I have recently moved in with my boyfriend. He was served with divorce papers 2 weeks ago. He is now trying to look for his ex every time we go somewhere. He drives around until we find her car. She is a complusive gambler. He told her boyfriend she was back gambling and she called the cops on him for it. What do i do?
2007-08-09 09:56:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you with this loser? It sounds like he has some things to get through/over before he can really be in a relationship with someone else. I would move out and give him his space. If he comes back around when all of this is over, then maybe there's a chance.
2007-08-09 10:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a very thin line between Love & Hate.
The opposite of Love is indifference. You're "Boyfriend" isn't there yet so maybe you should call what you've got with him something other than a "love type of relationship". YOU are not THAT to him. He's still hung up on his ex.. even if it's in the negative sense.. it's still ALL that occupies his time. There is no room left for anybody else but the two of them yet.. that means you need to move on and allow him the time it's going to take to work this all out.
2007-08-09 10:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the boyfriend. You should not have moved in with a married man. And he sound very immature.
So, at the very least, move out and tell him he needs to straighten up his life and finish the divorce, get over his wife and then you will go back to having a relationship.
Take the moral high road. Have character.
2007-08-09 10:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he obviously needs to sort himself out and let her be.
Unless he has children with her in which case he needs to be there for them, support them and look out for them.
However, there are rules he needs to live by so that she can have a life and he too.
That means that as long as he knows his children are safe at night and where they are during the day, he has no business checking on her.
What she does in her spare time is her own business and you shouldn't let him convince you into going to chase after his EX wife.
YOU need to put your foot down or move out.
He is either divorced with the woman or he is not.
She is not his responsibility even though he can be there for her should she need him for the children.
Obviously she doesn't need him for personal support since she has a man in her life, so it's down to him to look after her.
Don't let him trap you into his paranoia and drag you down into an unhealthy relationship.
In a couple, three is a crowd. Whether it is the in-laws or the exs.
Good luck and be firm.
2007-08-09 10:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea why are you with him looking for his ex? I mean you have to be the stronger person and say let it go. You made a decision to be with a man that just came out of a marriage. he has not given himself time to heal, so that means you will get all that negative feed that him and his wife is going through. You have to think about yourself and your life. Good luck!
2007-08-09 10:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't over her. He wants to get back at her for the divorce. I think you need to have a talk with your man and tell him that he needs to forget about her and concentrate on your relationship. Give him an ultimatum.
2007-08-09 10:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is behaving as if he's obsessed. He sounds like he has as big a problem as she does. Point out that the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
2007-08-09 10:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you WANT to live in that situation? You should move out and let him get himself together.
2007-08-09 11:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you involved with this man? You're putting yourself in that situation, and allowing yourself to be in such an unhealthy realtionship.
2007-08-09 10:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋