Ok we have been together for 5 long years. We love each other very much and have been through alot. I have stood by him no matter what and now he wants out. He says he loves me and is not making any attempt to leave. He doesnt understand why im angry.
2007-08-09 11:32:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He loves you but he isn't IN love with you. If you can, move on.
2007-08-09 11:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not giving enough info.
Perhaps you've been in a relationship and he wants more.Perhaps he wants to get married and you don't.
Perhaps he just wants more than just a loving friend and wishes a relationship. Perhaps he has met someone else.
You said you have been thruogh alot.... does that mean there was finacnial difficulties or someone was caught cheating on the other.
He loves you and is not leaving.... So why does that make yuou angry? Cause you cheated on him and expected him to storm out and instead he stays and loves you?
or
Maybe it was his place you moved into with him and now you expect as the realationship disolves that he should move out. But he is not making any attempt to leave.
There are just to many unanswered questions, and love is not simple that a relationship can be summed up in 3 lines.
2007-08-09 18:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by bill45310252 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure his age, but you know what all men get this way at one point of another.
Maybe he is feeling like he is trapped and wants to play the field??
Now, what you need to do is decide what you want. He keeps playing mind games with you, isn't it messing with your mind???
Next time he says he wants out make it very clear that if that is what he wants then he needs to do it and quit talking about it. Tell him you cannot handle the stress he is puttin on you!
And you know this may sound really hard to do, but you know maybe you need to make the first move.
My ex did that to me. He was saying how he wished he was free like his friends. And for like a year, we went through fight after fight, until, I made up my mind to leave.
I could have never made a better decision in my life! So, You know he is playing this mind game on you to get you to leave first so he doesn't have to be the bad guy,
Well that is BS...
You need to get out if he cannot do it himself!
You will either find yourself another man or the time apart will make you two grow stronger!
2007-08-09 18:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by missfrog25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell him how you feel, you're not angry at him you're angry about the situation. If he wants to break up with you, he has the right to do that but you can make sure you tell him you love him and if he goes this will break your heart. But that's all you can do-if you don't want him to go. Or ask him if there's a specific reason for his decision, that you'd be willing to change it if you can.
2007-08-09 18:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I am confused. He wants out. He loves you. He is not making any attempt to leave? This boy needs to make up his mind. Is he in or out? Tell him he needs to make a committment here... you may not want marriage...but you need to know if he is coming or going. What is he doing? Waiting for someone else to come along and "rescue" him? Is he mooching off of you until he finds another woman to mooch off of?? yeah. I can see why you are angry. He needs to poop or get off the pot as my momma used to say.
2007-08-09 18:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants out, but is not making any attempt to leave??? I think you need to fix that. Anyway, if he has problems with commitment, you're better without him.
2007-08-09 18:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by smartchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to end it but as long as he doesn't have to commit, he won't leave. And yes, he does understand why you're angry but again, as long as it doesn't cost him, he'll stay. So..... it's up to you to take care of yourself emotionally by making him leave or leaving yourself, whichever is your choice. You can't have what you want so don't babysit him!
2007-08-09 19:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard! but get out! things happen for a reason, you are not meant to be together!
2007-08-09 18:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to end it then there must be someone else who is more important to him than you there fore his interest is becoming less and less towards you ,hence it is better for you to separate amicabily
2007-08-09 18:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by poonaforyou_2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should really explain to him how you feel. If this doesn't help you try going to dmlive.com.
2007-08-09 18:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋