Go back to the old ways?

Question

I think the old ways of bringing up kids are the best. Kids always knew someone was there for them(usually mum). They had respect because they got a smack if they didn't. Today, we are told you mustn't smack, shout or say 'no' to your child too much. Kids have free reign, parents are afraid to do anything incase they damage them and alot of the kids grow up with strangers anyway.
I say go back to the old ways. Who agrees with me?

purplepeace59, that's interesting..maybe things will work their way back to civilisation after all.

Answer 1

the French still adopt the 'old way' the children are polite and very well behaved. discipline is a must we have failed 2 generations in this new attitude it just doesn't work

Answer 2

I see a lot of the rich kids that have you're "free reign". I was seated next to one at a restaurant. She was really beautiful but she was smacking her mouth / eating with her mouth open. All I could think of during the meal was, "where the heck were your parents when you were growing up?" I wanted to slap her SO hard. I'm lucky it seems, as I've grown up, that my parents are much older than those of my peers...I was raised with those old ways! I did NOT hit my parents! I did NOT talk back! I did NOT do as I wished. Parents are parents for a reason...children CAN NOT make successful decisions on their own...they don't know anything! I understand not "hitting" your child, but they will not learn from words..I've seen too many friends (moms) that verbally disciplined their children. Those little kiddos walk all over her now. Humans, and any other creature for that matter, learn that PAIN = BAD!

Answer 3

I do agree.

I'm currently at home with my 8 month old baby son - I tried working and couldn't afford the childcare (have no family nearby to look after him) plus hated leaving him with strangers. I missed him so much

We are struggling so badly on just my partner's low wage but I hate the idea of leaving my baby with someone else. I will thin of going back to work but not till he's school age if we can help it.

I do also beleive in instilling respect into children andboundaries. We have got some horrible little bastards living around us - little monsters who are contantly causing trouble in the neighbourhood, the police don't want to know and neither do their parents. They need a bloody good smack.

Answer 4

I did a survey for work where I asked about smacking. Most of the younger people said that they were alt right smacking. But strangely enough most of the older people. 65+ were against smacking and claimed they had never smacked their children.

Answer 5

Agreed

Answer 6

yes the old days and old ways appeared good but in them days self expression and rules were imposed on people and things happened behind closed doors that have only been brought to light now.
nowadays things have changed because the parents of the children who they are soft on had it hard so reversed it (to the extreme)
we need the balance of a bit of the old and a bit of the new.

Answer 7

Yes i think you've got it right with the word "Respect"
My brother and i knew we could go so far and no further when we were children...that's where children learn respect for people, at home from their parents...respect for an individual and respect for humanity...it carries us through life and extends to everyone we meet.
Good question...

Answer 8

i sure do. I remember back when I did something wrong and mom would take care of it in her own way, then dad gets home and I would get it again. You had respect for the elders of your family. Always said "yes ma'me "yes sir". you wore what was given to you, pass me downs or not, and always ate what was on your plate. Is this cruel and unusual punshisment. I don't think so!

Answer 9

I agree. It never harmed us when we received the occasional clip to the back of the head or a slap on the bum. This country has become too PC and is frightened to death of it's own shadows.