My bf works 1 1/2 hours away a few days a week at his best friend's house. Last night he didn't come home at all (he told me a specific time he was going to be home). I was worried he got into a car accident. When he got home today I told him I was angry he didn't call me to say he was not coming home (claimed his phone was broken, then later said it was dead). He does this all the time where he'll say he's going to be here at a certain time and then never bothers to say he's late or not coming at all. I hate being left hanging. He just accused me of being a control freak and said it shouldn't matter what time he comes home at. What do you think?
2007-08-09 11:34:15 · 12 answers · asked by pingponggirl 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
No, I wouldn't care at all if he called to say he wasn't coming home.
2007-08-09 11:40:31 · update #1
I get the most answers when I post questions in this section. I've gotten plenty of serious answers...just depends on the subject matter.
2007-08-09 11:43:39 · update #2
This isn’t just about me being worried. Often I will go to my dad’s house while he is working with his best friend b/c it is only 10 minutes away from there. He'll say he's going to pick me up at a certain time from my dad’s then show up 3 hours late at like 4am and then we have to drive 1 ½ hours to get home because he wants to sleep in our bed (we live together). It’s draining to drive back that late, but we only have one car so I have to go with him.
2007-08-09 11:59:25 · update #3
Him and his friend are night owls. They work until the wee hours of the morning in his friend's garage making car parts. He's so far off the mark b/c he's inconsiderate and doesn't think it matters what time he shows up at. I don't think he's cheating. As embarrassing as this is to admit, I have my license but am afraid to drive, so I probably will not be buying a car any time soon. I go to my dad's b/c I get lonely sometimes when he's working so far away.
2007-08-09 12:38:02 · update #4
I don't think you're being a control freak. He is telling you he will be there at a certain time. The mature thing for him to do would be to at least call you if he is going to be late. I would discuss it with him in a way that doesn't belittle him or make him feel he is "in trouble". Like, "hey, I was a little worried about you, I don't care where you were I just want to be sure you're safe." Or..."my friends wanted to hang out and I didn't because I was so worried about you, next time call me so I can keep my self busy when you're not available."
2007-08-09 11:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by MelJoJo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's being inconsiderate. the bigger issue is what is he doing to be out that late AND why is he so far off the mark on what time he says he's going to be there and what time he shows up.
it sounds to me like he's cheating on you.
no offense but if you're not working, you need to get a job (take the bus if you have to) and save up some money to buy your own car. get some independence. if he knows he can get away with it why would he change? in a way he's the controlling one.
2007-08-09 19:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by frostbite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well
he is your boyfriend not your husband. but i think if he says he will be home and hes not thats messed up because its causes you to worry. If he called and said something like "Im not going to come home tonight im too tired" would you be ok with that? Or would you get mad at him? if so. thats kinda being a control freak ;)
2007-08-09 18:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mikey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ......I think I would be very disappointed in him as well. He did call and say that he would be there but never showed or never called saying that he was too tired to drive. If this is happening a lot I think I would start to question his fidelity.
2007-08-15 05:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not a control freak... It is being disrespectul for him to not call you and let you know that he isnt coming home. He doesnt have to explain himself but to let you know that he isnt coming so that you can relax and enjoy your night without waiting up wondering if he is ok. Tell him that he is being very very disrespectful to you
2007-08-16 20:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by mcksimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an inconsiderate jerk to me. If I were you, I would try explaining to him how this makes you feel. Then if he does not make an effort, I suggest you leave him and find someone that treats you with respect.
2007-08-15 18:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Running Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does this all the time, maybe you should consider the possibility of other motives for his not coming home...
And you may want to consider changing that 'boyfriend' status...just my opinion, of course!
: )
2007-08-17 15:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by rockiebattles411 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only common courtesy to let you know if hes not coming home especially these days they still have phone boxes on the corner, i'm sure if you did the same to him he'd soon have something to say!!!
2007-08-17 12:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just part of the anxiety. He needs to be respectful of you and tell him if you tried to constantly pull that on him he wouldn't stand for it.
2007-08-09 21:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think that you are a control freak, you care about him and it seems to me that he does not feel the same way about you.........find yourself someone who will appericate you and kick him to the curb
2007-08-15 20:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by foxyhdgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋