I was dating a man that I found out was married. He says that he is going to leave his wife when he returns home and I want to believe him. I have been in a relationship with him since 2005 and of course I have fallen in love with him. I think he is my soul mate because he makes me so happy. I smile whenever I say his name but I can't help think about him and her. I keep trying to cut him off and walk away but I find myself being weak and I continue to talk to him but I don't see him. I have cut off all communication once again until he gets the divorce. I want to know after he gets the divorce should I stay with him or should I just walk away now?
2007-08-09 13:28:46 · 10 answers · asked by Jade W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you've been seeing this man since 2005 and you just found out that he's married, what makes you think that he's ever going to leave his wife? He hid his marriage from you for 2 years!
I would bet that he has no intention of leaving. He just told you that to keep you with him.
And, even if he does get divorced, do you really want a man that lied to you for 2 years??
2007-08-09 13:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you cut off communication until he gets a divorce. He needs to figure out what he wants and you shouldn't continue cheating with him while he works it out. If he is truly your soul mate then you two will be together someday. You need to decide whether you think he's worth waiting for or not. Don't wait forever though. Good luck...
Also, Just Some Girl is right...make sure if he does get a divorce that he takes some time to get things settled with her and get over his marriage ending before you start up with him again...
2007-08-09 20:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by sabresgirl14221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long he was married, he's going to need some time after getting his divorce to get with you. Even if he insists that he wants you to be in his life, you can tell him that you just want to date him for a little while to make sure that he's ready to get back into another relationship after ending his marriage.
You don't necessarily have to walk away. Just keep in mind that he makes you happy right now, but once you guys get together the little things that he does will make you think that you don't love him anymore. Don't walk away from things then either.
2007-08-09 20:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. He isn't getting a divorce.
2. He has the best of both worlds.
3. No commitment, since he isn't committed to his wife, either.
4. Obvious you had sex with him, he is your "soul mate," but with his wife, too.
5. You are in a relationship that will NEVER benefit you and hurts another relationship.
6. If he cheated on his wife for this, he will definitely cheat on you when the next beauty comes around.
You are ripe for a fall that will take years to recover.
2007-08-09 20:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 2 years and still no divorce! Wake up girl!! He's getting the best of both worlds while you wait for him like a puppy..don't you love yourself enough to say- I've had it and I won't be treated second best..Don't you want to be a priority to him, the way you have made him yours?
Get out of this..otherwise you deserve the misery you put yourself in, so stop complaining about sharing a man with another woman.
2007-08-09 20:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you confused about? You're a whore phucking a married man. He tells you he is going to leave his wife just so he can continue to use you which is what you have been allowing him to do for the past 2 years. You have no self respect obviously and no morals or values. That's not all that confusing, and if you ARE confused, it is all YOUR doing.
2007-08-10 00:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. He has no intention of getting a divorce.
2. If he did divorce her and marry you, don't you think he would cheat on you too??
Dump him, move on, you deserve better.
2007-08-09 20:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Donna J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No go will ever come out of this relationship, walk away if you have a backbone.
2007-08-09 20:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away! Look to Jesus
2007-08-09 20:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOUR fu..cked up...get over it you home wrecker ...he is never going to leave his wife for you..stupid!
2007-08-09 20:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋