helpp me im so nervouse and freaking out.. i dont want to hurt her by saying no but i dont do the whole gay thing im very straight
2007-08-09 13:13:51 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Then just say "no". What's the big deal?
PS
I've been asked out by friends in college. All of them handled it very maturely. I'll be she's just as nervous as you.
2007-08-09 13:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Buttercup 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I believe in this case honesty is the best policy. If you go out with her on a date she will probably think you are into her and you will end up hurting her more because she might begin to get involved with you and is not exactly what you really want to happen.
I think maybe you could say you appreciate her invitation but unfortunetely you can't go out with her because you don't see her at the same way that she does and you don't think it is fair to give her hope if you cannot give what she wants.
Good luck with whatever decision you make! think about what is going to be the best solution for the two of you.
2007-08-09 15:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a minute. She is your best friend, yet doesn't appear to realise that you're not a lesbian?
Why would that be the case? This makes no sense. What kind of best friend would think you were a lesbian if you aren't? She should know you much better than that, if she is really your best friend.
Unless she does realise you're hetero and just wants to go out as a friend, like any other friend, and you're freaking out for nothing.
2007-08-09 13:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tuff one!
Well, you have to hurt her and say no. I would say this "I am EXTREAMLY flattered and honored that you would even consider me for a date or a girlfriend. I really am. Becasue I love you and admire you and youre my best friend. But Im sorry I just dont have those feelings towards women. BUT, if I ever do.....you will be the FIRST that I call!!!" Then give her a hug.
2007-08-09 13:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax! if your friend is gay and asked you out then you should be flattered. My advice is dont stress...just mkae a joke of it...tell friend that you are very flattered by you are straight. If you feel like making it more light hearted then you could say...well one day when i'm fed up with men you'd be first on my list!
2007-08-09 13:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by C2266 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you get the wrong end of the stick? I mean, did she actually ask you out on a date or just ask you out as friend and you freaked thinking she meant out on a date. If she did ask you out on a date just say your not interested but your flattered. No big dilemma, just be honest with your mate.
2007-08-09 13:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by GBMC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well give it ago u neva no u might like it tell her ur only gonna have some fun or sex 2 start with and u may go 4 more if u enjoy it
2007-08-09 13:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that you are straight. You dont want to go out with her just to keep from hurting her because the longer you wait to tell her the harder it will be for her. Make sure she knows that you value your friendship.
2007-08-09 13:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should say no. If you're straight then that's one reason, but in general, you shouldn't start a sexual relationship with a longtime friend!
What's gonna happen is it's gonna be fun for a while, and then it's going to get awkward and then you're gonna slowly drift apart! It's not worth it!
2007-08-09 17:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her know if shes a friend she will understand, on the other hand if you decide to do anything with her let me watch and video it for prosperity
2007-08-09 13:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by stlrfan58 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋