I seek sincere and honest answers from °women of substance° PLEASE!?

Question

Woman, U are strong, dynamic, challenging, intelligent and are more of leaders than your counterpart....
Ever heard of "Educate a man and you educate an individual; Educate a woman and you educate a family" ? Did you ever stop to think about it? How have you played your role as "woman - daughter, sister, mother, in-law, spouse etc.?"
How well do you know your self - mood swings, strength, weakness, body, talents, likes / dislikes etc.?

I appreciate most of your answers. I'm also glad to know that there are people who think this question is interesting. My intention of this question is to spur many into the "thinking" process. I agree with geek_gal. My yardstick is to be able to see one'sself, in all honesty. When you recognize your failures, shortcomings, weaknesses, all that is negative; you are now aware and would like to convert them to postive attributes.
>> Soulcagal : Don't women generally go thru ups and downs (mood swings) during PMS, affects of alcohol et al.
>> Rose S : I would really like to learn from expericenced peers like yourself. Please write me.
>> Robin Hood : The idea of this question is to understand self and other women. To persevere and change for the good, the good for the better and the better best!

Answer 1

I've never heard that quote...

I have no clue how I really am- but I'm always exploring. I'm still working on tearing down my walls before I can see those things clearly.

I have played my role as a woman horribly. I am a genderless light. I think I need to get in touch with that. (not just because of your question- I've been thinking that for a long time)

I love your question.

Answer 2

Well, I really haven't occupied many those roles seeing as I'm very happily single *and* an only child, but I'll at least give you a serious answer, nonetheless.

I'm not sure that I really agree 100% with that first statement, to begin with. I'm a lot more like my dad than I am my mom both personally and professionally, so I've at least taken at least as many cues from my dad as long as I've been at least a teenager to have noticed the differences. My parents have always seemed to actually be reasonably good at this equal-partner thing for my whole life, so that's probably also a part of why I say what and act how I do.

As far as how well I know myself. . . it's gotten a lot better since I went through some rough times with school/work a few years ago when I was in my early 20's. I can't imagine if I'd tried to do the whole wife, mother, etc. thing any earlier than that without first having to learn about myself better -- it's hard enough even now. I definitely think you've hit on something big. . . to really do a good job in those roles and be fair to your familly, it'd really help to first know who you are and *what you want* as a result.

Let's all hope you really do get a lot more serious answers than idiotic ones!

Answer 3

I never heard that expression but it is an interesting one.
I don't know that I agree with it but I get it.
I think women are more sensitive to the needs of others.
I think I have played my roles to the best of my ability. Women seem to be less arrogant and less demanding in general. We tend to be more of the peace keeper. We keep everyone together where maybe men are more apt to divide and conquer. I'm still learning about myself. I'm learning more about myself ever since I became a stepmom. I have my stepkids every other weekend. I am finding more of where my strengths are and also where my weaknesses are. I'm pretty stable. I do get emotional when I drink and when it's that time of the month. I'm much more aware, thanks to my husband pointing it. I do think I am more stable than my husband but I have less stress. He has 2 kids. It's different for him. My likes and dislikes haven't changed much. I'm still interested in lots of different things. If anything, my likes have increased. I am just as adventurous. I'm willing to try new things. I won't let fear stand in my way. I try to push myself out of my comfort zone on a regular basis. I'm trying to become more tolerant. My husband grew up different from the way I did. We have different views on how kids should be raised. I'm trying to pull back. I do voice my opinion but I remember more that it is just that, an opinion. There is no right way to raise kids. They don't come with an instructional manual. I try to take good care of myself. I have always enjoyed being active and healthy. I have stayed thin. I'm in a graduate program so I'm working on my mind too.

Answer 4

Good question, My parents were alcoholics , so i grew up knowing what not to do, they were abusive, so i wasn't . I was able to break the cycle and be a great mother, wife, aunt , and am now raising a grand son due to some deaths in the family. The family around me sees a consistent hard -working loving gentle woman. As far as moods go ,emotional health is as important as physical ,so nothing unusual.Exercise and relaxation play a key in this area .

Answer 5

Interesting question. I feel I've done a good job as a daughter, sister and aunt---I've yet to be a wife or mother. I know myself fairly well but am still learning a lot. Mood swings? I may never have that under control but I believe many of my other strengths make up for that, like my ability to get others to develop empathy and insight.

Answer 6

that mood swing thing is not truemost women dont go through mood swings unless they are raised to.
i also dont agree with that first sentence, women and men are equall. and if you ask a good man does educate his family. i have only ever been a daughter, sister and, aunt but i think ive played thoughs roles as my self the best way i could. i know myself very well, and i hope you know yourself to because the better you know yourself the more youll like your self.

Answer 7

Ya know y'all, gender bashing is non productive. We , all of us, have equal responsibility. Physical characteristics of gender are determined by sex hormones. Intellectual abilities are equal. Most males are physically more capable than most females. Exceptions are undeniable. I have no desire to be "better than". Historically, males, because of their superior physical capability, have assumed that "strength" is represented by physical ability. Consequently, females have been put in a subservient role. Power is intoxicating. Guys are unwilling to share the wealth. Eventually, egalitarianism will become accepted. Technology will assure that. Just relax. Do your best, and don't let emotions influence your judgment.

Answer 8

Interesting saying. However, I feel that educated men can bring about a strong family dynamic, too.

I have influenced my family (father, mother, brothers) in that I have been very definitive about what I want out of life. In some ways, it helped them find direction.

I know my strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes very well, and I think it’s important to let everyone know what these are so they’ll know you very well. I don’t ascribe to the idea of “leave them guessing”.

Answer 9

I grew up with a tribe of orangutans . . .boys and men in the Alaskan wilderness. I had to learn how to be strong early. We were all team-players, so to say, and respected each others' gifts and special strengths. My forte was forethought. Do we go THIS way or THAT way at a fork in the river? I was the one who made those decisions because they saw only the dangers before their eyes. They did not hear the waterfalls up ahead. I could. To this day, when I am with them, they may do as they wish and I gladly follow . . .until there is danger and then I take over. And, at risk of being hit over the head with my fishing pole, they follow my lead until danger has passed. I prefer to follow. But, I also prefer to stay alive. I can be a terrible, mighty force to be considered when life is at stake.

Answer 10

I know myself very well as too my strengths and weaknesses.
I'm an educated woman, I am smart, opinionated, compassionate, forgiving, a good listener.I'm a child of God and He takes precedence in my life. I have self control.

I detest weakness, hypocrisy and arrogance and admire humility, patience and intelligence.

Mood swings, I started having them recently cause I loathe inefficiency.