I got married immediately after graduating college at the age of 23. I was always a wild man, and I enjoyed cavorting with my friends. I met my wife as a sophomore in college and quickly fell in love. I cheated several times regrettably, but only in a one-night-stand. We got married and moved so I could start medical school. Everything seemed great. I was still sexually attracted to other women, but never cheated, alcohol or not. After my first year of school, I went away for the summer to do military training and I met and made friends with another woman, a medical student also in the military. We only hung out on occasion. Despite partying like a rock star with my military peers during the training, I did not cheat on my loving wife at home. I returned and finished a year of school, and then I met that girl again randomly on a school event...the mutual attraction was obvious. We fell for each other. She has a boyfriend of 3 years with intent to marry...we are both confused
2007-08-09 08:36:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously you're not old enough to be married in the first place. If you cannot control yourself, then you're simply not mature enough to put yourself in that situation. If you want to go **** other women while you're married, then there's already a problem.
Your, quite honestly, best bet would be to talk it over with your wife and tell her you're just too young to commit, because you are. Don't put that woman through the pain of constantly cheating on her. Do you have any idea what that does to her? It makes her feel worthless, unwanted. As though she's not good enough for you, even though she's trying as hard as possible to make you happy.
But that's not enough, and you want more. Please, at least don't hurt that poor woman whom you did not mistakenly marry, but she mistakenly married you, any more than you have to.
2007-08-09 08:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Cyril Maize 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am living exactly the same problem, I got married with 27... It happened, I cheated on my wife and I am totally in love with this girl. The thing is that when I am with this other woman I don't feel guilty, not even afterwards. I feel guilty that I don't feel guilty, kinda sounds weird, but that's how it went with me. They are all gonna say men are all ****faces, like most people rammed on me on my other question. It's the only time I've done it, and to tell you the truth it was more out of love than sexual attraction, because my wife is actually hotter.
I don't want to influence anybody, evaluate everything on every angle and side possible. And if you are having serious doubts, don't go out with this girl and get drunk, it will be impossible to resist.
2007-08-09 08:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by jaypappo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm one of the thousands that will say don't cheat on your wife, but at the same time no one deserves to be in a fake marriage. have you ever heard the expression "love isn't enough"? what you need to figure out is if you love your wife,or if your in love with your wife. there is a big difference! If your in love with her, you should stop talking to this woman, cause it's just puts you in a bad position. If you love your wife, but only there cause you feel you have to be then you need to leave. it's not fair for her to give all, and take partial from you..unfortunatly these things happen.
I was married at 16 so i don't think your age matters! I have been happily married for 6 years! Is this love or lust with woman? Good luck, and hope you find the answers you need.
2007-08-09 08:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by myliemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say to this. Being young is no excuse my husband and I got married at 18. If you want to be with this person then be with her. Stop treating your wife like crap. What did she do to deserve this? She made her commitment and is keeping it. You obviously don't want to. You need to let your wife go so that she can find a man who honors his word. I have a hard time believing you'll be faithful to this other woman either. You clearly have a history of being dishonest, partying and treating woman as objects. I'm not trying to insult you seriously. I'm just being blunt, because you seem to think that you are somehow justified because you married young? I don't think there is any justification for cheating. If you want someone else and refuse to honor your commitment than your wife deserves to know
2007-08-09 08:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so here is the deal I married at the age of 20 I had a child and we lived happy for about 8yrs. Niether of us cheated but we both were falling out of that fun exciteing love. I still love my ex husband In a differant way! I fell in love with a guy about 4yrs ago I worked with him for about 6 yrs! We played softball together and shared the same veiws on everything we talked about. I ended up leaving my ex for this man and I am still with him and happier than ever! I just followed my heart and it seemed to take me in the best direction!!! Good luck hun
Jessica
2007-08-09 08:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jesika V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are intentionally keeping this from your wife, she may be very hurt when she finds out. My suggestion is, maybe you aren't ready to be married. (what makes you think this new woman will be different than the one you are married to now??) Maybe you rushed into getting married, but you chose your wife for a reason. Why don't you give up the partying and wild times and devote yourself to your wife for one year without going out or thinking about other women? You may decide you like being married after all.
Or get a divorce and have fun. No need to drag your wife through all this crap.
2007-08-09 08:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by famysx17 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Marrying young is not really all that relevant, what is are you in love with this other woman or the idea? Everyone married or otherwise still is sexually attracted to other people as per human nature but wanting to set up house with them is different. Have you really thought through the implications and it might not be that sweet when you live together day in day out with a mundane routine.
2007-08-09 08:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really creepy that you think you are so great. You aren't confused.. you are creepy. You are a selfish cheat..but hey, who cares, right? You met someone else just like you in your new girlfriend. Have at it. I'll bet your wife doesn't even have a clue because you are probably so slick.
It's just so gross. You probably read your little paragraph a few times checking for spelling errors ..and never even noticed your greatest error.. that you failed to grow up and learn to love others as you want to be loved... except that in a weird way..you have .. since you found a girl equally as creepy as you to have sex with while cheating on her fiance while you cheat on your wife. The two of you deserve each other. Go for it.
Do all of us who read junk like yours a favor. be merciful to your wife. Be honest.. give her anything she wants from the wreck you made of the marriage.. and then never bother her ever again with junk later like " Oh baby i love you please take me back". Thats just disgusting to even think of but the way you present yourself..I believe you just might do it!
2007-08-09 08:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by jokerthefreak1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have got a tough decision to make!!!!
what you are feeling for this other girl may just be lust,do you really want to lose your wife over this person,sometimes peole are attracted to others because of what ye have in common
how would you feel if you left you wife for this woman and realised she was not the person for you,how would you feel about breaking your wife's heart !!!!!!
i think you really do love your wife because you didn't cheat on her ,when you could have
maybe you are just feeling tied because you were married so young and it gave you a new burst of energy knowing somebody else fancied you
I say think with your heart and head before you make any decisions,don't act too quickly and live to regret them
good luck
2007-08-09 08:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by starrygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before doing anything think twice since now u are a married man plus what is about her that ur wife doesn't have... Just stay away from her and don't try ruining lives....
2007-08-09 08:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by kajal c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋