people in my school thought two people were lesbians, they said they weren't but then i got a text from one of them which was for the other one and it was a bit weird i showed it to some people but it spread, so now they are pissed off with me although people already thought it. I had nothing against them until now as they are 'going to get revenge on me'.
Was i wrong for showing a few people, should i just ignore them now im going to college?
2007-08-09 09:58:45 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you were wrong but i probably would have done the same thing.
2007-08-09 10:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by #kjm# 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, you were wrong, but it sounds like you were naive rather than having bad intentions. Typical teenager stuff, by the sound of it. You can't undo this, but for your own peace of mind, I would definitely apologise to the two girls involved - if easier, by email or letter. Say to them that you realise that you were thoughtless to show it to anybody, but that you didn't intend to do them any harm and have learnt a lot from this experience. (Which I'm assuming you have.)
I definitely wouldn't "just ignore them"; your guilt at having done the wrong thing and not having made amends will eat away at you. It's always good policy to not leave any "unfinished business" in your past; it helps you sleep more soundly at night and means that you can go anywhere you want in the world in the future and not feel concerned that you'll run into anybody that you'd be embarrassed to see. A clear conscience is a great gift to yourself.
And do make sure you really have learnt from this, about respecting the privacy of others and not engaging in gossip. We ALL make mistakes in life, but the most successful people don't make the same mistake twice. ; )
2007-08-09 10:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by ozperp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you had been thinking (you had time) you may have respected them and their privacy. Either delete the message, or show it to one of them, and suggest they be more careful in the future.
Then keep your mouth shut, because nobody likes a gossip, and this reflects poorly upon you. Not them.
You did something really crappy, and now you have a little problem, don't you?
And how did whichever one of them get your number in the first place? Seems somewhat suspest, and I don't think you've shared the "COMPLETE" story.
I certainly hope you were looking for an 'honest' reply.
A little sharper thinking henceforth would be to your benefit, so lesson learned, right? Right.
Good luck.
Also, you really should apologize sincerely to them both. It's the very least you could do at this point
Nad
2007-08-09 10:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong for showing others, that txt was meant for someone else not you and even though u received it you should have continued to respect their privacy and deleted the txt straight away, and informed the person u received it by accident, if they were denieing it its probably because they were not ready to come out of the closet(whether people presumed or not, they were not ready obviously to admit it yet), and now you have basically outed them.....
BUT you cant turn back time, and even though i would want revenge if it was me they shouldnt threaten you about it, just apologise your *** off, and ignore them now if your going to college.
You never know a few years down the line they will probably laugh about it, but for now ignore them and keep your distance.
AND dont do it again. remember if you sent a private txt and sent it to the wrong person would you want it spread around??
2007-08-09 10:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Katie 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong, especially if you knew most of the people in your school had a low opinion of lesbians. You should have just deleted the text.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Maybe you can think of a way to make amends.
2007-08-09 10:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by sparks 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep you were wrong, that message was personal & was meant for you only. Imagine if you were a lesbian & you didnt want anyone to know & you sent a message to some one you thought you could trust then she showed everyone & word got out you were a lesbian. How would you feel?
2007-08-13 15:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by beleasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU...it was someone like YOU in high school that ruined MY life..I told a friend and she told someone who told the WHOLE school. I nearly got ran over in my high school parking lot by people after school. I was exiled from my gym class because I looked in a girl's direction (not even at HER and made her "uncomfortable"). I sat alone at lunch or in hallways just trying to hide to avoid being harassed. I got teased in all my classes. I couldn't concentrate. I couldn't focus. My grades suffered. And before that, I was a staight A kid who didn't do anything wrong, and was practically a teacher's pet. So..
To all those people like YOU out there who can't seem to keep your nose in your own buisiness...THANKS A LOT.
And to make it worse, you don't even seem to CARE about the impact you may have made in those girls lives, because like YOU said..."I'm going off to college"...why don't you just say , "why should *I* care?"
Ugh....I dont' think I've been this angry in a long time. Thanks for bringing back THOSE memories for me.
Oh and just for the record...I'd kick your a**
2007-08-09 10:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what, f*uk them! if they are lesbians and everyone was suspicious anyway, then you didn't do anything wrong. As long as your not adding fire to the fuel by being prejudice or spewing crap about hows its wrong, your cool. And if they aren't lesbians then they shouldn't be behaving so fu cking suspicious. Either way, this is their problem, not yours,
Its not fair that they are blaming this all on you, be strong and stick up for yourself.
2007-08-14 23:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by kosslyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would have been kinder to have kept the text to yourself. If they said they weren't lesbians then it was because they didn't feel comfortable telling people. Perhaps you should have respected their privacy. They are probably angry at you for outing them. I'd apologise to them & explain that you didn't mean any harm & then move on.
2007-08-09 22:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong. You should have only shown it to the person it was meant to go to. since it was meant for them. It didn't matter if it went to you accidentally, since it still wasn't yours. And there is a big difference between people thinking a thing is true and having proof that it is true. If they wanted to just let people think it was true without acknowledging to them whether or not it was, then that was their business as well.
2007-08-09 10:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong. The message was mistakenly sent to you and you had no business showing it to other people. Consider how you would feel if someone shared your personal messages with other people. It doesn't matter what other people already thought, you added fuel to the fire.
2007-08-09 10:11:05 · answer #11 · answered by Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋