2007-08-09 13:24:22 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you don't want to do it, don't.
2007-08-09 13:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your "gut feeling?" Are women ashamed of their husbands?
This was a rare instance until the last 25 years or so, when the feminist movement went forth. Now some men are taking the woman's name.
Why has things changed so much in the last 20 years?
My wife had no doubt to change her name to mine. Now everyone in the family knows the heritage on this branch of the tree.
2007-08-09 20:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband said that I was refusing him by not taking his name. It wasn't a big deal to me so I changed it but is ugly and I hate it. I wish I would have kept mine. Now he doesn't even remember asking me to do it and tells me I can change it back if I want to. Just go with your gut.
2007-08-09 20:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by kari 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now thats interesting...
why is it that you are choosing not to change your last name?
Muslims always keep their last names. I guess the tradition for starting to change the last names came from the idea that when a woman married she becomes the property of her husband?
in Islam we are always the daughter of our fathers even if we marry, and do not become the property of our husbands so we are not supposed to change our names.
2007-08-09 20:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the big deal? do you have religious beliefs that would keep you from doing so? or is there a reason, other than your gut, that would keep you from wanting to do it? as far as I am concerned, you don't have to. but don't let it be a reason for a rift in your marriage. if it's that important to him, and not so much to you other than your gut, do it for him. it will show him how much you care for him. if you have a good reason not to, then tell him and talk it out. good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-08-09 20:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 4 years now and i still have my maiden name. I don't see anything wrong with that and when we first got married he would ask when I was going to change it but now he feels that I'll change it when I'm ready. I think your last name shouldn't define your relationship.
2007-08-09 20:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I get married, I would like my wife to take my last name. But if she really didn't want to, I would certainly take hers. I think it is important that we have the same last names after marriage. So whatever you decide, I hope you'll make sure that happens--even if it means hyphenating them.
2007-08-09 20:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut, you ALWAYS go with your gut
There's nothing that says you HAVE to take your husbands last name.
If he has a problem with it, ask how he feels about him taking your last name.
2007-08-09 20:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you afraid of losing your independence??? is that why you feel as you do???? You do not have to take his last name, but I cant understand why you wouldnt... you are becoming his wife, not a different person............ think about why you dont want to change it....if you cant come up with a good answer, then go with your feelings........
2007-08-09 20:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling!
2007-08-09 20:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, that is the way that it is supposed to be. But there is no law that says you have to. If you are more comfortable keeping your own name then do it. If he loves you and you two are secure in your relationship, then it should be no big deal.
2007-08-09 20:28:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋