hello all my husband want divorce and i don't how can i stop it from happening please help?

Answer 1

You can't stop him if he is dead set to get one. I guess the real question is why he wants one. Try and talking to him and find out the real reason he does want a divorce and than you have somewhere to start and trying to work it out. Good Luck

Answer 2

It depends on whether or not he has filed for a divorce or not yet. At first stage there is a mediation stage and you can explain that you would like to seek counseling before considering divorce because that is not your intent on seeking a divorce. Most courts honor this request because they too would rather see a marriage intact then one end. If there are children involved this would even make a stronger case for court ordered counseling before a divorce could even be entertained.

You don't list the circumstances of why your husband wants a divorce so I can't really answer much more than I have except unless one of you has stepped outside the marriage then its a different game in divorce proceedings.

In the meantime, if you have not done so already and you are in a position to do so, open up your own account and start putting money away just in case.

I hope this helps some.

Answer 3

Honey, you really can't stop it, at least not for good if your husband wants a divorce.

Ask him what the problems were in the marriage. Suggest marriage counseling or counseling with your pastor. Please do not think that the divorce is your fault. If you havent changed, then your husband has changed and sometimes people just grow apart. It's possible that your husband still loves you, but just isnt in love with you anymore. It's sad, but true.

If you really, truly want to prolong the divorce, you can hire an attorney and have them try to drag out the divorce as long as possible by not settling and not being available for court dates and not filing the paperwork until the deadline date. These are only stalling tactics and probably won't "stop" the divorce.

Don't sell yourself short. Get out and move on with your life-that's the best revenge. Show your husband that you don't need him in order to live a fulfulling life. It won't be easy, but you can survive this.

Answer 4

teedy, OH boy I can feel your desperation......Divorce is NEVER as easy as allot want to make it seem. When you are married there is a joining not just physically, but there is the uniting of two souls. Have the two of you sought counseling?, And are even aware of his reasons? Try to communicate with him and listen to what he has to say, and take it a step at a time. chances are he doesn't want the divorce, but, is feeling that this is the only way to get your attention. A lot of men don't know how to express how they feel. Some are afraid that they will appear week. When they are growing up alot of them are taught not to show emotion, just swallow it and keep it inside. We on the other hand are more likely to voice our opinion because that's the way girls are taught, we are hurting we call a girlfriend, talk about every detail, and then Analise the problem, then talk about it again. Men don't. Try to get him talking, And I will be praying for you
Michelle

Answer 5

Well first you need to find out why he's wanting to divorce you. Then you need to see if you and him can get together and have a conversation without yelling and getting mad and storming out. Make sure to talk and listen. After you know the problem see if you and him can solve it and you and him acna move on with life together. But if it's too late all you can do is talk about why he's wanting a divorce and maybe next time you won't make the same mistake again. ALso take him to the cleaners int eh divorce or else he will.

Answer 6

If you think that the two of you can make your marriage work, you can slow things down long enough for him to think of this, too. You must, however, not give him any new reason for thinking he's better off without you.

Refuse to do anything to make it happen. Don't move, don't sign anything, don't tell your friends or family. Be as pleasant as possible, acknowledge his wishes and treat his desire as something that will pass. This will frustrate him a good deal. Decide now how much yelling and anger you can tolerate from him before you'll give in and let him go.

I read a book years ago off a Christian shelf about how either spouse could do this. Try a Pentecostal church pastor; he may know what it is.

Answer 7

If a man doesn't want to be with you.....he doesn't want to be with you. Whether you get divorced or not, if he still feels this way, he will just cheat on you or remain distant and unhappy towards you. So why hang on...to someone who doesn't care anymore? I know he made a promise and he shouldn't be doing this to you, especially if you have not added to the problem, but you can't stop him from feeling the way he does, unless drastic changes are made. And maybe even then it won't change his mind.

If it is something you have done...you could always try begging... and when you say you are going to change...mean it and DO IT!

Answer 8

Maybe he isn't the right one for you. A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. Divorce can also mean freedom. Find out who your are and do things YOU want to do. Check out a country song called ,"let herself go" Really made me open my eyes. If you two are meant to stay together, you have to meet on a certain level and COMPROMISE. Marriage counseling is great to.

Answer 9

First of all you need to know why its happening?? What is wrong that he has decided its not worth going on with the marriage???? Before you agree to a divorce I suggest you both get some counseling......that way you cant say you didnt try to make it work....

Answer 10

Sorry to hear about this, but if he has already made up his mind and wants a divorce, there is little you can do.

Many men give you signals that they are not happy...Some women cannot see them- or they choose to ignore them.

I would normally suggest you go to counseling or therapy, but it sounds like it's too late for that. Good luck.