why do we fall in love,,,,,and its yet so hard to get out of it?
2007-08-09 10:48:00 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
i am a male.
2007-08-09 10:59:02 · update #1
Assuming you are talking about amorous love(couples)!!!
Love comes from emotional and biological need to belong and/or procreate. It also comes as a response to the feeling of achievement that comes from thinking you found or finding the special someone. From getting used to and becoming fond of someones ways and presence. From the security of feeling you have whom to rely on and/or come home to...
The later comes from having invested so much of us into someone that came to mean so much that we have a hard time "to get out of it"... This combined with the feelings of failure, insecurity and fear of loneliness! Also, because we always feel it might be fair to give it another chance...
Once you love the object of your love becomes part of your identity. Dropping a part of your identity is a tough thing to do by any standards!!!
There is nothing wrong or unholly about being sincerely driven by what some would call mortal feelings and/or biology... it is that which makes us human more than anything... and in it lays the reason why we shine when we actually do well !!!
2007-08-09 11:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by ikiraf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love comes from our hearts, we fall in love because we feel so much for one person that we will do anything for them, that includes trusting them with our heart.
Its so hard to get out of it because once you give someone your heart, you show trust, when they reject it, you feel really bad because the one person you trusted has completely left you in the dark and doesn't want the love and trust you offer them.
It hurts because you've been rejected by a person you really liked and had really strong feelings for. It feels horrible for a while but you really just have to pull yourself together and realize that by wasting all the time you are over one person isn't worth your time, because you could be out there giving love another chance and meet your true soul mate.
Remember,
"No guy is worth your tears, and the one who is, would never make you cry them"
That's What I Think.
Anyways..
Good Luck
:]
2007-08-09 17:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by little.miss.hot.lips 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is the act of considering the self interest of another as though it were you own.
It is what allows us to form couples and groups.
Love evolved to help us form groups, because groups help us survive. As sexual creatures forming couples is virtually mandatory. A couples continued interest in it's offspring profoundly increases the offspring's chance of survival.
It's hard to get 'out' of Love because Love is important.
That being said, it's far from impossible to stop loving someone; so don't be stupid.
Unconditional Love is a really bad idea.
Love the people who love you.
2007-08-09 18:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love in this material world is a perverted reflection of the Absolute love, which is on the Spiritual Platform.
We are not this material body, IE; Race, color, nationality, Religion, mind, intellect, senses, job, etc. We are all eternal spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul, also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. We never die, only this mortal body dies.
This material world is not our real home, it is called Maya (illusion) and is temporary and full of misery, only one fourth of the souls come here, and the rest are enjoying blissful eternal loving relationships with our Maker named above. All relationships in this word are based on illusion and are temporary here. Those who are intelligent take up the process of Self realization (Bhakti Yoga) and end all suffering and illusion. And at the end of life return to the eternal love we are all searching for (named above) I choose real love.
For info. Go to harekrishnatemple.com Read Bhagavad Gita- As it is by Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada asitis.com you can
2007-08-09 19:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is realising that you and the obeject of your love are actualy just one whole. And how can you later make yourself ignorant of that fact?
And to the one who said unconditional love is a bad thing, it isn't ;) I think you may be refering to a BLIND unconditional love, which isn't as good. Most of the kindest people are normaly depicted as having uncoditional love for all.
2007-08-09 19:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by lufiabuu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love comes from within our hearts and minds, one might even suggest from within our souls. The reason we cannot get out of it, is because if is from within ourselves and we can never truly evacuate ourselves from ourselves.
2007-08-09 17:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your heart and soul
2007-08-09 17:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are born with it
2007-08-09 17:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋