comfort. My husband would not jump for joy if I had my breasts reduced, but he cares enough about me to want me to feel good. If I explained the size of my breasts were causing me pain, and a reduction would help, he would agree (reluctantly, but he would). I would ask your husband what is more important to him-large beasts that are a constant source of strain and pain, or your well being. If big boobs for him to play with are more important to him than your health, I would re-examine that relationship.
2007-08-09 21:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!!! I won't have mine done for a few reasons: I don't like how they look after the procedure...they are lop-sided and uneven and not as circular in shape afterwards. Also, if you haven't had kids, but are planning on them, wait until after all your children are born! Or else not only will you have the above problems, but they will get stretched out even more, then that looks so much worse!!!! If you really need them reduced, u do whats best for you, not your hubby. Just do your research!!!! Many women have implants after they get a reduction, just to improve the shape of their breasts
2007-08-09 21:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by mrsprincess07 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Love yourself first. If your husband doesn't understand, then you need to ask yourself what are his priorities. Sure, you dont want to be flat chested, you can still have a nice bustline. A small difference in size can make a big difference in your back.
2007-08-09 21:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by smokymtnheaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I feel your pain. I suffer from the same affliction.
Secondly, they are not your hubby's. He does not know the physical pain that you are in and I do not think very highly of him for saying that he is against it.
The point is this: to him, he sexually enjoys them. To you: they are painful and hinder a lot....(I know). They are yours and you may do with them what you wish. He loves you, but does not own you. You have to do what is best for you physically and medically.
Tell him to strap two 5 lb. bags of sugar to chest and walk around for a week....he will have a whole new appreciation for what we go through.
2007-08-09 21:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem as you. I told my husband I wanted to do the reduction and he was a little upset about it. Let him know how its affecting your health and your back. You need to let him know that if your back's gonna kill you, than he's just going to have to deal with you having smaller boobs. Whats said is said
2007-08-09 21:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mandie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the breasts are the sole cause of the back pain, then you should have the reduction. If your husband loves you, he will want you out of pain and he will get over the loss.
2007-08-09 21:43:33 · answer #11 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋