LADIES please help, I need your advice....?

Question

My friend called me today and said that my husband called her early in the morning " trying to come on to her". Me and her have known each other for a while , On the other hand me and my husband just got married July 13th. I am shocked about the news. She even went into detail stating some of the things he said.
She stated that she said " why r u coming on to me , u r married to my friend" she said he replied " soon to be married".. as if we arent married. I find it hard to believe. She even said that he said ..." he been eyeing her for a while now " and " he felt that he should let her know that he was feeling her "..

I called him, after speaking to her.. MIND YOU .. I didnt confront him, as a grown woman I went at the situation the right way, I ASKED him about it. He simply said " she is lying", " she is trying to come in between me and u " he began to yell and use vulgar language. Again as I have stated I am shocked. I dont know who to believe at this moment . PLEASE HELP!

I am in need to advice as to how to go about this situation. All MATURE advice is appreciated. Thanks in Advance.!

No this isnt the same friend from my previous question, this is someone else . I have been knowing her for over 3 yrs.
On the other hand I have been knowing my husband for almost 3 yrs. We just got married July 13th of this year.

My friend seems like a " good person" but I have heard some things here and there about her.

Answer 1

Any evidence to support either one's stories besides their words? If no evidence is there, trust your husband, hes your man now and now one should come b4 him, even friends. Unless of course he is obviously cheating. Is there any reason to believe she would want to split you guys up? Whatever you do , keep calm, and analyze everything with a clear head. Dont let jelousy or anger make your vision cloudy. Go about it in a mature way like you have. If you need anything you can email me. Best wishes.

Answer 2

I feel for you--you are in a tough situation. Find a counselor--it would be a good investment right now--you need to get to the truth. Just my thoughts, I dont think she is lying--have you had reason to be suspicious of her? Has she acted interested in your husband before? Dont let this go any further----you will put yourself thru a lot of pain. If your husband did come on to her, you havent been married for a long time and it would be better to end it now rather than put up with years of pain and agony.

Get at the truth now--believe me, men have been known to play around almost from their wedding day. My best to you.

Answer 3

Well, it's a very stinky situation. It should make you wonder why your friend should tell you such an outrageous lie and destroy your marriage. It is very early in your marriage but it makes you wonder what kind of person your husband is.
Did you know him well enough before you married h im? If he is innocent why was he yelling and got so upset?
It may be a blessing you found out so early in the marriage before kids come and diff problems arise.
Maybe you need to seek help from 2 people: A counselor and a lawyer. Good luck

Answer 4

The only way you will know is for you and your friend to set him up. Something is wrong here and I would get to the bottom of it. Have her tape the next phone conversation and lay low and not let him know that you are on to him! Investegate this because you need to know the truth for the rest of your future. If you confront him now he will only deny it .....you need to know what kind of husband you got. Besides he didn't even have the right to call your friend. It will show that he called her on her cell phone if that is how he contacted her? If you know your girlfriend and know her to be always truthful then you know there is some truth here. As hard as it will be for you to keep quiet you need to know. Here is a one sure way......get a tape recorder turn it on and leave for the store for something....have your girlfriend waiting down the street when you leave and come knocking at your door looking for you. I am sure your husband will mention something alone with her about the phone call this morning as she waits for you to return from the store. Then you may get your answer. take care and good luck.

Answer 5

You need to examine what your friend's motives could be for telling you this. Is she jealous of your relationship you have with your husband? Are you spending less time with her now that you are married? If you just got married on July 13th then her story doesn't even sound true (he wouldn't say soon to be married, he would have just said, so what? if he was that kind of guy). This sounds like a bunch of drama that she is trying to stir up and if you can't nail down in your head why she is doing this to you and work it out with her then you need to distance yourself from this "friend" as she doesn't have your best interest at heart. You are married now and you have to give priority to your marriage over this friendship.

Answer 6

Talk with your husband when you can look him in the face to see if he's lying.
You could even ask your friend to come over and confront them together and see what comes of that.
Something is wrong somewhere and if you and your husband were around her before getting married I think there could have been some sign of your husband being just a little to flirty or eyeing your friend. Hope this helped.

Answer 7

I was almost thinking your friend MIGHT be lying until I got to the part where he started yelling and swearing. Then the truth was clear to me. He's reacting cuz he knows his @ss is busted. Trust me, I know your shock. Been there. Done that. It hurts. BUT...better to know NOW this early on that you married a lying, sorry, low-down egg-suckin' dawg. I'm inclined to think maybe she's the one telling the truth here. Just a gut feeling. If he continues to act the way he is, you might need to get an anullment and kick his arriba derche to the curb before you spend 15 years married to a liar.

Answer 8

I'd let it drop for now...the situation bares further scrutiny. Keep an eye on both of them together and as individuals. I do not envy you for having to deal with such a low life in your life, whether if be her or him.
Or you can do what the first person said have them both over and talk it out...get it all out there...someone is going to crack once confronted.
And trust me...liars will go to any length. My first husband, before we got married, was f*cking this girl and my best friend's boyfriend told me. I said something to my guy and he denied it, I broke up, he had the other guy call and apologize because he said he was lying...etc. I took him back, years later we were married...then eventually divorced...we're still friends. Lost touch for a while...found out a few years ago, when he admitted to being unfaithful every time I had suspected him...including that first time, when he got the guy to recant and apologize. So trust me liars can be very persuasive. We laughed about it...he said he was amazed at how I just knew he was up to something, said it always shocked him.

Answer 9

This all sounds very odd, how well do you know your friend and how well do you know your husband??? Is your friend envious of your relationship, does she have a history of lying or trying to cause trouble??? I would set up a meeting between the three of you if you cannot decide who is more trustworthy. If either of them objects to the meeting, that would be a bit suspicious. Good luck.

Answer 10

Everyone always ends up believing the husband, and leaving their friend in the dust, because of Love, and here ya find out years later your husband is cheating on ya, then ya feel like an *** for not believing your friend, all because I'm sure she was scared to tell ya, and she did. That's just my opinion, I've seen it alot. I would ask your question your husband about it.