Why is it that I'm so shy? Is there something wrong with me???

Question

I'm so scared of people. Can't do the simplest things without feeling afraid. It's so hard for me to talk to people. How can I stop being like this. What can I do to change?

Answer 1

Baby steps. Get into activities where you have to talk to people. If all else fails talk to a professional.

Answer 2

You just need to build your self-confidence. It takes practice, because with some individuals, it's not easy. Some people have an aggressive, outgoing personality, and others are quiet, deep thinkers, and prefer their own company to crowds. There's nothing wrong with being shy, but if it bothers you, then try to be more sociable and make friends you're comfortable with. Find another person who is shy like you, and you can encourage one another. Once you start feeling confident in your friendships, you can keep branching out until you're comfortable in other social situations. You don't need to embrace the whole world. Just develop your own little circle of friends, and who knows? You can be a leader among them. Whether or not you believe this, there are some people who look up to you, and wish they could be like you. I know it sounds impossible, but you just haven't met them yet.
Good luck!

Answer 3

there's nothing wrong with you, you just find it hard to trust people right away. i'm shy as well, and i find that the best way you can deal with it is by taking it little-by-little. challenge yourself every once and a while! do you have to preform publically in any way? if you do, i recommend not looking at the crowd at all, just look over their heads! i've almost passed out before a flute solo in sixth grade, so i know how you feel. just try to stay in big crowds if you perform publically, like chiors and bands. if you aren't ready for anything drastic, don't do it. when you talk to individuals and you're freaking out, they're probably thinking the same thing as you are!! people really aren't as judgemental as you think!

good luck!!!

Answer 4

your talking to people now !
I used to be like you, I know exactly what its like being so shy your afraid to speak up in class etc. There is nothing wrong with you but you do have to remind yourself you have lots of things to offer. Lots of good qualities and always be confident in yourself and you can then stand up and voice your opinions.

when your out in public and you want something
tell yourself the worst thing that could happen is that a person
may be rude but so what. Believe in yourself and recognize you are great for who you are and you will talk and once you do this you will gain more confidence through experience to talk more openly to others.

hope you gain confidence in yourself

Answer 5

I'm like that a lot too, but for me it's because of issues with the past, the way I have been treated and a LOT to do with self confidence.

Take small steps, set yourself targets and reward yourself every time you manage to reach one of the targets!

If you think seeing a counsellor may help, you could also consider that.

Answer 6

I'm lik ethat too.
go to a summer camp or something, and try to associate with one person at a time. I wen tto a camp and tried to figure out what makes a person a "nice person" and I figured out that a lot of times, you meet somebody during class, you knwo their name, then after class if you just makme them feel comfortable, let them knwo you like them, and greet them, be like, "hey lindsay! how was your day?" outside of the classroom, then they will see you as friendly, and that will make them want to talk to you again. I know it's scary to talk to like 4 people ina group bc you never kno what to say and you don't want to say something weird or interrupt somebody but i fit's one -on-one, you get to know a person better, and eventually you'll meet more people. just give it time.

Answer 7

If your younger you'll grow out of it. Until I was 14 I was so shy I never talked to my own grandpa

Answer 8

NOthing, you're just a tease.