But he talks to his baby's momma (kid is 16) everyday. He thinks that it's okay for him to deal with his ex but he told me that if I went into (a legit) business with an ex that he would leave me. Does that sound like doubles standards to you? Should I let him leave?
2007-08-09 09:09:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
look, you gotta be more understanding. he HAS to talk to his baby mama. you, on the other hand, have no business talking to your ex. yet alone, starting a business with him. go for it, it's your life, but it will bring your relationship to an end. if i was him, i wouldn't be having it either...and i don't have a single jealous bone in my body. but that is crossing the line. would it be ok, for him to move in with is ex if she offered him free or really cheap rent? why not, it would be a smart financial move, wouldn't it?
2007-08-09 09:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He wants to have his cake and eat it too. How can he say that you can't be in business with an ex if he talks to his... whatever the matter. If he didn't have contact with his ex all of the time then he would have reason for you not to, but by him having a 16 year old with this woman he cannot expect to be in a relationship with you and not allow you to interact with an ex. You say his child is how old? 16? Isn't that a bit old for him to have to talk to her mother all of the time? He doesn't trust you but he wants you to trust him. Let him leave. No woman is going to allow him to talk to his ex without allowing you to do business with yours. He's selfish and yes he doea have double standards.
2007-08-09 17:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him leave. You have a business opportunity and as a significant other he should be more supportive of you. He is obviously very insecure and this does sound like a double standard for sure. If he is not secure in your relationship then maybe its time to let him go. It is not your responsibility to baby him and make him feel secure. Go into business and I hope it does well.
2007-08-09 16:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HELL YES !!!!! If the kid is 16 and he still talks to the mother it's a little bit more than about the kid. they have something else going on that's why he does not want you to get involved with your ex it is a double standard.
2007-08-09 16:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by mesha w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the reason he doesn't want you to go into business with your ex because he may want to go into business with you himself but regardless, he is not being fair if he has dealings with his baby's momma but doesn't trust you to deal with your exs. He needs to reexamine himself and open his eyes. He clearly has double standards.
2007-08-09 17:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by cupcake 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know that you can keep work separated from your life then I think that you should let him leave if he wants. If not then he has to improve his situation before he can judge yours. For this relationship has to grow and in order for that to be done you need to gain trust and respect for each other and a certain mind set to a lot of things. If you can level the playing field then things would be just right.
2007-08-09 16:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely double standards.
2007-08-09 16:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't it feel great when you give them a taste of their own medicine? When he stops talking to his ex, then you will consider not going into a business with your ex.
2007-08-09 16:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
List pros and cons of relationship with this man.. what you like and what you don't like.
List the pros and cons of business deal.
Pros and cons of working with ex.
BE honest with yourself and the answer will be there
in black and white in your own handwriting.
2007-08-09 16:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, let him leave. Don't allow him to decide your financial future just because he's jealous and insecure.
2007-08-09 16:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋