Why I'm not married? "Why should I make ONE woman miserable? When I can make SO MANY happy!?

Question

What are your reasons for your present state?
Why did you marry?
Why are you single?
What do you think?

I often have fantasies about being married.
And having children
And, at christmas, my little son opening his present and saying "What's this Daddy?"
And me saying" It's an ED 2.46 cc miniature diesel engine.With ball-races"
And my little boy saying "But Daddy,I didn't want one"
And me saying "Shut up! You little Brat! Of course you WANT ONE!"
"The only function of a child is to give his Dad the opportunity to BUY TOYS!!!"

Answer 1

Its your choice to marry, it makes your life more stable in the end although to begin with it is an up hill challenge. You have to work hard to make a marriage work and some men are openly honest about not wanting to put in the effort. You have to know that what you're doing is right. You cant get married because its "time" or because somebody asked you. You have to marry because you want to. I married because i was in love with him, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, and even if we do make each other miserable, as you put it, at least we're together which is exactly where both of us want to be. Thats what marriage is all about. Its about dedication, patience, honesty and love. Its also about sharing. If you're a selfish person then you'll never be married long.
Also these woman you say you're making happy are you sure? I often find that the reason women are in non-commited relationships is because they do not think they are worth the trouble, they have low self-esteem or have issues with men. Five minutes (plus or minus) of pleasure is not making someone happy. It is just giving someone release. Happiness is a long term emotion, which is often difficult to maintain. If you are actually making someone happy, then you are giving yourself fully to someone, heart body and soul.

I have always said that marriage is just a test of your patience and i stand by that. But i still believe that you have to give yourself fully to another person to make any relationship work.

Answer 2

When I entered my marriage, I thought it was going to be forever, but my ex-husband didn't view it that way. Anyway a year and half later I am single and relatively happy. I tried dating someone for about 5 months after my divorce was finalized and I just couldn't put my heart into the relationship. I realize now that I am better off being single for a while until I am more healed from the breakup of my marriage.

Answer 3

LOL at first I thought you were saying "why make one women miserable when I can make so many of them MISERABLE!" I thought WHAT?!?! LOL

Plain and simple I think people who do not want to marry or are even unsure should not marry. It is a huge commitment and no one should make that lightly. I married my husband because I loved him of course but more specifically I wanted a committed relationship. It didn't feel like enough to just be with him for now. I actually wanted to know I would still be sitting next to him when I'm 80. He loved me as well of course but I think the reason he chose to marry me instead of continuing to date was that he really wanted a family.

Answer 4

I got married because I was in love with my wife. I got divorced cause she turned out to be a gold-digger, but the one thing that I did get was a beautiful daughter that I love more than anything or anyone else in the world. I am very happy to be single and to hang out with my daughter, maybe one day you will get married and have a child, I guarantee your attitude will change. There is nothing wrong with marriage or having children.

Answer 5

All I can really say is that you will know when it is time to settle down. Being married is not about making someone else miserable. When you marry someone, you are promising to be there with that one person and go through life's ups and downs. You are promising that no matter what, you will remain by their side to witness all the good things that they will accomplish and to guide them through all the hard times. Isn't nice to know that no matter what, you will have someone to depend on? Or would you rather be with several others who will consistently leave you when you need them most? Something to think about. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

You are a very rude man who doesn't need a wife OR a child if you would talk to them like that. With your attitude about making so many other women happy, you'd probably be a good candidate to be a disease carrier.

I wouldn't give you the time of day, even for a simple hello.

Answer 7

you have a negative view of family life, and it has had an effect on your fantasy. as for making one woman miserable and so many happy, don't overestimate yourself. you may please many women, but I bet you don't make any of them happy. they have to make themselves happy. you may contribute to someone's happiness, but you don't MAKE it yourself.

as for your questions, I'll answer. Present state: my husband couldn't abide by his vows and started running around with a stripper. I divorced him. if I hadn't, I could be dying of AIDS right now, as that is the reason listed on his death certificate.
Marry: for love. I loved him, I wanted to make a home and life with him. single: I am single because I choose to be. I could have run off with the first person who showed me any interest, but I waited until the time was right. I do have a significant person in my life, but we are not ready for marriage. we are taking our time. Think: I think you have hangups with yourself if you have to ask other people you don't know these questions. you're not married because you've not chosen to take that step. marriage is what you make of it, not some antiquated idea or nightmare you dream up. you make your life what you want it to be. if you meet someone who you love completely, you won't have to ask this question again.

Answer 8

You are certainly very gifted to make so many happy, or delusion-ed.
I married because we loved each other even after 24 years. If one woman can't keep you happy, having more won't, I can only say I have been lucky.

Answer 9

I am in this state because I think that life is stages. I think that life is something that you build and so far I have done good. I have a great job, I have a wonderful relationship and I am looking forward to buying a new car soon and finishing my degree. I think that life is great.

Answer 10

i'm single because my ex thought as you do, leaving me pregnant with nothing. but it's all good now, because i know that in the end all it is is a case of greener grass on the other side and everyone except him knows it's not. so when he comes crawling back to me i'll kick him in the face and go on with my life. everything happens for a reason, there is someone better and more mature out there for me.