say somebody did something real bad, not bad enough to go to jail for or anything...if they asked you to forgive them and honestly had changed, would you forgive them? should you forgive them? like say the person was an emotional wreck and did some stupid things to try to solve their problems...if they honestly said sorry and had seriously changed, should you forgive them? thanks!
2007-08-09 11:34:36 · 7 answers · asked by julie h 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
forgiving someone helps YOU more than it helps them.
So if i could, i would.
2007-08-09 11:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can say this with 100% certainty: YES, you absolutely should forgive someone, and I will further clarify this by saying you should forgive even if the person you are forgiving hasn't changed a bit and doesn't care one bit what they did to you. The reason I say this is because when you hold unforgiveness in your soul, it will literally eat you up for as long as you hold onto it, to the point of absolutely making you ill. (Ever wonder where a lot of ulcers come from?) Also, your life will ALWAYS come back to that unforgiveness until you let it go, so you really can never move forward in life. Having said that, I realize that it is not an easy thing to do, but you HAVE to do it!!! You also need to realize that just because you forgive someone doesn't necessarily mean that you will forget what happened, BUT I can assure you that as time goes on, that memory will have less and less of a hold on you. When you hold onto unforgiveness towards someone, just remember that they are going on merrily with their life completely oblivious to you and what they did to you, while you on the other hand are holding onto something that will cause your life to be in "Replay" mode for as long as you carry that unforgiveness. Do yourself the best favor you could do, and just let it go. And then smile and get on with your life.
2007-08-09 18:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by WhoMe? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It honestly depends on the situation. Some things are easier to forgive than others.... it's very subjective. If they're sorry, that definitely helps. I think forgiveness is for you more than the person you're forgiving.. it's sort of a way to release anger, sort of to make peace.
2007-08-09 18:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Julie...first understand what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is a choice...you say to God that you are willing to become willing to forgive...the rest is God's job! When we ask God to change our hearts...we have done our job...then allow him to do his. YES...this really does work 100% sure.
Forgiveness is NOT pretending it didn't happen. Forgiveness is NOT just saying magic words that make it happen...it must happen on a spiritual level....because that is where the wound is.
2007-08-09 18:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by LoveUSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive them and put them out of their misery. it is hard to swallow ones pried in asking forgiveness. even the idea that you made a mistake is hard enough for most people. asking forgiveness takes a lot of humility and effort from the asker. always forgive, my friend and you will have peace of mind whether they mean it or not.
2007-08-09 19:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you'll both feel better. Besides, how you expect God to forgive you if you won't do the same? I think it's great that your friend had the guts to confront you & ask! Most just avoid people they know they have hurt. Good luck to your friend!
2007-08-09 19:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Crossfire Kelly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must forgive them for your own sake. If you do not forgive, you hold bitterness inside and it festers and makes you ill.
2007-08-09 18:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋