2007-08-09 08:52:42 · 26 answers · asked by Stacy A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well weve been married for 7 years and he's a good husband. He denied it from the begining and just recently I asked his mother who in turn said "you need to talk to him about that" Isnt that just a polite way of saying yes?
2007-08-09 09:11:56 · update #1
That is the most tacky low life thing I've ever heard.....
2007-08-09 08:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by maccrew6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The ring is only a symbol that you are taken. Think hard about this do you really care all that much. Besides think down the road a bit I bet the fiance that didn't work out will come back into town and you have the chance to sit at dinner with her all while she sees that ring on YOUR finger instead of hers. It is bound to make her steaming mad. Who cares where it came from or who had it first its gonna be YOURS from now on. That is what really matters.
It took hubby 9 years to get me real diamonds because we couldn't afford it. I had a crappy $20 avon ring for those first nine years and you know what I like it just the same and I still wear it too. Its just a ring you have him.
2007-08-09 16:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by christina h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you have been married for 7 years now... is the marriage good? Are you happy with him?
have you been wondering about this for the past 7 years?
If you are so sure about it, why not go and take the ring to a designer and get it re-done for peace of mind.
Now, yes, I would be upset to find out about it and woudl go get it re-designed.
2007-08-09 16:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's a ring.
Your fiance is probably someone very practical. Maybe he thought that this cost a lot of money or maybe it's family heirloom. Surely you wouldn't want to reject a family heirloom.
Now if it's not and it's very important to you, then tell him.
It's the type of thing which is very important, as it sets the pace for the future. So here is the type of person he is and this is who you are and you'd better acknowledge that now!
2007-08-09 16:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be. A ring is bought for a specific person's tastes. Your ring should have been picked out based on what he thinks you would like.
Its just tacky and a bit inconsiderate to give a woman another woman's engagement ring unless its a family heirloom. If the ring belonged to his Grandmother or somthing, I would look past its history. If it was bought by him for another woman, he should exchange or sell it and buy a ring just for you.
2007-08-09 16:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'd be pissed...I don't want an X's ring...I'd rather have no ring than an X's ring. Not to mention kind of disgusted...thats pretty cheap and tacky. Now if it was grandma's or a family heirloom and he had given it too the X and then it didn't work out thats different.
2007-08-09 15:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't you be more upset to find out that your husband belonged to someone other than you? The ring doesn't have a brain. It isn't what's important. If you have the heart of the man you love, that is ALL that matters. Don't believe me? Get married to a cheater/abuser. That ring won't mean a thing then.
2007-08-09 16:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Aiden 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its been seven years. Forget about it. When ten years rolls around.. the two of you go to a nice jewelry store and pick out a new set of three rings. a new and unused engagment ring ( but do not rub it in , honey.. i am sure he feels badly enough ) .. and two new and unused wedding bands for the two of you. Then you go and renew your vows with this man that you love enough to forgive. And then laugh like crazy and love him like crazy for the rest of his life.
2007-08-09 16:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by jokerthefreak1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've point-blank asked him and he's denied it, then yes, I'd be livid - I'd be more livid that he lied than that he could actually pull something so boneheaded and tacky.
After all, the ring is just a ring and can EASILY be upgraded.
2007-08-09 16:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! But she told you though. She couldve kept it to herself and it would be worse. You paid all that money for her a new ring, and she does this?
You can take it to the jeweler and they will buy it, but she has to buy a ring that matches the price of the old ring. If she says no to that, trash the ring.
2007-08-09 16:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is all your mother-in-law offered, I would not necessarily take it to mean the ring was used. It could just be that she is taking the high road and refusing to get involved with issues that concern only you and your husband.
2007-08-09 17:46:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋