Bullying @ work what would you do??

Question

i am being bullied at work, i have reported this and went to various mediation meetings, meetings with union reps and manager, and still this is not resolved. i have been referred to a counsellor who is helpful. my problem is alot of people that i ork with say that they see that my manager is bulling me and that they think that i should make a formal complaint, yet when i speak to higher managers and union reps who say that this is really hard to prove and that this would be very hard and long prosess.

i feel that i am now at my wits end and don't know what to do, i have submitted an application form for another job.

Answer 1

You say you have reported it to higher management and they say it's hard to prove. I think management is trying to pass the buck here. When you report a case of bullying your company has a duty of care to ensure that their staff's welfare is not harmed. (i.e. your welfare). You say that other people have witnessed your manager bullying you. Then they need to prepare a written statement to that effect. You need to keep a diary of every single occasion where your manager has bullied you. State dates and times. Ask your witnesses to countersign your diary. I would make a formal complaint and get all the witnesses to back you up. Bullying must not be tolerated in the workplace and must be dealt with severely. Be strong, make that formal complaiant. I am not saying it's going to be easy, I think you will have a tough road ahead of you, but you must be strong. Bullies should learn that there are people who will stand up to them and that those people will see it through to the bitter end. Best of luck.

Answer 2

i think that heading toward another job is the best option.

The managers and union reps may be accurate in their answers to you, but there is no doubt that their answers
discourage you from making a formal complaint - and NOTHING is going to happen ( apparently) until there is a formal complaint, or a lawsuit.

but document as much as you can, with dates, so that you can help the next person your manager does this to. You probably aren't the first; you probably want be the last.

PS
It isn't THAT hard to prove if you keep written, dated records, you tell other people about it, other people have witnessed the bullying, and ESPECIALLY if other people have experienced the bullying.

Answer 3

I was bullied at work for two years by a superior; I complained and complained to both the union and senior management.T here were meetings and mediation sessions; she was unapologetic. She told me she would run the unit as she saw fit and no jumped-up clerk was going to tell her otherwise. The union was toothless; senior management didn't seem to know what to do about it; in the end, I applied for a transfer, which came through eventually, and I went to another area. I bump into her occasionally now, and she's all over me like a rash
"how are you doing? How's the family?Blah Blah"

Start writing everything down; keep a little notebook; anything she says or does; times, dates. I did that, and I took the notebook to one of the meetings and read from it; I thought she was going to hit me!
Don't retaliate; be calm and firm, say things like,
"You can't speak to me like that."
Let your manager see you are keeping notes. They hate that. I found my manager to be slightly wary of me, because my computer skills were better than hers. At the end of the day, it was me who had to move; she is still there managing a whole unit. I guess the company felt that clerks were expendable and easy to replace; and unit managers were not!

Answer 4

The only way you can face these people is to belief in yourself. With grit determination tell him you will not take it anyone and that you are going to sue him for what he is doing. Bully him, take him down a peg or two. Bullies have no problems they just get relief from their own pain from hurting others. They are pathetic and can't cope with life so they take out stress on others.

Take this person down or you will feel weak and under-confident
for not standing your ground. But do it with conviction and no fear stress or anger.

No one else can help you, you must summon the courage to face your fears. Getting a new job will not help because you will still be not confident or strong enough to resist people like
this. If you trained yourself to not get annoyed by this you would have the strength to work with this person. Never hold in the pain this person is causing you as it will make you ill
take it out on him and expose him for a pathetic bully not a real man.
hope this was useful

Answer 5

That's what I was going to suggest -- look for another job. But if you want to resolve this, would the people you work with be witnesses of this abuse toward you? Probably not, since their jobs might be in jeopardy. So you've probably hit on the best solution -- find a worker-friendly job. Good luck!

One other thing I might suggest. If you do apply for another job, don't bad-mouth the CEO's of this one, as it might reflect unfavorably on you. If they ask why you left, just say there were some unresolved issues that made working there difficult
and impossible for you to do your best work. Skirt around it without pointing a finger. I know it seems unfair, but you don't want your prospective employers to label you as a trouble-maker. And if they ask for references, all that's required of the job you left, is to verify that you worked there.

Answer 6

Keep a record of everything that he does. Forget the fact that it might be a long and arduous process to prove it, because if you let it go then he wins! Your union should have advised you on the proper steps to take: if they haven't, they are failing in their duty. Also, your company has a duty of care to its employees, and would be worried if you resigned claiming constructive dismissal. But make sure that you have records of everything, including visiting your doctor and asking for a sick note on the grounds of acute stress. Bullying is dreadful, so good luck, and don't give up!

Answer 7

Time to stand up for yourself. The next time the bully starts in just stop it with a loud voice that is
firm and strong. Tell the bully enough is enough and that you will no longer tolerate the behavior.
If you get fired you have one great law suit. Document all of the behavior as well.

Answer 8

This is really hard. If I were you I would try and get a new job, I know it's tough because it feels like the bullies are winning, but it sounds like you've done as much as you can to get things sorted out at work.

Answer 9

I suffer from this too. Its life. I just ignore her and get on with my job, but today I went to a professional development course and got some ideas about how to improve things, ie learn to do some of the jobs she does and then offer to help her.

Answer 10

Unfortunately, this seems to be a big problem in many peoples lives these days. Bosses are abusing power and it is hard to get them in trouble for it.

If you can't get help, either speak to him/her and tell them that whatever they are having you do isn't part of your job description. If that doesn't work and they become worse, quit.